Any hope for big guys?

Exactly!

Its funny because my husband loves cookies. He always says when he is sitting there in front of the tv that if he doesn't eat more cookies he won't be able to keep up his figure for me.

 

Well, i try not to eat to many cookies or i will be too big lol.

good muscular structure can be very forgiving of a little
pudge, but i have to watch out as not to become a tub.

I knew a guy once who was 60lbs lighter than I am,
the same height, but looked like he swallowed a small
cow, weight can be tricky.

 

Ya, thats true.... Im a chubby chaser though... Big is beautiful to me!

 

**beams**

 

well, chubby needs lovin too lol, so i can support your love.

I like small women, but that is a personal preference,
to me, confidence is beautiful, not the physical surface.

 

hehe, notorious BIG makes me laugh. "they say i'm too fat, i'll fuck around and catch an asthma attack....", "catch me if you can like the gingerbread man....". trust him to rap about food.


::slaps self in face:: ok back on topic.


i'm 5"9 and 180 lbs/75kilos/12 stone (almost all muscle). i was always the little kid up to 2 years ago. i was tiny! i started bodybuilding 2 years ago and my confidence increased dramatically. what i'm saying is to do something positive for your body. you don't have to join a gym, just eat 300 calories a day less, eat more protein, go for a 30 minute run 3 mornings a week. do this and you'll see amazing results in a few months. if a girl is just looking at your body she isn't worth your time, but your confidence will increase if you do something like lose weight.


as long as you have a good personality you should be fine. just gain confidence by doing something positive for your body and you'll get noticed.

all the best.

 

i prefer bigger blokes, well as long as they are nice looking and just a nice bloke in general. its the same as women though, alot of my friends prefer a fuller figure woman than a stick. all my ex's have had a tummy i prefer that. dont get me wrong some skinny blokes are nice.

 

my man is on a diet. self imposed. i told him to just cut out refined sugar, he's not overweight, so far as i can tell. i think he's perfect. but he's getting his six-pack back. i guess that's good. but he's so broad and solid!! i love that.

 

i totally agree w/ heron..... there's something comforting about a bigger guy..... i love 'em...... there's a few on here i wouldnt mind havin a turn with

 

yeah, don't stress about high school. Teenage girls can suck (i know, i was one less than a year ago).

I think you sound like a real gem (excuse me, I can't stop talking like a nana at the moment, it's terrible). But anyway, the fact that you are 16 and you want a girl to have an intelligent conversation with is sublime. That alone will make you stand out from the crowd.

Just hang in there, forget about high school - its such a cliquey, shallow place and it really doesn't matter. Also, i don't know what your area is like, but are there any clubs or things outside high school that you could join and meet girls and stuff who share your interests? It sounds kind of gammy and very brady bunch, but once you get past the cringey geekness of being a joiner you might find yourself pleasantly surprised by who you meet (take it from personal experience)

 

Get on a treadmill.


Fat is unattractive. There is no way around it. You WILL have a much better time with girls if you weighed less, that is the sad truth. Either lose the weight, or accept yourself for who you are and learn to accept fat girls. I bet a lot of overweight girls feel the same way, show them some love.

 

It's Your Fault Your Fat!

 

Some people think fat is very attractive, i personally dont, but
who am i to set the standard based on my personal taste.

Some people love fat, dont make your opinion sound like
the norm.

I do think people should try to be more healthy, but
to equate fat to unattractiveness isnt accurate.

 

Well, I hardly consider myself fat. Im 5'3 and I weigh 110lbs, and I love heavier guys. Thats just my preference overall. So I don't think it would be very acurate to say he has to get used to fat girls..

 

I like women small, even tarabeth there is a bit too tall lol

My wife is 5' 110lbs, at 7 months pregnant. very tiny.
she loves my size, i am not "fat" but i have a little extra
on me, which i think is a perfectly healthy state to be in
because i will be the one who makes it in a bad situation.

I dont believe that being bone skinny is any more healthy
that being obese. There is a good medium, certain amounts
of stored fat are necessary.

I know someone who has always been attracted to wirey
guys, but loves my chest and shoulders. Its out of the norm
of her general taste, but hey, she likes what she likes,
when she likes it, attraction isnt based on a rule.

 

and for the record, YellowBellyHippie is HAWT.

love ya woman

 

Allright, DUDE...I usually don't go off on people, especially in the forums, but you're just a ****, plain and simple.

How the fuck is a remark like that supposed to be helpful, dickhead? He asked if there was any hope for big guys. He DID NOT ask for half assed weight loss advice from morons like yourself.

Let me ask you, fucker, have you EVER had a weight problem? My guess is no. Do you exercise daily? I doubt it. There are a lot of people out there, like yourself, who have never been overweight and don't have a fucking clue what it's like to live this way. We are the ultimate minority...we are open season for every tasteless joke, the fat guy is always portrayed as the idiot, or some bumbling fool. No one ever says..."That's not right, you shouldn't make these preconcieved assumptions about a certain group of people".

Yes, being overweight is unhealthy. Regular activity and exercise are good for you, true. I go to the gym 6 days a week, eat as healthy as I possibly can, and I'm STILL overweight. Do you have any sage advice for me, prick?

So, for you to take the low road and say "Fat is unattractive", like it is a FACT, WRITTEN IN STONE, is bullshit. It's YOUR opinion. Not everyone's.

Why don't you pull your fucking head outta your ass, take a look around, get a clue and some fucking manners while you're at it?

Oh, you're also an asshole. Did I mention that yet?

Fucker.

 

DAAAAMN! Bad vibes, but it's all cool I guess. Thanks man.

 

Biggen, that was awesome.

peteyp - interesting opinion. Personally though, I tend to disagree - cuddliness doesn't bother me nearly as much as someone being a shallow, insensitive prick.
fat is unattractive? maybe to some people, but give me a lovely larger guy over a skinny arsehole any day of the week.

 

I'll be frank here.
Even the ugliest guys can get the hottest chicks. The UGLIEST.
Your problem isn't how big you are, it's your attitude. From what you typed, I saw:
- a complete lack of confidence about yourself; you are the prize, not the girls.
- worry too much about being big; being funny, and having good character is better than being good looking

why should a girl be interested in you with you giving off unconfidence, not being funny, and having not so great looks? thats bad social skills and bad looks. fortunately, if you play it right, you can make social skills 90% and looks 10% of how a girl sees you.

i wont lie, looks do help. but they aren't nearly as important as character. even in high school, you can get chicks. why do you expect other girls to want you right now when you're not even sure if you like yourself?

remember, when talking to girls:
- to kino, that is touching them while your talking. like hold their hands.
- dont be afraid, ever. that is a lack of confidence. if you see a hot chick in the mall and you want to approach her, dont be scared. DO IT. even if you fail with 1 chick, there are literally billions more. thousands in your town. you're right back where you started. you're not missing out on anything. she's missing out on you; you are the prize! lose all fear of rejection.
- try to be cocky and funny. dont carry this too far though. example, a girl says: I like computers. you say, "Wow, you're a geek!". but smile while you say that so she knows you're not making fun of her. also, don't make fun of unnatractive girls too much because they usually have lower self-esteem/ confidence and will get offended by stuff like that.
- dont be afraid!!

for some real advice, i'd suggest the DJ bible and boot camp in the forums at http://www.sosuave.com

various things:

inner game is what's on the inside; do you handle your life well? do you try hard in everything you do? thats CHARACTER

outer game is what you portray to the outside world; do you give off confidence? your looks? your approaches? your lines? your number closes?

AFC = Average Frustrated Chump

HB = hot broad

hb8,hb7,etc: hot broad rated 1-10, 10 being the hottest

It's really all a game of social skills.

outer game