Convincing

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by ictoasnrnsgwt, Aug 25, 2005.

  1. ictoasnrnsgwt

    ictoasnrnsgwt Member

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    Hi,
    My girlfriend is against me smoking pot because she thinks it will ruin my future. I don't want to quit smoking but I also don't want to lose her. Do I have to quit or can I convince her to not hate it.
     
  2. DancerAnnie

    DancerAnnie Resident Beach Bum

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    You got two choices here...

    You either stop smoking pot...or you break up with her...cuz chances are if she doesn't like it, she's not going to change her opinion, no matter what you do...

    Sorry dude.
     
  3. ihmurria

    ihmurria fini

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    heh, I'm siding with your gf here. Sorry, I just find smoking anything to be a huge turn off, pot included. But it should be something you're fairly upfront about, don't date someone for a few months and then tell them that smokes/pot is nasty.

    like clever Annie said, you either stop or you break up with her. If nothing else you could offer to cut down and to not smoke up for many hours before you go out with her, it might be enough. maybe.
     
  4. matthew

    matthew Almost sexy

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    Try going along to her demand/request ..If it is not working, just say so.. It is worth a try .

    Emotional blackmail from myself.:
    Who/what do you love more.
     
  5. seamonster66

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    Dump her, she is already trying to control you.
     
  6. DancerAnnie

    DancerAnnie Resident Beach Bum

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    That was going to be my next point...
     
  7. seamonster66

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    She sounds like a bit of a pain in the ass to me :D

    She's worried about his future, what, does he need another mom?!
     
  8. Xac

    Xac Visitor

    I'd say she's just caring, but we all perceive things differently.

    Any way to the original poster my ex g/f didnt like me smoking cigarettes or otherwise but she tolerated it... and just incase you're wondering us breaking up had nothing to do with smoking.
     
  9. telepylus

    telepylus Banned

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    ask her why it's such a big deal.
    communicate more.
    perhaps you can compromise?
    has she ever tried it?
    maybe she should try it once before forcing you to quit.

    also, unconditioned love is the strength backing every romantic relationship.

    is she setting up the condition that she will break up with you for smoking pot?
    that sort of condition or demand may lead to other conditions or demands that may add future stress to your love.

    but then again,
    if her love for you is so strong and bright and good, and you love her, then pot shouldn't really matter to you anyways.... i mean, what makes you happier, her loving you and her kisses, or you getting stoned whenever you want?

    you decide what takes priority in your life.

    if my girlfriend wanted me to quit pot I would.
    but 10 years ago if a girl wanted me to quit, i wouldn't.
    circumstances and situations change depending on what is current.
     
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