Older men..

aww thank you ranger, that really means alot to me
but i'm really just being realistic. i'm only that young and i have no experience in life or love. even if i met someone older now, if it was real he'd understand that i'd like to wait. and in my opinion, the time we'd have to wait till i'm old enough would only help us get to know each other better, learn to trust each other more and therefor would our relationship be stronger.
Thank you again for a beautiful comment, all my love to you

 

I think im falling in love with an older man, i hav a boyfriend my own age tho.

 

yeah, i don't have a boyfriend but i sure know the feeling..

 

I know exactly how you feel this guy is 20 years older than me, i cant stop thinking about him. The chances of us actually meeting face to face however are practically nil cuz he lives quite a distance from me. I know for a fact that he would never act dishonourabley towards me. Wud be awesome to discuss this more with u via PM.

 

wow, you sound exactly like me like 2-3 weeks ago. I really thought i had finally found someone who wouldn't hurt me, but that just shows i foolish i can be..
I'd love to talk to you more about this, so feel free to pm me. I don't really want to say anything about this man here, cause he's probably gonna read it and to tell the truth, i don't have alot of nice things to say about him right now.. hahaha
But yeah, pm me if you want, looking forward to hear from you

 

thats so beautiful

 

hi you fellow free spirits.........i was once 15 and i too fell in love with a 38 yr old hippie who was always at the festivals i went to with my parents .even with there liberal attitudes they dident approve ...at 16 i left home to live with this guy and we had 2 years of bliss but it was short lived ...........just be sure in youre heart when you do meet some one that he is the right one ........if he is kind and he doesnt rish you rthen go for it ........i was left in a state of confusion as this man wasent the man he seemed to be and i was physically and mentally abused alli say is take care

 

aww i'm so sorry to hear that *hugs*

 

oh no worries im well over it now that was 25yrs ago..........times change we have to move on or go crazy.........thanks .......sara rose you look a lot like my 17 yr old daughter

 

Lots of people seem to think that the only thing an older man would want from a younger girl is sex, but c'mon -- as if there aren't loads of younger men who date girls their own age and also use them just for sex! Assholes come in all ages, and so do decent men who are just looking for a loving partner that they can connect with. Ageism sucks, man.

 

well, good to hear and cool i look like her, she must be really pretty hahaha

yeah, that's so true! Exactly what i think

 

Good Point. Ageism does suck! (is ageism even a word? lol) I wonder how long it will be, if ever, before relationships between older men and younger girls are viewed as acceptable as opposed to "perverted".

 

i kinda feel that if its such a cool beans trend for older men/younger women to date, then a younger girl can date an older guy. im attracted almost always to older men, be it a 1 yr or 8yr difference, but i'll still approach it the same i would in any relationship with the precautions and whatnot. but also, mostly im admiring older guys or turning my head when older guys pass me in the street (20s,30s,40s), but if i ever came to reach an actual point where me and say, an 30+ yr old guy where going to enter a relationship, i would really really need to know his character and whatnot, cause id wonder why hed pursue someone my age - what is he looking for? if we had that soul connection, then id still be hesitant until im like 20-something.
but im still soo attracted older guys, they (hopefully) have experience and goals and advice and, geez maturity and all that comes with it. it must be my personality, cause i just value all forms of knowledge and seek to surround myself with it. i dont surprise myself (or anyone else, including my parents) when i swoon for an older guy - people i consider as real friends and share mutual respect with are grown, married-with-children adults.

 

yeah ageism does suck
but you still need tobe careful ........even though we dont want it there is a lot of wierdness in this world .and that is true of all age groupsbut hey stay cool and enjoy life

 

yeah, ageism is just stupid.
of course there are older men out ther who only want young girls for sex.. but that doesn't mean that EVERY older man is like that!
I don't know why, but i just connect better with people older than me. Most of my friends are much older than myself. I don't really feel like i have a lot incommon with kids my age, and i feel like guys my age are just way to immature.. i don't know, maybe it's just me

 

^no, santa rose, its not just you. i can relate completly. even though i still manage to get along with my peers too, older people (friends or bfs) are just more appealing to me.

 

So long as two people have the physical and emotional maturity (e.g. both over 18) who cares if it's older guy younger girl, older girl younger guy, older guy younger guy, older girl younger girl, older guy older guy younger girl, etc.?

 

i think it`s not ok if a girl is just 14 and the man like 7 ,8 years older
i`m 33 and my husband is 46 but that`s very different
when you are in your teens you still have to enjoy your years with girlfriend and stuff
not worry about growen-up stuff
it happenend to myself so i know what i`m talking about

 

Sara_Rose,

I am just the opposite of you. I get along with people my own age better than people older than me and my boyfriend and I are the exact same age. I admit that sometimes I can be a immature little brat and that may have something to do with it.

I do agree with you that ageism is stupid. I will also say that there is nothing unnatural about prefering to spend time with people who are older than you.

 

My best friend was 15 when she got engaged to be married to my ex, who was 4 years older than her. They lasted 11 months, which was impressive, but they had a lot of very very obvious differences that ended up destroying their relationship. It wasn't necessarily because of the age difference, just the fact that they were at two completely different stages in their lives (my fiance is 4 years older than me, the age difference is apparent in some aspects, but it hasn't caused any problems yet, probably because our lives mesh together well). When you're 15, you still have a lot of growing up to do. I've grown immensely since I was 15, and I'm sure I have some more to do still. It's okay to be attracted to older men, but keep in mind, you may have some big differences. Definitely give it time and be careful. Love is love, no matter who it involves. But you have to make sure, especially in your case, to establish a deep trust and don't rush into anything. There are a lot of sickos out there, but there are a lot of good people, too. I'm sure you'll do fine, though, you seem to have a good grip on the pros and cons and you seem to be very intelligent.