Unconfortable with getting fingered

I have a friend beth who is a tease.. and does it constantly.. so the other night i called her on it.. i told her that lets really have sex instead of just teasing each other talking about it.... she got really uncomfortable and didnt want to talk about it any further.. i kinda pushed why not but not too bad.. and she confessed that she is really uncomfortable with the idea since her last BF.. it turns out that he fingered her way to hard and that put a fear of it in her.. but i assured her that not all guys do that and that if her and i were to sleep together that i wouldnt be gentle and work up to things.. and withever she doesnt want to do we wont.... anyone got advice on this.. like what else can i do to make her feel good about it.

 

let her come around in her own time

 

Dude, just drop your pants and say "OPEN WIDE"
haha no no, serriously freking heer with your nuts is not a good idea.

Maybe suggest cuddling. Or DRY HUMPING

 

give her time........

 

promise her that you will only use your tongue and, later, your penis. Neither can be as damaging as a selfish finger. Later you might point out that the guy was not having sex - he was doing violence. Be nice, be gentle, and lick lovingly.

 

Tell her that you only want to play with her clit.. if she's actually up for doing stuff with you then she'll prolly love that.

 

Just be assured that you'll get to a point where women in your life are wanting it worse than you and they'll let you know as blatantly as you've wanted them to your entire life. Honestly, if it doesnt happen in a natural progression without even thinking about what you are doing, she's probably not ready.

Never give up hope. Communication is always a prerequisite for any relationship.

CachedOut

 

Get her drunk.

 

or stoned first, right on toolmaggot, lol

 

I have to agree with Weeble, since clitoral stimulation can make a woman wet enough to be able to enjoy taking a finger or two....(or more....). But definitely do not put her under any pressure to do anything because the more a woman feels uncomfortable about something, the less likely you'll be able to coerce her into actually doing it.

 

have you thought about the possibility that she might not want to shag you at all

 

Promise her you will cut your nails!
The other jerk most likley didn't...or start out with your tounge....if you do that right--she wouldn't care if you drive a truck up her!

 

Then there's that!
You could be JUST a Friend. You know be there for me-be my emotional support and a real sweet sensitive guy...but after I hang out with you let me go screw that nasty guy!

 

why wizarddrew that almost sounded sacastic lol.. i agree.. im mostly looked at just the friend.. but i do want more then that.. i need more then that.. i have plenty of friends that are girls and most of them i wouldnt want to sleep with.. but there are a few i would

 

Sorry Man it was-I have been in your shoes many times and I call it - THE LADDER!
When we have female friends they put you on Ladders.
One is the Friend Ladder and then there is the Lover Ladder.
If we are on the Friend Ladder you are not going to have sex with her.
If you are on the Lover Ladder. You will!
Also you can NEVER jump from one Ladder to another once they have you on one.
If you end up having sex with her-you were never on the Friend Ladder.

I had so many Female friends where I was on the non sex ladder and got tired of hearing all their Problems and Dramas!
How this guy hurt them ... what this guy did to them. I was the Emotional DILDO for many.
One night a friend of mine called me at 3am and woke me up crying because she did not Cum with her bad boy date.
So she called me for her support and to be her Emotional Dildo so she could. I hung up on her and (Yes ladies u will hate me) now I NEVER give female friends in these situations ANY emotional Support ... Unless I get laid!
Our roles as Men in Relationships with Women has become this over the past years.
It's actually switched and we are on the and that they were years ago.
They get their emotional support from the nice sensitive guy and have that other guy who is more the sex role.
Go to any public place and look at MARRIED COUPLES-the dude will be kind of good looking but not really hot. The nice secure and safe provider. She will usually look much hotter and you will say..WTF is she doing with him. Most times the Wife will be having an affair with the Pizza guy or the guy who fixes her car. The Bad Guy lover.
It's also why most Women will do anything to fuck a Rock Star. But would never think of marrying one.
How to beat it?
BE BOTH GUYS!
It's all about balance and what we have to change in how we are as Men in Relationships.
I hope it works out for you or even better that you meet a chick who doesn't come up with bullshit excuses as to why she will not share something special with a great friend and maybe see where it takes you both.
Peace The Wiz

 

Not all women are like that. Look at me. I'm completely single because of this. I won't date the bad boys. As soon as I find out they are the "stereo-typical bad boy", I usually lose interest unless their bad boy persona is just a defense mechonism. Most of my ex's weren't that great looking either. I go mostly after personality. Looks are secondary.

 

I'm sorry I did not say that ALL Women are like that-The one who is my fiance sure isn't and that's why she is my Fiance.
Dating does not make you single either. Actually single is dating.

 

Well, technically, I've only been on one date in my life and he was just a friend. Go figure. And when I say I'm single.. it means I'm not even currently dating. I dunno, in my mind I put dating in the same catagory as relationships, just less serious. I guess taking it as seriously as I do is one reason why I don't get asked out too much. I'm just a one man woman, I guess.

 

Good luck with all that!

 

It took time fore me with my first current bf cuz I was sexually harassed this past school year....