I think the two are confused way too much. I would never date a domineering man but I would never date anyone who wasn't dominant. There's a huge difference and I think a lot of people don't understand it. I talked to an old friend tonight from way back and she's in a relationship right now where the guy is very insecure and as a result tries to control her every move. I think she should give him more power iunt eh relationship. I know I was in a past relationship that was on the rocks and we went to an alternative counselor who reccomend clearer roles. I don't love him anymore and am madly in love with my current bf but like katie I am so struggling with not feeling loved protected or 'under' someone. I'm fine if I'm alone and can handle anything myself but I know that if I go into this thing as an equal I'm not going to be happy and I'll feel like him not caring about me, codeling me and frankly not smaking my ass when I need it will completley ruin things. My friend has the same situation so my relationship problems and the roots of them came to light when discussing her bf-who's kinda icky...he went to our highschool too. I'm not into s and m or anything like that I just don't like bickering and the easiest way to end it is for one person just to take charge-and thast sure as hell isn't freaking me. Anyone else ever been in an alternative relationship?
Dominant = Good. I like me a good ol' dominant man. Try and be domineering with me and I'll bend you over and stick it in your ass. Dry.
okay i'll try. I would never be with a man who tried to dominate me because he felt I was worth less than him or not as important-that would be domineering. But I desire to have my boyfriend dominant in our relationship because he cares about me, loves me and wants to protect me-even if it's from myself. he does not understand this unfortunatley and being the gentle person that he is is afraid to hurt me.
So basically, you dont want a controlling asshole.. but you want defined roles of traditional man and woman? I get what you're saying. Do you think most women are like that, or more inclined to feminism? And honestly if your bf isnt dominant enough for you, he probably never will be. You cant change the nature of a person, only accept it and love it for what it is, or move on.
the thing is that he's very dominant in general yet for some reason reluctant to portray that with me. I think it's because of the women he's dated in the past and how different they were from me personality wise. I love him so it's not the end all of our relationship if he doesn't have it in him but it would prevent a lot of arguing if he could just realize how simple of a solution it would be and kind of in his favor anyway. I think a lot of women are like that. I think I am more than others. i always date older men and am weird in the fact that I'm incredibly in control of every aspect in life but have no desire to within a relationship, in fact it's a turn off.
I like a guy (or gal) who treats me like an equal, but who can take charge when necessary and are confident with themselves. In the bedroom, I want to be dominated and disciplined.
dammit lynsey, stop thinking what I think, and phrasing it exactly how I feel. Jeez. anywho, dominant/pantwearing is hot. trying to control every little aspect of my life, isn't. I think it's mostly because I'm tired of being the pants in every freakin relationship I'm in, be it a friendship or a real relationship.
got everything I wanted and more. I thought it was a sexual thing but realized that i just wanted to feel cared for and my wonderful bf was able to provide that in a very healthy way. I didn't know what I wanted-but he sure did and I am one happy girl and got everything I was looking for
