how do you know when a girl wants to be fingered....its not really been a problem till now with my new gf and she is kinda prude ....anyways what should i look for to see when she is ready...i just dont want to be aggresive and push it on to her
you could ask her!!!!!!!! if your looking for body language when you are getting down to it, for example look out for her moving closer to you, things like the, talk to her though and ask her if thats what she want's.
Well first, don't go straight for the pussy first without doing other stuff. It needs to be kind of a progression, like starting with kisses, French kisses, feeling the boobs, sucking the nipples, etc. If you've gotten to this point, and she still seems to like it, then start getting your hand close to her pussy. Then get it so close that you almost can touch it. If she is not ready at that point, she'll likely close her legs, and may pull away a little, or something like that. If she's ready, she may even slightly open her legs. You just have to read her cues. If you think she's ready, just really gently touch the outside with your finger. Then go from there. Don't be too fast and aggressive at first. If you do this right, by the time you get a finger inside, her pussy will be nice and juicy and ready for action. I don't think you should actually ask her if she wants to be fingered. That may be too embarrassing a question for her to answer honestly, and may very well turn her off. Just do it the way I suggested.
Benj gives some very good advice here, but before you even get to that, be sure to ask her to tell you if you've overstepped your boundaries. You definitely don't want to go too far too quickly, it may mess things up big time. As long as she knows that there is no pressure and she can tell you to stop whenever she feels she needs to, then she should be comfortable. You never know, she may be a very sexual person and have a lot of urges and she may want you to just go ahead and do it, that's always how I was, but it was definitely nice to feel I could tell them to stop and they would.
i usally rub them around there on the OUTSIDE of their pants first and see if they are into that. if so then i kind of improvise. try that.
Why not take turns at being in control. Her first, since she's a little apprehensive. Say to her, that if she wants, she can take your hands and put them wherever. I think there's more of a chance at her doing this than you doing it. Ask her where she would like to touch you. You have to take it slow, otherwise you'll scare her off and she'll never trust you.
I'm not so sure I would actually ask such a question. I completely understand what you're saying about going too far too quickly, and he definitely needs to keep that in mind and avoid it. He mentions that she's kind of a prude, so if he does go too far too quickly I'm sure she's going to let him know that right away, maybe not verbally, but if he's paying attention he'll get the cues. Asking a question like that, imo, is similar to asking like, "Is it OK if I kiss you?" and sends the message that you're unsure of yourself. You can ask something like that by your actions. Just like a girl can say "no" by her actions. Everything doesn't have to be verbalized.
Excellent advice - I also think things should be further along before much frank talking is done about sex. Just pay attention to her body language and be ready to back off and give her more time. After you have done that a time or two, she will know you will stop without a word having to be said. It has been my experience that talking about sex is a late stage in a relationship. However, I am often wrong.
that's not true... all the woman i've talked to really enjoy it and i know i do... i don't know about all women, but i'm pretty sure most of them like it..
That's true, the only reason I said that was because every guy I've ever been with at all (sexually or not) has asked me to tell him if I felt we were pushing it too far and I responded well to that. It made me feel like he wasn't just taking over and not letting me have any say in it. I don't know, different girls respond to different things, but I'd definitely rather have a guy maybe look unsure of himself and ask me if it's okay to proceed than to just go right ahead and make me feel like I had no say in it. But you do make a good point, not everything has to be verbalized, and you can say stuff through actions. Just as long as those actions aren't rushed, you don't have to worry about outright asking.
Fuck that broad. If she hasn't sucked your dick yet, she's not worth it. Ahem. Just pull her pants down and dive in. She's your GIRLFRIEND. If she doesn't want you to, then her vagina must be broken.
I love you so much - you can always be counted on for the most absolutely MAD comments. I always laugh my ass off. Please keep up the good work.
