I'm really scared

Silver Quoted:

If you are dumb enough to believe assholes are all oscar class actors who deceive poor, little innocents who - always - thought the guy was really, really nice and yummy....... until he suddenly became Mr Nasty, then that is your problem.

Part of the attraction for this young lady was her gut instinct that he wasn't Mr Nice. She might not like that fact, but as I'm over 20 years older than you, I reckon I am in a slightly better position to 'spot' certain female patterns of behaviour.



You people are all completely missing Silvers point he tried to make. It is true that alot of women are stupid and are attracted to the asshole type guys, it is something they are not used to is why they go for those types.

They don't go for a guy who seems nice, likes to give them lots of gifts and ask for stuff..etc. They go for a guy who acts like he couldnt give a shit about them and they arnt his #1 priority. There is a saying that women like a guy more if they have to work harder to get him, that is why a guy has better luck with women who already like him but he acts not so interested and doesnt call all the time...etc..etc.

What do u think Silver??

 

i didn't realize this post was gonna cause so much controversy. honestly, and this goes to everyone especially silver...i wasn't whining and i'm sorry if i made it seem that way. what i was doing was putting an experience in a forum that i wanted to talk about and just get a little advice and there's so much negativity being caused by it. i was never asking to be a victim nor did i bring it upon myself. i want a nice guy, not an asshole. i won't even choose to be with a guy that yells at me bc i can't handle it from past experiences during my childhood. but i don't need to defend myself bc i know i didn't ask for it. so i don't think anyone should post anymore cuz i'd rather not read anything at all instead of read posts that bring me down. there's no reason for it. i regret sharing this story in the first place.

 

you shouldn't regret sharing your story...i for one am sorry this post turned into such a big fight with so much negativity. NO ONE asks for the kind of treatment you received, and i hope you are doing better...much love to you, sister...

~amy

 

dont regret seeking help just cause you got a few idiots, the rest of us really care & want to help..i'd just be careful sugmag cause some peiople can be pretty unstable whaen it comes to this kindastuff (if u read sininabin's true confession post ou'll see the extremes it can go to) this guy your having probs withjis odviosly emotionaly imature, & possibly unballanced
you did nothing at all wrong, with the possible acception of letting your guard down when drunk (just another reason i dont drink) but there was some good advise given, if you see him anywhere near your house or work, call the cops..try not to go out alone but dont live in fear either..& next time when you feel like you dont want to get involved with someone trust in that instint
sugar..f theresanything else i can do to help, u just let me know ok?

p.s. silver the only reason u say u think girls like assholes is cause u r 1..& u just hope some girl would actualy like you