So, I'm curious here... Is it possible to just wake up and realize that you're gay and you've just been in denial? How did you figure out that you were gay in the first place?
i think 4 me i got suspicious i might be gay when i first noticed my finger up all my mates' arseholes when i was 12 or so. this was the first pointer that i was possibly 'different'. when did u realise lbd?
Lol! I have no idea when or if I realized I was gay at all man. I was just wondering if it's possible to hide such a vital characteristic from yourself and not even realize it. I was trippin on shrooms last night and as the myriad of thoughts swirled in my head, the possibility that I could be hiding bisexual or gay qualities from myself was one of the things that kept passing through. I'm still kinda confused personally, but I will say that being gay would be awesome and probably a lot less of an emotional strain that trying to deal with "normal" relationships with women and the likes.
you know if your gay. It doesn't just hit you one day when your on a walk or something. You always know. When you haven't come out, it is almost constantly on your mind. Some people may go into denial, but it really isn't a big shocking secret, when you finally accept it.
i think i always new...i just didn't want it to be true because of all the backlash and fear of society and my parents...as i began to realize that where i live is not a reflection of the entire world and that it is impossible to do anything to make my parents feel not disappointed in me...i guess when i felt like there was not too much to lose...that's when i let myself be ok with it...but it was a long period of realization and confusion and it definitely did not happen over night. even now sometimes i am afraid of it...but there is nothing i can do. i know it sounds like i am ashamed...i'm really not...i've grown proud to be gay...life would just be easier if i weren't...but i'm alright with that.
if fear motivated it then i'd say it would be hard 2. but if it was simply a case of concealing an aspect of urself that had never needed 2 be expressed, or had the opportunity 2 be expressed, than u could do it: a question of out of sight out of mind and it would be dormant rather than repressed. i've had sex with heaps of 'straight' guys who never tried gay sex be4 but got hard and enjoyed it. would u say they had concealed vital characteristics from themselves and not realised it? mushies'll do that 2 u. take u to places in ur mind u never usually go. personally i think sexuality is a continuum not a state. at different times u can find urself placed at different points on the continuum. the fact that u quiestioned it usually, in my exp, indicates that u are moving, or want 2 move, on the continuum. that sounds like pretty good confusion 2 me. often an identity crisis leads 2 new dreams of yourself coming through to consciousness. but the idea that gay=less emotional strain is idealising it a bit doggie.
Read Greek and Spartans history you well see how powerfull bisexual and gay men were. Something that stupid movie Troy did not show . matter of fact that movie is far for being accurate .
When I was four years old, my mother told me that I was going to grow up and marry a girl some day. I said that it would be OK to get married, but I was going to marry a boy instead. She said that I couldn't do that, that two boys can't get married and it was against the law. I said that when I grew up, I would get them to change the law. When I was a few years older, I read Dr. Reuben's Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex and found out there was a word for it. It all seemed very scary, but I was actually relieved that there were so many others. Then it became a question of who they were and how to find them.
Sort of. I pretty much knew I was in denial, but I was in denial about that too. I can look back throughout my childhood, and see different things that may have been "gay indicators." You don't notice them so much at the time, though. We are all raised and socialized the same way, or at least, VERY similar. Media, friends and family all train you. I think we all (or most), at least as kids, picture ourselves in our own family, with husband/wife, 2.4 kids, and a white picket fence. For me, it was like I had to mourn the life I had always pictured but would never be able to have before I could accept that I am gay. The real irony, I could get off to gay porn and fantasize about men WAY before I could say the words "me" and "gay" together in a sentence. The mind is very powerful, and so is denial. To simply answer your question, I would say yes, it is possible to wake up and suddenly realize (ie accept) that you are gay. I had been with women. It took a magical evening with a guy, that ended with balls hitting my face, for me to say, "Oh shit, I'm gay!"
Hm. I could've sworn I was straight when I went into the 7th grade. By the end of 7th grade, I think I was something in the bi region, but by the end of the summer I was definately gay, and have been, though in the closet, since. Not overnight, but quicker than most people have described. Has everyone else known forever?
THIS IS HOW I FEEL. AT THE MOMENT THO I LIKE TO THINK OF MY SELF AS OPEN MINDED AS I HAVE NOT DONE ANY MOOR THAN KISSING AND IT TUNERD ME ON BIG TIME.THE OTHER THING IS NOW THAT I STOPED BLOCKING THIS PART ME OUT I SEEM MOOR GUY'S THAT I FIND HOT THAN I DO GIRLS I HAVE SEEN MY FIST GAY PORN THIS WEEK AND IT DUS WAY MOOR FOR ME THAN THE ST8T STUFF THAT HAVE BEEN LOOKING AT FOR YEARS. I THINK MOOR ABOUT WAKEING UP OND WITH BEEN OK WITH IT
