It's been how long?!!!!!

Too long....toooooooo friiiiiiggin' loooooooong

 

FallenFairy...you need to leave now. If you're staying with a man you're not IN love with then...well it's not brain surgery. That's not the way to live your life, doll. And you're engaged to marry this guy? A guy who would rather masturbate than make love to his woman? Ugh...


Don't be afraid to be alone. You can do it. You can make it work one way or another. But one thing you can't do is feel this unloved and undesirable the rest of your life.

Sex, to me, is a huge part of a relationship. Once the sex stops, then resentment and hard feelings build up. That's when things start going down hill. Sex is supposed to be a way of connecting and truly being with someone you love on physical and spiritual levels. Plus, when people are feeling pleasure, it's a happy situation all around...haha. Although sex isn't everything, a relationship without it, in my opinion, is in trouble.

And, btw...Heron, the way you describe your wife and your relationship is truly beautiful. What a beautiful man you seem to be

 

I think if you're only 19 you should get out of that relationship before it self destructs, that's my thoughts on this. This is now, and you're disgusted and giving up a good orgasm, imagine 10 years down the road how fucking shitty you'll be feeling.

 

can anyone say.... Gigalo?

 

rent a tounge ....there should be like a temp service like that ....

 

Okay, I dont know how to say this, but if your b/f or husband isnt pleaseing you, after you have a sit down conversation, and you cant get him to understand your feelings... all due respect, your being played for a fool, quit doing the house work and the laundry, because basically, you became his mother.

My b/f and I have a perfect understanding, i do for you, you do for me, and we do for each other. If he wants his dick sucked, I want to be eaten.

so ladies, if you think its going to get better and hasnt by now, 8 months, 16 months..... its your life, i wouldnt last 16 days.

 

um, damn. its been about... eh, few days-a weekish for the oral, about 9 hours since the sex. <3

 

I think that is abosolutly hilarious!!!!

 

4 months, well that is not really that long. you just had a child as well, you know when a women has a child her bio-chemistry make up is thrown out of whack. because of the added hormones of breast feeding as well as your seratonin levels are fluxuating, doctors say that up to 16 months can pass before a woman is back in the same bio conditioning as before the baby was born. this effects all areas of life, including the sex life. give your body time to get use to not hauling around an 8lb package. as for your husband not going down, well i dont know what to say about that, maybe its stage fright, you know that is alot of pressure on a man, it is a tricky thing to tackle, that is if you have never done it before. but what do i know.. good luck with that though.

 

no not four months four years since iany one has wnet down on me and my fiancee i have been with him for 2 1/2 years of that fours years. so do you understand it a it better

 

Are you sure about the custody issue - He does not seem to be too invested in the family right now - why would he want sole responsibility.



No man who is in a committed monogamous relationship has to be bribed to stay monogamous



Everyone who has ever had to break up a relationship fears being alone - somehow after reading your posts I do not think you or your child would be alone long.

 

your pussy gonna fall off if ya dont get it licked !! .....thats like putting the black electrical tape over the 'perform service ' lite , instead of changing the oil n filter .

 

I am so positive about the custody issue i had already told my fiancee if things dont get better soon im leaving. He told me that if i left then he would fight for full custody or half and he said do i really want to put aiden through all that bullshit.

 

So he has made a verbal threat - meant to keep you in line - does not mean he will go through with you - do you have a place to go? Do you have a job or trade that will make money for you and your child? The more I read the worse this guy sounds. I think you should start planning to get in the wind.

 

Hey we should go on a date then or something, you live near IL at all?

 

get the hell away from him. he's bad for you and your child.

 

I know someone in your exact situation, well without the lack of sex, she actually cut him off, but as to worries of her children and all.

She wants to leave him, she isnt in love with him, but she doesnt want to hurt him or the children so she has suffered with it for years.

Dont waist your life. He doesnt deserve you or your children, one day he may become a man, and realize what he lost, but dont waist your time waiting for it.

 

FallenFairy, ground yourself for a moment and imagine the husband that you'd like to be with. Do you laugh together a lot? Do you make love and then fall asleep in each others' arms? Are you supportive of each other, and when he's not around, do you look forward to seeing him? Do you feel simply good and positive when he's around? Do you fight, or do you try to understand each other? Do either of you try to change one another?

I was on the ferry the other day going to see my sister, and there was a couple sitting next to me. They were laughing, smiling and playful together. I asked how long they had been married, and they told me twenty years.
It's possible, babe. In life, you end up getting what you settle for. The other thing is, you're worried about Aiden having a hard time if you leave this guy. Compare the effects of your present fiancee's presence to a husband that you have a loving relationship with. Kids are soooo sensitive. They know when their parents don't have a harmonious relationship, and he probably will have issues about it, right to the point where he starts to have intimate relationships. Your choice will affect his relationships! Out of everything I've learned in life, foremost is that love makes the difference. It changes everything, from how fast the tired wrinkles form on your face, to how peaceful your child is.
What do you really feel is the right thing to do?

 

Hey FF--check out the very last picture on page one of this link:

http://hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=107877&page=1&pp=10

 

I am new here so hello everyone! I just went through a divorce about two months ago with a lot of the same stuff going on. I used to be a DJ at a local club and had been doing that for about a year. My ex would accuse me of cheating "because i could" whenever i would go to work. Now I do admit there was a lot of women there but I never would have or did do it. Well come to find out she was cheating on me.. I guess i should have known when she cut me off and was really distant. We have two wonderful children and even though she cheated on me I never pulled the "I am going to get full custody of the kids" thing. Actually if anything this has made my kids and I a lot closer. Don't get me wrong this whole thing sucks and at the moment I hate life but I know later on it will be for the better.
Neither of us were happy and we were just going through the motions for the kids. But the thing about that for us was that there was always this uneasy tention between us. So it actually hurt my relationship with the kids. I was always irratable and such.
As far as how long it's been 4 months.. Too unsure in the head to go out looking for anyone..