I lost all my friends.

Well, then, Spliff, you're shallow and naive. Obviously you've never had dreads, so you don't know the lifestyle...it's more than just a hairstyle it's a way of life. By sacrificing her hairstyle, she's also, in a way, sacrificing who she is!

If someone is going to judge you based on the way your hair looks and chooses not to be your friend JUST because of that...then they aren't much of a friend, are they?

 

I second that, why should you just get rid of your dredz JUST because your freind dont like them, As it's been said before & will be said many times over
they can't be much of a friend if there gonna dissabandon you because of your hair style

That is just crazy !!!! A REAL friend would not ask you to do anything like that that's just to damn cheeky & if you did shave your hair of that you make you inferior to them as they would be walking all over you, what would be next ???
they don't like your after shave or the car that you drive, you gonna change them just to please you mates.

Headymoe, Keep ya dredz, it will make you a more open minded & stronger person for not giving in to such narrow, closed minded people. People
should take you for who you are & not what you look like

 

well, move..

 

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Loosing friends sucks hardcore. it happend 2 me (not to your extent). if u decide to move CANADA IS AWSOME. i have no suggestions im sorry *e-hugs*. wish i could help

 

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Hun, if you want my opinion, you look cute as FUCK with dreads. Please don't let yourself get down over something stupid that somebody said. Hell, ask them why they bleach their hair into oblivion or tan until their skin looks like leather.

If you want to talk, PM or AIM me. IndustrialPigmy. I'm always willing to listen.

 

Which is more of an irritant/anesthetic rather than a Solution - prolly not one of your better Options at this Point in Time.

This Thread has some Good advice/suggestions but only you know what fits and what doesn't.

2 cents n a tad more...

Take Care,
A

 

heyhey Headymoe, Right On To Swampy And Annie's Comments...Don't Give Any Part Of Who You Are Up...There's Only One Like You, Moe, So Keep Strong And If You Ever Want To Talk Or Need A Kynd Ear...PM Me : ) It's Sad That Some Folks Can Look At A Person, And Never Really Know Who They Are....Because If They Saw Each Person's Worth, They'd Never Let Them Go. : ) Dreads Are Beautiful Moe, And So Are You.

 

headymoe..this is indeed sad, but i have a story to tell you that may help. sometime in the 80's i started my dreds, & after just a couple years my parents had said over & over how they were ebarrased to be seen with me (just background it gets better keep reading) eventualy my ex & my parents had pressured me so much i hacked off my drefds., & went to school to become a boring yuppy..every day after school i wore a hat..i never felt like myself..i felt like i lost a real connection..to something i couldnt define..the school ws just a 6 month traning type thing, but at my graduation party i broke my back & spent the next 6 months hospitolized & forgot everything i learned within a couple months after that i started my dreads again..i live in phully so its a rather large city.. & i found just the opposite of the closemindedness you have there i found myself with more freinds then i could count.. i found i got nothing but respect (except a very rare close minded idiot) i remember 1 time visiting my parents & going shopping..& theyre jaws dropped when a blue haired 88 year old woman came up praising my dreads saying they were the modst beautiful thing shed ever seen & wanting to just touch them.. it got to the point where in any neighbourhood in the city i couldnt go 3 blocks without running into freinds..& random cars would drive by & yell out "respect" or "nice dreads" in the worse drug neighbourhoods i felt safe (i live 3 blocks from 1 & havent locked my door in over 10 years) so many know me & concider me a freind that i couldnt possibly remember all theyre names (horrible i know,..but i remember all he special ones) i've been growing my dreads 14 years now, & my mom finaly stopped joking about cutting them.. but as recent as like 6 years ago shed offered me thousands of dollars (more then ui'd ever seen in my life) to cut them..& i just couldnt even concider it..
i gueess my whole point here is..you have mamny freinds..myself inccluded..you dont need the ones who dont respect you for respecting yourself too much to become a clone.. heady..i think your beautiful inside & out.. i dont want to see you darken that inner besauty by giving up your trueself the more you are true to yourdself the more true freinds will find you.. only real respect can give you true freindship....dont ever mistake "drinkng buddies" for true freinds..cause if it wasnt your hair, eventualy it would be something else that makes them stab you in the back

i love you

 

didnt mean to write that much just to say i'm your freind & i respect you wether you choose to keep your dreads or shave or anything.. but i'd truly respect you & admire you more as a real true freind fif your really true to yourself

 

i make sence? hmm how did that happen?

but dreadymoe (your new name) you go to buffalow..or any town that actualy has culture & conceise thinkers..& you walk down the street proud & open.. the freinds will be commin from all directions wanting to know you..you have a car? lets go on a roadtrip..i can guarantee any semi large city in the country & even many small towns if we stopped for a day i'd run into freinds..& you'll make just as many freinds because your not afraid to be youyrelf.. these "freinds" of yours are afraid..scared to be real..scared of what others will think.. they are the ones with no trure freinds because they dont even show theyre true selves

 

what the hell is that picture sopost to mean?? Your just ignorant and stuck up.

 

moedready .. dancingannie has seen me plain in the mountains..& she can tell ya something about me that i dont think ineed to mention here
but.. i can tell you i'm completely non violent & it's probly been about 25 years since i hit anyone even in self deffence.. yet i can tell you without a doubt, it would take at least 10..maybe 20 people to hold me down to cut my dreads...for someone i was in love with i might concider losing the beard.. but then again i think if the love was really real she wouldnt ask me to..or even if she asked she wouldn't really expect me to

 

i'll be ur friend!! i supports us dreadheads!!

 

DONT GET RID OF EITHER, long beards are cool. lol about being held down same it would take at least 15 to keep me dont.... In my opinion u should grow your beard really loooooooooooooong. my friends his beard is so long it goes down to his belt and thats when its braied, well its braied all the time.

My suggestions:

moedready, even though you know every one were u live their's some one that u dont hate but just dont talk to, try talking to them. If im wrong (which i am most of the time) you could always try new things, get in to new activites do sumthing you think would be fun (e.x. like start skateboarding. lol probly not) Or even voulenteering you meet a lot of people that way... Those are what ive been thinking about sence my last post because they wern't very helpful.. take em' or leave them but thats what i think

 

WFT, your lovely and a babe, dont change anything. If you wanna move anywhere move to the UK, I'll take care of ya

 

it's really nice to see all the support here. I still feel kind of empty because I wish someone could see me face to face, and hug me, and look me in the eyes and tell me it's all ok

I don't plan on changing anytime soon, but it's tempting. I don't understand. I didn't change my personality, I still wear the same funky clothes, all that I changed was my hair and I get this awful cold shoulder from so many people. It hurts.

but thanks again to everyone who can see true beauty

 

Trust me when i say this. Life spins ands cycles like earth itself, there will be more cycles of lonliess to come, sometimes when you dont expect it, as well as incredible joys when you dont expect it. It's easier said than done, but the best thing you can learn to do is enjoy and relish in yourself alone more than anyone else can. Love and zeal in your own company, explore yourself internally, experience times when you have more fun and insight by yourself than with anyone else. It's a bit difficult to get there at first, but when you arrive and stay for a while you'll be surprised how many others are trying to join you. So many you won't possibly have the capacity to entertain all. Best of luck, life only gets harder but if you really dig yourself above and beyond anything else it's a pretty good life. *hugs*

 

along with being my girlfriend, you're my best friend. fuck those people. I know you're lonely and sad, but we'll get through everything together