Try to help me if you can because I just realized that way more often than not, I don't want to go out and do stuff with people. It seems like so far in my whole life, with the exception of a very small few, I haven't truely liked anyone that wanted to hang out with me. A lot of people just plain annoyed the hell out of me, while also some of them had little things about their character that I just couldn't stand to be around. I don't think I'm depressed or anything. I'm just wondering if anyone else has felt (or feels) like this, I could really use some words of wisdom.
I dunno, I hate lots of people that think they are my friends and stuff, I'm starting to not be able to stand the dude that's suppossed to be my best friend....
"I'd never join a club that would allow a person like me to become a member." Woody Allen You just reminded me of that quote, hehe.
It was just a joke , 'cause when quoted as I did, it sounds like the reason why you don't like them is because they wanna hang out with you... and that reminded me of Woody Allen's quote.
Maybe you are just a loner, an introvert.... I realize I am the same way. I don't like to hang out with very many people because I feel like we don't connect on a very deep level and I hate that. I feel like most of the time, people just dont understand me, my motives, actions, morals, etc. I have like one friend, besides my boyfriend and family, that I truly enjoy hanging out with. Besides, I don't think its the number of friends you have that matters ...its the depth of the relationships that you DO have that matters. As long as you are happy, who cares? I personally enjoy not having a very large social group because it leaves more time for *me*. Friendships need to be given time and energy and it seems to me that if you have a LOT of friends, that leaves very little me-time. No thanks.
I'm not a loner, I happen to like being around people, but people are so self centered and selfish that I prefer to be around the only person I can count on to be there for me- myself. Selfishness is a part of human nature that gets more obvious with age. As a child, we try to do anything we can to feel accepted and liked. We also try to compromise our own feelings as to not piss off the person who has a desk next to you. As we get older, we care more about our own feelings and values and don't compromise them for anyone. It gets harder to meet people and truely like them. For example, I absolutely will not blow people off. I think that's an awful trait. If I would rather not do something I will come right out and say it. A lot of people think that it is better to tactfully decline by saying, "maybe. I'll call you and let you know" and not call, hoping they get the hint. I find that really rude and refuse to go out of my way to be nice to anyone who is flakey.
i can't stand most people. i have a few friends that i actually like, most other people i just tolerate. and of those few friends only one is like me in being selective over who i choose to hang out with. all the others always want to go to the pub all the time and hang out with a bunch of people who smile with their mouths and not their eyes, and who sit there and talk shit about themselves and pretend to be interested in what other people are saying, when in reality they are just waiting for their turn to talk more about themselves. i hate bullshitters like that, i just can't hang out with them. when i talk to them they just seem hollow and empty, as if they are a body being driven around by some essence that is purely interested in how they appear to others. excuse me, but the last time i checked i'm not in this life thing to please others with my appearance or what fucking bands i can smother praise upon with a variety of slang words that are fashionable for about a week. if they don't like me, then fair enough, but i can't imagine how SO MANY young people have managed to grow up to become such soulless fucking losers.
That's pretty much the way I feel. I just feel there are very few people that actually appreciate my thought process/personality. Sure, I talk to a lot of people, but mainly it's just your simple social conversation. It seems I can never share my ideas with others...it's rather frusterating. There will always be others that you'll connect with, though. Keep that in mind.
I only have one really good friend and some 'aquaintances' that I hang out with sometimes... I'm really harsh in my judgement of potential friends and probably miss out because of it. I'm also pretty introverted and don't feel a great need to meet people. As long as you're happy with your life, I wouldn't be overly concerned about the NUMBER of friends you have- the quality and depth of each friendship is more consequential.
I'm a bit of a misanthropist in general... I can't tolerate hypocrisy, self-absorption and manipulation so that pretty much wipes out most of the population. What's the role of a friend anyway? To be there for the other person? I haven't met too many of those in my time, that's for sure. Everyone seems to talk about themselves and their problems and when it comes to be your turn suddenly they have something better to do. I've learnt to be my own support system. On the other hand, I suck too. I am very hard on people and critical of them. I despise being told what to do by other people, even if it's in my job description, and in the workplace that is just asking not to get along with people. I don't like hanging out with "nice" people - I find them boring. I also cringe at nearly everything I've ever done in my life.
i agree with the fact that in the end you must depend on urself. couple years back in high school, i was the cool, buff, bad azz dude envied by dudes n wanted by chix (& teachers) the 'big man' on campus (without a fukkin car:H ). i was a nice guy, and a critical bastard at the same time which most likely attributed to my 'coolness'. those four years were merely an experiment that taught so much about people though i grew annoyed by the infantile emotion and behavior so i dropped out and added to the statistics. i tried to encourage everybody not to stay in the 'clique' and become drifters to other paradigms besides the ones theyre in or can relate to. after a long while, i learned that people are so brainwashed by society, they forget we're all brother n sister and we should respect each other. everyone was caught up with either their education, their look, materials, where they 'belong', which to me, only makes matters worse in a localized society such as high school, thus causing problems in their future. and the teachers, HOLY SHIT, some are as confused and irresponsible as teens. and christians or wannabes!! acting like their shit dont stink, acting one way FOR THE MOMENT ( this fragment enchants me ), and saying its okay, i'll confess to god and ask for forgivness, that shit really makes me want to kill. it turns off my sympathy, and initiates a plane of macabre thought, knowing that that is why people are so fucked up these days, not necessarily pretending to care, but acting like they do. not being of any religion, i realized i was a free spirit when i was born, as are all babies. but then we coerce a social "standard" of ethics upon them and expect the best. i'm sorry, i'm mad, i'm upset because i've been affected by such facades throughout my whole life and the only reason i'm happy is because i know i'm not alone. as for friends, i believe it takes time before realizing what a true friend is. one friend of mine from 1st grade, i did not even talk that much to in HS because of things each of us went through, except for the occassional "whats up". but at the end of my final year, we met up n discussed what we learned socially/philosophically and realized a real friend JUST feels as if your on locomotives on different trax headed a similar direction regardless of any outside social static, and you dont need to be there all the time but still must stick up for ya buddies. i noticed my homies in a local gang sympathize much more kinship than 'average' people do. if i dont see that fool before i die, i'll still know we both understood whats the deal. "treat others like you want to be treated" was my favorite poster in school when i was younger n i still believe that today. dont inhibit what you want to say or express please. can ne1 expand on this.....
It's nice to have found some people out there who understand How I feel. Hey! maybe once all the idiots have killed each other, we can start up a some sort of a better society!LOL! I call president! Anyway, I agree & think it should be the world wide law that people should treat others the way they would want to be treated.... a lifetime of almost contiunous maltreatment from non-thinking people has left me kind of jaded...I hope someday I'll recover, but if I don't you can rest easy that I won't be going out to bothering anyone else about it. And all I do now focas on going to school...and finding an ideal environment preservation job complete with minimal human contact (these will remain the dominate lovely thoughts that cloud my mind until I can clear a safe distance from this suck situation..or until the suck situation transforms on it's own arccord) I guess it's something...I just wish I knew what. But hey guys, thanks for the renewed hope in mankind. happiness peace love and hope.
i thought i was the only one that felt that way. I often find that the time i spend alone is thoroughly more enjoyable than wasting away the hours at the pub with people who i have nothing in common with apart from being at the same place at the same time. i'm a bit of an introvert and i enjoy spending time on my own.
right on, i'm sincerely happy for you and i dont even 'know' you . best of luck on school and your future, peace
