Nice man or bad Boys????

Why do women alwways choose the bad boys????

I have more luck with woman when I treat them like trash then when i am nice to them.
Is there a reason for that??

 

First of all, why would you even treat women like trash to begin with?


Second, women don't ALWAYS choose the "bad-boy" type. Personally, I prefer nice, even-tempered men. But what is desireable about the "bad-boy" is that they are generally unpredictable, exciting, new and different. You don't necessarily need to have the bad-boy type to get those qualities, but its the easiest place to look.

And last, not all bad-boys treat women like shit; just as many bad-boys as "nice men" do.

 

Oh, one more thing. There is such a thing as being TOO nice to a girl. Personally, it makes me uncomfortable when a guy opens a door for me, or gets something for me when I could just as easily get up and get it myself. I don't know why it makes me uncomfortable, but it does.


The trick is to just feel out the girl you are with. Maybe she doesn't want to be treated like trash, but just as an equal.

 

because women don't want a man who will let someone walk all over them? I don't really go for genuinely bad boys, but if they're confident in themselves and are willing to stand up for what they believe in, that's a huge turn on. Being too nice is very possible... opening doors for me isn't too nice, but being a doormat is

 

By bad boys do you mean immature dumbasses or what are you talking about?

 

Some girls don't seem to want what they know they can have.

 

try being friendly with a sense of humor , that should do it.

 

WHY, in the name of heaven, have you EVER treated womyn like trash? Is the "nice" you the real one? Or the one who treats womyn poorly? Why would you do both? Who is the real you?

Maybe it is basic emotional dishonesty that the womyn are sensing. Either you are faking it when you treat them "like trash" or you are faking it when you are "being nice." I don't get men who have more than one personalilty, I can tell you that.

 

Haha! That's pretty much my point. And also, you can't just categorize women into this huge lump of people who don't know what they want (or whatever it is you are lumping us as). See the above quote... she doesn't mind doors opened for her, it makes me feel like shit... we all need something different from men.

...we do it just to make it harder on you men

 

Well it depends on the woman. I always try to be nice and gentle and charming and romantic. When this does not work then I try to be more dominating. Woman like to be dominated I think. It is a kick or something. Woman are weird and I don't understand them.

 

I like nice guys, i know thats probably hard for some people to realize that some people do like people who are nice...weird huh..

I am beginning to think that when some guys say that women only want assholes is just an excuse cause they were rejected or something..
Some women probably do like assholes, just like how some men like skanks.. It can go both ways..
Why would I want an asshole, someone to treat me like crap..doesnt really make sense..i might as well just get a pimp then...

 

RE: First of all, why would you even treat women like trash to begin with?

Cause he wants a physical relationship, not one in the "friend" category.

RE: Second, women don't ALWAYS choose the "bad-boy" type

No, sometimes they choose guys to drive them places and buy them things. If you want that kind of relationship (e.g. doormat) be nice. Men figure this out quick. Give em an inch and you go into the same category as the gay guy they go shoe shopping with.

 

you can be nice, and treat a woman right, and still be a bad boy.
and that is the art of romance and love.

if you ever treat a woman badly it only means one thing, you are retarded.

you are wondering why some women seem to like bad boys?
it is because that is the nature of womanhood.
to lie down, and to mounted, to be controlled in that way.
that is what seperates men from women.
men don't lay down like that, unless they are homosexual.

this does not mean she likes abuse, which some idiot men do get confused over.
and it is the gauge of manhood which defines the balance and harmony between this manipulation/abuse.
whenever you view women as something other than a sacred gift, then you are viewing them wrong, because there is something wrong with the lens of your soul.
she is the mother of your children, your own mother or sister or daughter.

it's not about understanding them.
it's about understanding yourself in relation to them.
without them, you are nothing
that's not an opinion, its a fact
and miserable is he who has no women in his life

when you understand the way a woman needs to be handled
then you understand a part within yourself that likes to be handled by them,
surrendering to their ways of manipulation (which are more cunning and sublime).

of course you don't fully understand it yet, because it is the purpose of life to understand such things and takes many years practice

the world is full of so many people
you can dream up a perfect girl and she will come to you
but do you really know what you want?
most people have no idea what they want, or they don't know what they need.
most people feel unworthy of love, some people dont even believe love exists.
it's just lust, and like.

i tend to gauge the value of a man by the women he associates with.
if he loves his mother and his sister and daughter then he is a good man.
if he has a beautiful wholesome wife then his heart is pure, because they are reflections of each other.
if she is a cheap whore, that will always be so, and reflects what is inside him.

for example,
you can find a beautiful wholesome smart woman, who wants a nice man, who is still kind of a bad boy, in all reality. that can be very perfect and mature.
some girls only like drummers with mass tattoos and piercings, that is because all people are crazy, not just women.
and if women weren't crazy, no man would ever get laid.

 

RE: I am beginning to think that when some guys say that women only want assholes is just an excuse cause they were rejected or something..

Sure.

All I know is the day I went totally misogynist and practically spat "I don't want anything to do with you" at all and sundry, I was a challenge... and competed over...

 

Its just that you hear that all the time, I mean in some cases yeah it is true, some women do only want assholes, like some people only want tall people, skinny people, non-smokers, people who are goth, slutty people, smart people, airheads..I could go on forever...
I personally can not stand anyone who is an asshole, anyone who treats me bad is out of the picture and someone whom I wont talk to...

 

RE: Its just that you hear that all the time, I mean in some cases yeah it is true, some women do only want assholes, like some people only want tall people, skinny people, non-smokers, people who are goth, slutty people, smart people, airheads..I could go on forever...

Listen, enough of us have spent enough of our lives listening to you crying to us at 3 am about how that boyfriend of yours (who gets some a LOT from you) who treats you like crap and who is now out drinking and with God Knows Who is treating you like crap but you LOVE him and sob you need someone to be your FRIEND.

We're flesh and blood creatures who want more than "friendship" with women, and we learn quickly you categorize us into two camps. Guys to use and guys to give it up to to try and conquer.

 

that statement above really had nothing to do with my comment..
my boyfriend doesnt treat me like crap.. I dont call people at 3 am, im in bed sleeping cause i have a long day of work in the morning..
I dont call my guy friends, my guy friends are married..
I dont use anyone, I dont conquer anyone...so therefore I really dont know who your statement pertains too or anything..

I see what you are saying but cant understand where you are coming from cause never been in that situation or put anyone in it..

people think to much about stuff rather then just going out and living your life..

 

RE: that statement above really had nothing to do with my comment..
my boyfriend doesnt treat me like crap..

YOU is SECOND PERSON PLURAL not singular.

And it happens enough times that for all intents and purposes we men do this. Why do we buy Harleys and Porsches? Seems to me women, if they're all like you, would want solid, dependable men driving sensible mini-vans with room for car seats.

 

I like my men driving pintos or schwinns...
minivans remind me of soccer moms that have my kid is an honoroll student and such..
I could stomp on a porshe and damage it in two seconds...
thanks for the english lesson chap

 

So sorry - considering that every woman is just like you, how can we appeal to you?

Seems if we act like cads, you aren't interested and if we act dependable and boring you aren't interested. So how did your current boyfriend land you?