Have any of you guys actually failed to perform? As in, you're there, you want it, you can tell she wants it cuz she's dripping wet and then...nothing? Could smoking (cigarettes) possibly be a factor? Or maybe it's just in my head.
well I have wanted to stop doing it becuz I couldnt go anymore, but that was after a 5 hour marathon me and her had. we both smoked cigarettes back then and I dont think that was ever a problem, but ive heard of something like that
Erectile disfuntion? Hmm... If your in the midst of a nicotine buzz you might not be able to get it up...
Although they may not admit it, something like that happens to almost every guy once in a while. However, if it is a regular thing you might want to see your doctor.
i was with my ex it was the last time we were ever going to do it. my cock died right in the middle. i had felt so used that i couldn't finish. i realised i was sacrafising my pleasure for her and i was tired of it.
well the only time that happens to me is ocationally when i use condoms, now i dont have to cause shes on the pill and shes the only one ive ever been with, but ocationally the condom would choke off the blood suply and distract me enoug that i had some trouble staying hard.
Alcohol also affects erections. And not in the good way either... Smoking could cause ED, as nicotine constricts blood vessels. That's not good for keeping hard...
The first time my boyfriend and I were going to sleep with each other, he got nervous and couldn't perform. I think everyone gets it once in awhile. It's not biggie.
Nope. If anything, I've been blessed with the ability to get erect at the slightest erotic provocation -- and I LOVE it. If I am with someone I am attracted to, and there starts to be the slightest suggestion that we're going to get intimate, I get hard. I think it's a function of my powerful imagination being linked to my sex drive. Of course, I also don't do drugs, smoke, or drink much. (Actually, I've never had sex while drunk or even buzzed! Seems most people have, but not me!) Blue skies, -Jeffrey
I haven't ever understood the "get nervous before sex" thing. Even my first time, all I felt was "oooh yeah, we are gonna have funnn!" and it was all about doing just that. Performing? It's not about performing. It's about being there together and enjoying each other. When you look at it that way, you see sex as a delicious smorgasbord and everything sexual you can do is one more delicious entree on the table waiting for you to sample it. I've never walked up to a buffet and gotten nervous about what I was going to eat... Blue skies, -Jeffrey
I'm with you Jeffrey. I don't understand why it's referred to as "performing". Athletes perform. Surgeons perform. Bands perform. Actors perform. Sex is anything but a performance! If a person is nervous before sex because it's their first time, then they should slow down. Don't just rip your clothes off and go at it like a couple of dogs. Leave that for the more experienced folks... In the meantime, enjoy touching and exploring. It can be just as erotic as sex...
