I get cold sores a couple times a year. My lady is afraid that I give the fever blisters to other set of lips if I munch while having a breakout. I've had these since a little kid and they don't bother me. Is she right?
yup, especially for a week or two after you have had a break out, and a few days before hand, your skin is still shedding those cells
I guess once she gets it, then I have nothing to worry about. I wonder how my past girlfriends are doing because I've always loved some cat.
you wfie os absolutely riht the infection can pass to her and your kid so do extra care in all these cases you dont want to infect your wife do you
alright im going to take a deep breath and share this with you... hardly anyone knows... I contracted this through ORAL. My boyfriend had them since he was a child(I want to add I never saw a sore on his mouth, I couldn't tell he had them). I never knew until it happened to me that this is a way to get herpes. Actually I thought maybe it was my exs fault but then my boyfriends test results and further ones on mine came back. Its called type one. Your childern can get it while being born if you arent monitored and using medication daily during your 3rd trimester. If you have a breakout you'll have a c-section. You'll have to have protected sex with your wife for the rest of your life if you don't want it. To tell you the truth it hurts like hell. I had a really hard time coping with this being that I was always very careful with sex and who my partners were ect, I never slept around, I never had a one night stand, pretty much I was cautious and aware. I felt dirty and like less of a person afterwards. Even though you enjoy doing this maybe you should stop. No matter how much I enjoyed it I would trade anything in the world to have back my normal sexual activity with the man I will be spending the rest of my life with. Now things won't be the same again. No sex during breakout time incase it spreads and rubs onto him somehow(he doesn't have it gentially). I really have to watch out about stress too because that brings it on. It honestly just puts a damper on everything and can endanger your future childern(it can cause braindamage in babies born to mothers with it and not taking proper precautions). Please no neg. comments on this guys, I'm still dealing with this and its been HARD. This is probably the most embarrassing thing I have ever revealed and I'm only doing it to warn you so it doesn't happen to anyone else.
*hug* its okay earthy mama and as far as i understnad it, it is possible but its rather rare. there are two types oral type one and genital type 2 genital sores can exist on the mouth but thats rare, oral sores can exist on the genitals but thats also rare. if your mouth is infected chances are over time you'll infect her mouth, not her genitals but that doenst mean it can't happen...also due to antibodies, if you have herpes type one, its harder to contract type two, and vice versa. of those people who said that they're oral herpes infected someone else genitaly, or that someone elses orla herpes infected them genitally, its jsut as likely that who ever had the oral herpes actually had genital herpes (type 2) located on their mouth and thats why it was so easy to transfer to the genitals.
I did too, so now both me and my wife have it. Honestly, it's no big deal. Earthy Mama, I don't know if I can make you feel better or not, because everybody's situation is different, but I want you to know that I have it, my wife has it, and we have absolutely normal sexual activity. She had a cold sore on her mouth one time when she gave me oral. It caused me to get genital herpes, and then I spread it to her genitals as well. I don't know if it's type 1 or type 2, no one has ever told us, but I don't see that it makes any difference. I have an outbreak about twice a year. She has one about 3 times a year. For each of us, it's just a little sore that lasts about 5 to 7 days. When it happens, we either just abstain from sex, or I put on a rubber and try to be careful. We're not afraid of passing it back and forth, since we already have it anyway, it's just that the little sore is painful to touch or rub. Really, it is no big deal at all. We don't worry about it, and at worst it's only an inconvenience, especially if we're real horny at the time. Also, I forgot to mention, when we do have the outbreaks, we usually use Zovirax, which is a prescription medication that makes it go away quicker. I guess if you're not in a monogamous relationship like I am, having this little problem might be awkward, since (1) you don't want to give it to anyone else, and (2) if you tell anyone you have it, unless they also have it, they'll probably freak out. Some people obviously think it's the end of the world to get this, but it's not. I think a lot of the fear is just from ignorance. Btw, I honestly don't think it can be spread during periods when you don't have an outbreak - no matter what some people say. Information like that - which I think is just unproven theory - is what makes people think they can never have normal sex again if they have it, and puts such a negative stigma on having herpes.
thanks for the info. Its type one and he only has type one from his mouth so I'm guessing it was spread via cold sore. I'm just emotional and pregnant. I've been given this scary ass paper a when I was first told (shocked out of my mind because its a monogamus relationship and I had no idea yet) about how my child can be severely hurt and so on. Anyway, I have to go on medication my whole last trimester and if I don't break out before I go into labor I can give birth vaginally. Thats the only big deal to me. I just wanted this to a nice natural birth like my others. Surgery scares me to death. Anyway, I'm not too worried about any of it as much anymore... we already know we want to spend the rest of our lives together.
