Advice plz...what if both partners are married?

I'd ask her to look a year into the future. Try to feel where she could be at that time and what would happen to get there, and then ask her if it was worth it. I absolutely am against cheating. If she has to go for this guy she should break off her marriage to do so. If it is worth it to her, then go for it, but she needs to force herself to make that decision before she goes through with anything.

 

Thats Called Cheating And Cheating = Death

 

Actually, cheating = the norm. technically. That's unfortunate.

 

Cheating = Death

You'll get run over by an SUV.

 

Really?

I'll be damned. When did they pass that law?

 

Sex is a good enough reason...I say go for it.

 

Ask her how she will feel when her husband and children find out.

Ask her how she would feel if she got HIV from this guy, then gave it to her husband before finding out. Yeah, she may say she'll use protection, but condoms break, shit happens.

And, of course, if she were my friend, I would let her know that I have absolutely no respect for someone who would betray the trust of someone they claim to love. Be honest with the hubby and stay away from this married man, or don't expect me to be there for you when shit comes crashing down.

 

if there is a lot at stake ten no i wouldent do it .imagine how you would feel if your partner did it to you.and if the kids found out it would destroy them .too many people have affairs with out thinking about kids.when you have kids i tjhink they become the most important thing in your life and should remain so until they are self sufficient and settled thier selves.i would never seperate my kids from thier father just for sex

 

I would point out to her that the most evil thing most of us will ever do will be to betray a freind or loved one, and that we are defined by our actions. i would try and make her understand that she is about be become someone she can not truly resepct, and getting close to someone who does not deserve her respect. I would try to make her see that negative acts bring negative things, and not just in some cosmic way, but in a down to earth 2+2=4 kinda way. then i would sugest that she find ways to make sex with her husband new again, go have sex in a elvator, hire a hooker,
whatever it takes

 

having been 'the other woman' now married to him. I think unless your friend has a reallly cold heart she had better take a good look into the future. It most always turns out to be more than just sex for one if not both. How would she feel if her husband was is the same situation...how would she hope he would react? It's not just her and her would be lover involved in the situation.