I'm normally an asshole, but for you...

Anyone else use this technique to their advantage? I find it works wonders. Be a cold reclusive dick but show a chick you like tiny little bursts of your real side. I think chicks must like this (subconsious or not) because its kinda romantic like in the way how movies tell you it is.

 

Ive found that if guys are an asshole around their mates or around other people and only "true" to me i diss trust them more, also it means i cant handle being with them in public. *shrug* but maybe thats just me, i dont find it romantic.

 

It must be...I'm usually attracted to jerks.

 

god damnit- it is attractive for some rediculous reason, but more often than not the 'asshole' facade is no facade at all.

god damn assholes.

er... sorry heh heh

 

Nope...that totally turns me off. Sorry.

 

I don't think calling women chicks helps ethier

S

 

I just act myself around everyone, and noone has told me that Im an asshole and I dont think of myself as being one. Most of the gurls I hang out with dont like the whole asshole act.

 

is that why women seem to like assholes and pass over nice guys? Cause i gotta say it pisses me off how many women say all guys are assholes and then those women keep going out with guys who are obviously dickheads.

anyway, that may get you laid, but its stupid and no way to find love, but if you want to be a dick and maybe get some at the cost of hurting women and being an asshole than go ahead. Using women is wrong.

 

aww gotta love you man

 

I'm a nice guy and there is alot of gurls that like me where I live.......

but so far this si the only place Ive lived that is like that

 

So... the real you is a guy who deliberately uses a ploy of "acting" like a cold, reclusive dick and then selectively "showing" the "real" side which supposedly is the sweet romantic guy?

Why not just admit that the "real" you is the guy who plays this kind of bullshit game, and leave the good "chicks" to the guys who are who they are at all times?

If you're calculating when to show your "real side," then your "real side" IS this fake guy who's putting on an act.

-Jeffrey

 

exactly, sir. as one of those women who falls into EXACTLY that trap, i fucking wonder 'why?'
oog i agree with you entirely. and it makes me nauseas (sp?) to realize i have perpetuated the cycle in the past.

i'll say it again... fuckin... i cant remember what i said

 

yeah ..why is it that people play such games n lies.. its crazy.. the world seems sleeping behind a facade as it is ..why add to it with yet more bullshit to angle or manipulate things the way just one 'wants' things to be.. moooore superficial reality.. life could be so much nicer n simpler if pepz were just straight and stopped playin for sefish intententions... agghh ..there is sooo much that i would like to put here.. but 4now anywaa..sleeeeeeeeeeeep

 

Whoa! Damn! Hostilities back up! Your telling me none of you have ever just wanted sex without a relationship? I find that incrediblly hard to believe. I'm not talking about being a dick in front of your chummers and when you get alone with them, flip on the charm...
Samhain: I call females Chicks, males Bros, and everyone dude. Its my stupid burnout lingo I've developed from switching back and forth between inner city and white suburbia and doing a lot of drugs in both. Not meant to be derogatory in any way shape or form.

Now! I'm not talking about acting in any sense. Lemme ilustrate an example. I'll be at a concert right, and someone pisses me the fuck off (or a group) so I don't take any shit and I do whatever it is I'm gonna do and sometimes that entails being a total asshole to them up to/including/but not limited to the throwing of fists. But then when I'm chilling out I'll talk to a girl and be a normal nice decent person, but can switch right back into berzerker mode again and go kick some ass if you will. I'm not talking about calling girls sluts and then sweet talking one in paticular. Jesus. And how is it using if its all concentual

peacefuljeffrey: I dont know how to say this other than I AM a cold, reclusive dick. Sometimes someone can hit a chord with me and cause me to open up though. I got the way I am because things happen and the guy isn't always the user. I call it the "real" side because I think that everyone has that kinda person inside. It goes down to my philisophical life beliefs. I'm not quite sure what you mean by a game either. I don't view sex or people as games at all... Life maybe, but people and their feelings no. I never make up facts about who I am, what I believe, or watch what I say in case it might disagree. Any time I talk to anyone I'm straight about who I am.

I used the word technique cause anyone who is a cold reclusive asshole (like myself) knows that when you first start talking to someone your impulse is to blow them off, but instead of that, go with the lesser gut feeling and open up a little and roll with it. God damn I didn't think I would be having to explain myself word by word.

 

Yes, YES. This is a 'turn-on' for me and most other girls I know. My boyfriend is a 'bad boy' in every sense of the word (just use your imagination) but has a very soft, sensitive side. I love when he totally takes on the 'bad boy' image when we are intimate. I love when he uses language that most girls would slap a guy for using during these times. I love when he takes control. So, better during intimacy, rather than during every day life, in my opinion!

 

Glad a chick can actually get and dig it

 

My 'bad boy' boyfriend taught this 'good girl' everything she knows....! (And I love it all and I know that any other girl out there would, too, whether they admit it or not.) I'm probably going to get an 'internet' beating for this.....

 

i've had guys do this to me in the past...(way back in ancient history, when i was on the market, so the speak, lol). it mostly just confused me. i could never figure out which guy was the "real" guy.

 

Call me a cynic or whatever, but I don't trust anyone's intentions if they just start talking to me out of the blue. It's much easier for me to assume that someone is an asshole than it is for me to give them the benefit of the doubt. BTW, assholes just piss me off. If I see someone be an asshole with their buddies and then walk over to me and be nice to me, I won't give them the time of day. If someone is so insecure that they have to resort to multiple personality disorder, then they better not come any where near me. I have my own issues to deal with, I don't need anybody elses.

 

^Uhhggggggggggg........ See my explination. Christ... Please step off your riser to. Its hard to hear the speech from way down here