I am a 27 year old male and the women I am with is 36. this age difference doesn't really matter but We tried hard for the last three years to have a kid. she followed her cycles and we always did it when she felt it was best. Now, after three years of this I am tuckered out and not about to get in the sack again. but I love her and want to be with her. but I guess when you love someone you got to let them go, becouse she still wants baby's and I am not about to go thrue what I have been thrue agan. so what should I do? Also what could be our options at this point other than sticking my rod up her. it's gotten pretty intense with her emotions especially around pms(what she is going thru right now) and is making my life hell but I am nothing without her. please, some advice or similiar stories maybe jahbless mike
you definiately should be seeing a doc for this! There are specialists for fertility. There are multiple reasons for the problem. So seeing someone should happen asap, especially because of her age.
http://www.creatingfamilies.com/ http://www.surrogatemothers.com/ http://www.adoption.com/ http://www.ivf.com/ivffaq.html You should start by seeing a fertility specialist to find out the source of the problem (your sperm, her reproductive system, or both) and then you can find solutions more easily. I posted some websites if you want to take a look. They offer some other options for couples suffering from infertlity. Is she more interested in being a mother or the actual pregnancy and birth experience? Because adoption is always an option. There are SO many children all over the world that need homes! Please see a doc though, before it is too late.
Adoption is a great option. We brought our son home from Guatemala when he was 5 months old. I was 52 at the time and my husband was 34. I agree with the others about seeing a doctor. Both or you should go as you don't know what the reasons are that you're not getting pregnant. My daughter has been going through this now for the last year and a half. They start with the easy stuff and work their way up to more difficult stuff. But it takes time and she's not getting any younger. Although men can reproduce at any age, women are not so lucky. Again if you just want to be parents, think about adoption. Kathi
That's what's she is worried about. She is getting old. but I find her being stubbern when I ask her about adopting or surrogate mother or sperm bank or whatever. She seems to be set on having a child. I am not feeling it if you know what I mean. I gather it must be a women thing and that she is willing to give "us" up just so she can meet someone not half a man I am just so she can have kids. thanks for responses mike
Ummm.... no offense, but... May I suggest marriage councelling? Just seems like that might be a good thing to try. It sounds to me like there are a lot more issues here than kid-less-ness.
Kathi, you are awesome. I am now going to use you as an example of what age is all in your head, and why the fact that I am 8 years older than my man is no big deal!
