How would you feel...

Just wondered how you guys would feel about this...

I've been with my girlfriend on and off for about 2 years. She is quite similair to me in that shes outgoing and flirty etc.

We had conversation the other night about how many people we'd slept with and I was quite shocked wen she said she wasn't sure but maybe around 20ish.

I never thought it would be that many...

Now I think whenever she's out without me she's sluty and comes onto guys.. my heads fcuked with it.

I don't know what to make of it.

 

so long as shes not breaking your trust and doing things with other people behind your back, so long as shes staying within the established limits of your relationship, i'd say its your problem more than hers.

you know what? my first gf....i was a virgin, she had had oral sex with more people than your girls estimate, though she never -willingly- had intercourse with anyone until i came along...she even kept a list so she'd know how many it was. kinda wierd, yeah. and thats a lot of people (it was in the thirties)...but she was tested before we slept together, and i never had reason to believe she was ever with someone without my consent while we were together....so it really was never an issue. i never thought of her as a slut, and though the thought now sometimes crosses my mind once in a while, i know its an irrational and hurtful thing to say about somebody, she just lives differently than i do and had a much more wild past, but a tamer present than i had. i never really cared, so long as she was good to me and didnt cheat on me.

so you dont have as much experience as her, big deal.

do you love her? thats all that should matter.

 

What nesta said and I've had this problem myself before. Dwelling on girlfriends' PAST experiences. What I learned and how I got over it is I kept telling myself that it is in fact in the past and that's where it should stay. There is nothing I could do to change it now so look ahead and move forward. If the trust is there between you 2 then it's all good.

 

It would bother me too much to accept it. My gf hasn't been with anyone else and this fact is so precious to me.

I guess I'd only be cool with her having previous lovers only if I had no feelings for her.

 

well unless you're with her the rest of your life you're up shit creek, unless you want to date teenagers later on

 

*looks around*

You'd never want to date me then, OP...

*gets outta dodge*

 

hell, i'm actually really glad my first love was with so many people before me. she taught me a lot about the art of the oral, and i've only had VERY good responses....make that very very good, actually.

we were both new to sex though, and i've not been with many people still, so i'm a little self conscious about my technique in that regard...hell, at least i can get a girl off though, and thats more than a lot of guys can say for themselves (honestly that is)


i mean, i don't know what people's problems are, but i've heard a good number of guys refuse to even give a girl head?? wtf is that all about? from what i understand only 30% of women can orgasm from penetration alone, and most of those girls take a long time that way, too, so oral sex is just something any self respecting heterosexual man should be able to do. its probably one of my favorite things about sex....no, about life......mmmm........

ok, i better stop before i need alone time


anyway, you learn more from experienced people, and getting better in bed is ALWAYS a good thing for all parties involved...

 

She says I should trust her and that she only wants to be with me but I have a demon in my head thats saying she's fcuking with whoever. I wana trust her but I have doubts. I love her, she is the most special girl I've ever met but my head works overtime when she's out and I'm not.

 

Hey nesta...I can teach you a thing or two *grins* Come on over! *giggles*

 

This has nothing to do with how many partners she has had...this has to do with your insecurities and personal demons.

You'll push her away if you keep it up, brother.

 

yeah, if you can't stop being so jealous and suspicious of her then eventually you'll lose her because of your attitude or shell find someone else that makes her feel as good as you do - but better because he wont suffocate her with jealousy. trust me, even if she DID sleep with other people, if she meets someone she'd leave you for she'll do it whether shes sleeping with other people than you or not. its a completely unfounded insecurity. change needs to come from you, not her. or you need to find a mormon girl or something...someone that wont mind you being controlling/jealous/possessive/dominant or whatever.

 

and annie, i'm just down here in ohio

 

WHAT???

Hell, what am I doing sitting home on a Saturday night then? LOL

 

hell if i know! i'm in the columbus area, actually, so michigans a grip away

 

All the cool people live in Columbus...or used to...

I go to school at the University of Toledo...

I could make it there in...THREE hours

LOL

 

haha, any state parks between here and toledo? i'll meet you half way with a tent and some pot

actually, i have a pretty lame night planned but whatever


and i dont think this would work out unless i got to see something more than that pic of your ass (though its cute, its not all thats important )

 

LOL...I'll let you touch my nipple!

Ooooooo tent, pot, campfire, cuddling...

Hmmmm....oh so tempting...

 

pff....is that all? shit, i've got some of my own. think you just ruined everything! haha

 

Ok, Ok, Ok...

I'll let you...hmmm...I'll let you lick BOTH of my nipples...

I know you probably can't do THAT to yourself!

 

i've got two hands!