I'm depressed

The same actually happened to me. I fell madly in love with this girl, and it helped so much... I started to see a meaning to life... and it was just amazing... I pulled myself out... My friends say that I just changed completely, became a different person... secure, optimistic, happy...

She is still a good friend of mine, which is awsome...I think i'll see her in a party tomorrow.

 

sometimes you can find your way out of it, sometimes you need a shrink, sometimes you need drugs to help you get to a point where you dont' need them anymore (if that made any sense). I've probably been depressed enough for it to be clinical, but no one has diagnosed it yet. I tried talking to a couple shrinks and their advice was "just stop thinking negative thoughts". yeah.... real effective.

different people need different routes. I highly recommend counselling, with the right kind of counsellor for you. It'll help get at the roots of the problem, not just make you feel less awful.

 

Try to discover the root of you depression, and obliterate it. Some people turn to religion for that, others turn to mind-altering substances, and then there are those who turn to the "professionals" to figure out their evils. Do whatever works, but I wouldn't recommend pills, because it's too easy to get hooked.

 

Maybe you should try being brave and strong minded for a day as well

 

fuck that took me for surprise.

ok

 

Shrinks cannot help you. They do not know you, like Insomic_devi says, you need to find the root(s), and the shrinks do not know you well enough to find it. The best counceling you can get is from family and friends, they know you, they can actually help you... seek thier help. No one tried to help me, and that led to alcohol and drug problems.

If you do have someone to help you get through it, be thankful at the least.

 

bullshit. sorry, shrinks may not've been the right route for you, but for some people there are. There are things I could never tell my family or friends that are the roots of some issues for me, but I could tell someone who was trained to help identify problems, and find ways of solving/resolving/dealing with them. I don't like breaking down infront of familiy/friends, I'm the strong one for them... but a stranger who has been taught to help manage all that sort of shit, I can feel comfortable with.

hah, maybe I'm just weird. I've only found one counsellor, out of three I've tried, that i actually liked or connected with.

 

I know what you mean, I don't like sharing my problems with my family, because subconsciously I don't want to disappoint them, but if I talk to a complete stranger, it doesn't bother me as much.

 

Only a correction in the chemical imbalance will get a person who is clinically depressed out of their depression. As I said before it's a physical problem.

 

your terminologies are all wrong your arguing clinical depression when you mean chronic, clinical depression is only treatable chemicalyt & its not always drugs many times its adjusting the natural brain chemistry through hormones situational depression can be chronic & go on for years but there are causes & can be trated or just gotten over
therapists can usualy determine the exact types of depression & the best course of avction for treatment.

 

but we are all still here arguing about types of depression & silly things like how special bravesirrubin is & we still dont know the cause of the person who started the threads depression or the severity
so i'll ask again what are the things that caused your depression? or are there no real causes, how long have you been depressed. what are the symptoms besides feeling depressed..if you want to talk about it, you can pm me

 

i would never say someone with cancer
or some other illness
caused it for themselves
so they have the power to get rid of it

however, there is a mind-body-spirit connection which is a dynamic triad. when someone tells me they got something mental going, i feel like there is a kink in their subconscious, or emotions stuck inside the body that aren't flowing, etc etc. i have a hard time buying this 'its only genetic its stuck this way'. i have a question, for ppl who were really depressed who 'fell in love' to get out of it. i ran that route before, and for me personally, its just like, an ultimate, meaningful, placebo. it can kick start you from a rut, but it in and of itself, you heal thyself, nobody heals u. i have mixed feelings i guess, but love is powerful so..

as for what that one guy said about shrinks not knowing you--some are jerks sure, but dont let his experience jade the help of someone professional. they see lots of people, they generally went into te profession cause they CARE about PEOPLE. if they are half-way legit, they will only know you as well as you let them know you, as well as you let yourself get to know your own self, in their care. if u always play a game with them then you only get what you gave them, they'll only reflect you back as clearly as you show yourself. then when u end therapy and it didnt work out or u dont feel better, u can project onto them how they failed you. haha sorry that was sarcastic.

family and friends, while helpful, are more jaded than a therapist of the inclination that matches your likes.. cause family and friends DO have personal investments and motivations when it comes to you.

yes i would like to hear more from the original poster basically.

 

have known many people who have tried different anti-depressiant pills.
But if they are depressed over financial problems, marriage problems, or whatever how is taking a pill everyday gonna solve that. Will the pill pay the bills & rent, make your spouse pay attention to you instead of the neighbors wife, make the kids do their homework or chores, or clean out the house.....NO!

Even if you pop anti-depressant pills all the problems that caused your depression will still be there. My ex took different pills yrs ago, and 1 turned him into a zombie...he literally sat in a chair & spaced out for hours after taking it.