There is a girl that I love. I love her like I've never loved anyone before, and she loves me. Our relationship has always been rocky because I was always to afraid to come out and let everyone know about us. We are not together but I want to be really bad. We both have boyfriends. Hers in an asshole who cheats on her and doesn't really love her. She's extremely unhappy with him but she stays with him because she has low self-esteem. My boyfriend treats me like gold and I feel really bad about having to tell him that I am in love with another person. There are many ways to love someone, and I do love him, but not with the intensity that I love her. I'm afraid, of the strong love I have for her, and risking myself so completely. Being with her may cause me my family. But I think I'm willing to take the chance and do it. I feel really bad, about my boyfriend, but he is understanding and says he will always be my friend and support me and help me when I need him. I can't find the girl I love. It's like she disappeared. I called her father and asked him to have her call me, but he said she calls him so I will have to wait. I hope I talk to her soon....my heart aches....
Sweetheart, I know the feeling. If it is meant to be, the opportunity will present itself. I'm just glad you aren't doing anything behind anyone's back, and you are not trying to get a threesome out of this... I know someone is going to suggest that here. That is never a good idea to introduce into a loving relationship. Just trust that the feelings of need will pass eventually - good or bad. Try to stay occupied and keep your mind busy. Nights are the worst.
i feel for you.. but you got to be honest with your boyfriend. If you really feel that your a lesbian, or even if you cant give back the love he gives you. "do what your heart says" so cliche.. but true.
I would never have a threesome with her again. That is actually how all this started. We were really good friends, and than we had a threesome, and thats when it all started. After we both new we liked eachother in more than a friendship way. The threesome was the worst idea, b/c it made our feelings grow for eachother. And the thing is I can't forget about her...I mean I don't want to. I really want one more chance with her. And I don't want to sit back and see if it will happen. I want to talk to her. I know she still loves me. But I need to know if she still wants me. I want to know that she still thinks of me sometimes when shes kissing her boyfriend. I want her again. Shes the only one I've ever loved like this. She's the only one I have ever went to this length over. I don't want her to be the one who got away. I want to at least say we tried and realized it wasn't working. I need closure. If I don' t I'm going to ruin every relationship I am in b/c of my love for her. It's been so long...I've been stuck on her for years. It's about time I do something. Im killing myself. I'm killing my heart. I cry over her everyday. It's been this way for almost a year.
I really have been honest with him. We talked alot about everything. He told me that he loves me enough to tell me to go with her, because it makes me so unhappy to be without her....Life is difficult...
come to vixen *gigggles* aww girl, i'm just kidding. i'm sorry... i know that dull, aching feeling... *hugz for themistress*
Your bf is fuckin great ... I hope u treat him with half the love he does you ... fuck 3somes , u should all shack up together - i know one family that did this and they are so happy horny and in love all the freakin time...
thats kind of what happen to me in my first real relationship. only I was the understanding guy that loved her enough to let her go. Its hard to watch but if he is that understanding about it he will realize that your not happy without her, and he will let you go. Im only telling you this out of experince from a relitive issue of mine, but if you do not go to her......youll never be the same. Give your man a medal for understanding and always keep in touch with him. I still talk to my ex and she thanx me everytime for letting her be happy.No pun intended with the finger just my sig..............nobody likes it...lol, best of luck!
Hi Mistress! Look its obvious.You just have to do your best with the one you love most. Atleast you arent wondering what to do /how to do it with a Russian lapdancer whos a 1000 miles away across Europe you only met fleetingly but have been thinking about for days. And knowing my luck she'll have disappeared anyway! ( thats my thread nearby!) _______ Re your situation , you can only do your best.Some things are beyond your control. But dont avoid the things that arent.Thats one thing I'm learning a decade later than you. Logic's only about what you arent afraid to look at, whats simple and can be counted up like a shopping list.The things that really exist cant be added and subtracted.They exist wholly outisde of such crude systems. True wisdom lies in the heart. I admit Im bloody useless at it all and in no position to advise others, but from a distance ( with other people)I think Im beginning to see what truth is about. Best of luck Self Styled. x
well this is what has happened...I told my b/f that we had to do something about this b/c we can't keep fighting like this. We descided that he was goping to move out. He left the house for the night. I have time to think, I call him and tell him I wan to talk and he says he will come home soon.I go out to the bar for the night. The girl I'm in love with shows up. I see her and find out whats been going on with her...her and her b/f broke up, but not really b/c they are with eachother all the time, she got a new job and moved back in with her dad, but not really b/c she is still always sleeping at her (ex) b/fs house. I remember why I was breaking up with my b/f. I go home. Talk until 6am with him. I tell him that if something isn't done about this its going to continue happening over and over. he agrees. I never cried so much in front of someone in my life! At the same time as having to do something about this I am not reday to break up with my b/f. We descided to find another way to solve this. We both agree that I need time to talk with this girl. But I still don't know what to do about the situation. How am I ever going to solve this without losing/hurting the ppl I love???
but is that fair???I have my b/fs whole heart, he doesn't have mine. what if I can never give it to him. Is that fair? Shouldn't I leave him, even tho it will hurt him now, but than at least he can find someone who loves him back in the same way. He says he wants me, but will he resent me everytime I roll over in bed and face the wall to think about the one that got away?????
There are many kinds of relationships, have you and your boyfriend ever considered a non-monagamous relationship? In polyamorous relationships, people have more than one lover. Often there is one primary partner, and then there are other lovers. In polyfidelity three or four or five or six people agree to form kind of a family of lovers and agree to be faithful within that family. There is a wonderful book called The Ethical Slut that explores polyamory from a feminist and queer perspective. Ployamory and polyfidelity take tremendous trust and a lot of work, and don't suit everyone. But then the same can be said for monogamy. Just good to explore all the possibilities in deciding how to move forward. Love and blessings to all three of you.
And of course I should add, its not all about sex -- that's casual sex. Polyamory is far from casual, its about making conscious and compassionate decisions together with lovers about what is fair and right and good.
I know that my concept of love is much different. So, I will be fair. You need to seek what will make you the happiest in the long run. I know this isn't guaranteed, but you have to make the most reasonable assessment for your happiness and that which causes the least amount of harm.
