My partner is 14 years older than me I have a 3 month old with him and he has a wife and a 6 month old with her. She is 18 years older than me. And we all live (kind of) happily together I met we’ll call him Matt a year ago I knew he had a wife from the start and she knew about me, he reckons he asked her if it was all ok. We were together for about 2 months before I moved out of home and 400km north to be with him. About 1 month after I moved I fell pregnant. Our relationship is separate to their marriage all though it has crossed over during a few drunken nights. And matt mostly sleeps in my bed with me. I thought I would be able to handle the fact that he loved someone else and he was with someone else but im finding it harder and harder when they are alone I get jealous and when I hear them having sex I just get so mad and end up hating them for days. I smoke to many bongs to escape the stress of being to scared to go out of my bedroom incase I find them having sex in the lounge room. I have to face the fact that I’ll never have my own house and get married and have a normal life. I do love him but im scared that if I leave he will get my baby and he has told me a number of times that he will. Ahhhhhhhhhhh, time for another bong I reckon
get out and take your baby with you, How dare he think he can have his cake and another one too, and THEN eat them both!
RetroGroove, he dares because both "cakes" let him. Erin, I would recomend that you stop smoking bongs. Even if you aren't breastfeeding, the smoke is not helping you think clearly for your kid. I argee with RetroGroove_Grrl, move out. Don't worry about him getting the kid, the law will not look kindly on a man who lives with two women. On the other hand, you will need child support. And the kid will be a connection to him for the next eighteen years. Stop smoking and move back to your parents. That would be a good place to start from when the time comes to start supporting yourself. Once that happens, a positive future (house, marriage, etc.) won't seem so impossible.
He is using the threat of taking the child to control you. I would strongly suggest you stop getting high all the time and get your shit together. He will get the child if he can show you don't do shit but get high all the freaking time. Go out and find a job, get a newspaper, look for work online. Most newspapers can be found online too. Or just stick your tail between your legs and go the hell home. That would seem better than being threatened if you leave. You need to get over that fact that he has sex with his wife as she has had to deal with you two as well, and get out of the situation if you don't like it You really didn't think this one out at all did you. What the hell did you think was going to happen when you moved in with him AND his wife? That they would be hand shakers?
Not to hurt the OPs feelings but it's stories like this that make me thankful that the AoC is EIGHTEEN and makes me want to pimpslap into next year people who say 14 year olds can handle this crap.
I say stop with the ganja and get your shit together.. dont mean to sound so harsh but its the truth.. Dont feel sorry for yourself, you sorta had to see this coming with "sharing a man" when you know the outcome of that will be anything but positive... You should get your life together and leave and raise your child and find someone who will only love and be with you and not someone else... If you want to keep your child, you better stop the bong stuff cause that will only hurt you if he tries to get custody...ya know.. But I really dont see how you didnt see this coming with sharing a guy, I just dont understand that at all...
sounds pretty nasty, i think youve just got yourself stuck into a situation that you cant dig your way out of, as much as threesomes and orgies can be fun, love is meant for 2 people who want to be together for the rest of their lives, the bond between two partners is very strong i think and as much as yours may be as just as strong, his wife keeps deflecting it, to be honest i dont know how youre handling the whole situation All in all do what you think is right, you deserve someone who loves you and not having to share that person
get out. He's a controller. Take the kid, (please tell me it doesn't have his name) and move, preferably to a different coast. NEVER contact him.
