Is this weird

I know this is a pretty juvenille question, but do you think it's weird for a junior in high school to date someone in the 8th grade? keep in mind that the junior is only 2 years older than the person in the 8th grade.

 

Where I live, if the two people are under 18, thats ok. If either one is over 18 and the other isnt, thats not OK. Outside of those two stipulations, I don't see why its a problem, and if we didnt have laws, it wouldent matter at all to me!

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I think it's a little sketchy. 8th graders probably shouldn't be dating anyone, let alone a 17 year old. 13-14 year olds are generally about as immature as humans can get. There is actually a big difference in the life experience and personalities of a 13-14 year old and a 16-17 year old. Age is NOT just a number.

Walk away from this one dude.

 

well, this 8th grader happens to be a very mature girl for her age, just as mature as most girls I know in my grade

 

They do say that girls mature a year or two faster than males, though I do think that this an utter crock of shite. If you really think you're on the same level, then go for it.

I don't think I've met a single 8th grader in my life that was honestly ready for a relationship, especially one of a sexual nature.


anyway, your friends are gonna harrass the shit out of you

 

yeah....I'm ready for that...

 

SpasticSofa did bring up a good point that I forgot about. This one is simple.

It sucks to have a girlfriend that can't drive.

At least I think it sucks, I dated a girl that was 18 but she didnt have a car, and it totally sucked, not to mention she still lived with the rents, double wammy!

I am lazy though.

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Well I do believe that the "maturing two years earlier" bit is referring to maturing in the physical sense and not the mental sense. Correct me if I am wrong.

 

Many try to imply that girls are more mentally mature. That's the part that I was refering to as shite. Girls tend to act grown up at an earlier age by their actions, but they're still just as immature. It's sad when you see 14 year old girls talking about the last wild party they went to while all hoochied up in their new Hollister outfit with their big hoop earrings and 50 layers of make up.

 

yes I say listen to this man he is on tonight
I was one of those girls ...always out and always attracting the "older" guys
now you are only a couple of years older but I say nay...let her grow as yourself as well...

 

Anyhow, I agree with what you said, in the context you presented it!

 

agree with who? the quote function works great, ya know..

 

indeed. she deserves the chance to grow up at a normal pace. she may seem more mature, but just let it be dude. If she's so great, you'll still be able to look her up in a few years.

btw, I'm not knocking your impulse. When I was 17 there were definitely a number of 14 year old girls that I would have loooved to hook up with, but it's just not the best thing in the long run. Just 'cause they've got tits and a bush doesn't mean they're actually ready.

 

Unless you're ridiculously immature or she's terrifyingly mature, you're a fucking weirdo.

I personally have never met anybody in junior high that is anywhere near the same level as a high schooler.

Whatever. As long as she sucks you off and does a good job, it's cool.

 

hmmm....

 

Toolmaggot, you seriously need to open a business that is an education facility instructing your philosophy and methods. If every woman thought the way you did, the world would be a much happier place. You would make millions while making the world better, how can you top that?!

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Well, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but girls who are "incredibly mature for their age" tend to end up just being little girls pretending to be women. I always was told I was extremely mature for my age, but the actual truth was I had no idea what was going on when I was in 8th grade. Another reason I say this is my best friend is 16 years old and was engaged to a 20 year old who thought she was "extremely mature for a 15 year old." They lasted a year, but they made each other miserable. He realized in the end she was just too immature for him. While I'm on this point, my boyfriend is 22, I am 18, but those two years of difference (from the time I was 16 and he was 20 to now) have given room for me to mature. Basically the point I'm trying to make is, there is nothing wrong with dating someone younger than you, but give it a year or two, let her mature a little more. You might not care about your reputation, but do keep hers in mind. People do not often look highly upon junior high kids getting into serious relationships of any sort. Give it awhile, if it's meant to be, it will be. Just be patient and let her grow up a little more.

 

well...the thing is, this girl is one of my best friend's sister, so I know her well. and before you say anything else, my friend found out about it and is fine with it.

 

Then fuck her.

Ten years from now when she has four kids, no husband, chain smokes, and is on welfare with a drinking problem, look back and think, "Damn. That was a tight pussy."

 

someone brought up that it sucks to have a girlfriend who can't drive... there are a LOT of things like this when dating a girl in middle school (at least in every instance i'm familiar with, 8th grade is middle school).

• you're not going to get to see an R-rated movie with her... and she can't come out with you and your friends to see an r-rated movie.
• she probably won't be allowed out on school nights, and she'll probably have a 9:00 cerfew.
• you're possibly going to have some hassles. your friends will tease you about dating a middle school aged girl, and if parents/teachers hear, CPS might be called to investigate, to make sure she's not 12.
• say you go for it, and things end up working out.. what happens when you turn 18 and she's still under age? are you going to become a "sexual preditor," or are you going to dump her? that sounds harsh, but it happened to a friend of mine, and now he's a registered sex offender.
• she's your good friends sister, so you probably have some sort of rapport with the parents... and you're gonna blow that by going after their baby girl.

on the other hand, if you really care about her, you won't mind always picking her up, the movies won't matter, the teasing won't phase you... etc. the cerfew and having to put up with her not being allowed to go out (as late) and do a lot of things might be trying.