my boyfriend has over 10 grand sitting in the bank waiting for his college and because his parents bug him, he won't go. I only wish that I had that kind of money to go to school with (along with parents who cared enough to bug me) I don't want to push him away from me like his mom did, but he really needs to go!! Everything he wants to do with his life requires some college. He says that he'll go when people get off his back about it. It's hard for me to not say anything because I wish that I had that opportunity. How do I support him when he's taking advantage of things I could only dream of having?
Lol, 10 grand would pay almost all of my schooling if my scholarship maintains. Hell, if I hda that money saved up for me, then I would actually go to the school I want to go to.
Wow. Sorry about your bad luck. On the bright side, there are tons of excellent state schools where you can get a top-notch education for quite a bit less. To the OP, not knowing your bf makes it hard to answer your question. My first instinct would be to wait for a chance -- like when he's bitching about his mother -- and tell him he's being a dumbass. He's letting other people control his life (which he probably thinks he is resisting doing), instead of doing what he wants when he wants. If he sincerely doesn't want to go to school right now, then he shouldn't go now. I took a few years off before going to school, which gave me the time to mature, get my partying out, and figure out what I really wanted to gain from my time here. That allowed me to be a much better student than I would have been at 18 or 19. If he needs that, then by all means support him in that pursuit. But if he's just avoiding it to spite his mom, then he is being a complete dumbass. Then, don't say another word about it. But, depending on his personality, that might just push him away. But, I would suggest somehow letting him know how you feel, then promising (and keeping the promise) to leave him alone about it from then on.
I put myself through college (and grad school), and I'm glad I did. Ten grand won't get you far, though, but I sure would've been psyched if I had it back then.
the point isn't the how much money he has. it's the fact that he does have some to get him started. if he doesnt' want to go to school right now- fine. but I'm working my ass off full time because he "might" go to college soon we live together also, if that sheds some light on things. so if he doesn't want to go that's ok with me, but he needs to find a good job to pay the bills so I can get a student loan because I DO want to go!!
simple moe..tell him 1 or the other is going to work while the other does school.. so tell him if hes not resady..you'll let him get a job while you go..then he has 4 years to gret himself ready
Damn, I hate when that happens. I wrote a long thoughtful reply only to have my computer screw up before it got posted. The short version: Moe Chick, If college is important to you go for it! Don't let your boyfriend hold you back. There are many scholarship and financial aid sources out there, or you could work and go to school part time. I recieved almost my entire tuition in scholarashps and gov't aid to go to school partly because my family was very poor at the time. Either way, I hope things work out for you. You seem very worthy of it.
Tell him to give it a try and if he likes it to stay. College is a lot easier then many people think. Getting through the inital paperwork is a little rough but after that its pretty good.
oh no, you don't understand. it's not bad luck at all--i'm extremely lucky. no state university in this country could compete with the education i'm getting. besides, it's not like i actually PAY 10 grand a year.... it's the best thing in the world, really. peace.
