Boyfriend pushed on stomach

My boyfriend pushed on my stomach, saying "I dont want anything growing in there", I however secretly wish I was preggie, I think he does too, he's told me before he wants me to be, but anyway, would that of hurt me? Him pushing there? If I'm right, I should miss my period, but him doing that scared me. Please help answer my question, if you have any questions i will answer them.

 

that wouldn't hurt if you're just growing a little bud in there

 

but the gesture seemed to be pretty rude....

 

hmmmmmmmmm, if you are preg, it wont hurt you, its just a little weird on his part...maybe have a chat to him, find out what hes really thinking. goodluck hun.xxx

 

I think it would depend on how hard he "pushed" as to whether it would do anything to you...but if you think it would make you miss a peried then is it possible he was "pushing" a bit too hard?

How long have you been seeing this guy? And does he express himself in such a negative physical manner often?

 

Um, you're 17...not to be judgemental, but you need to stop and think before the two of you say you want to get pregnant...

Just a side-note...sorry...continue.

 

Babies float in water (amniotic fluid) so a little push wont' hurt, but anything that really hurts you could be a problem for the growing baby.

I'm with drumminmama, USE A CONDOM! You have time to make a baby, but motherhood isn't easy and without a commited father, and a decent income, you are adding to stress.

 

My 30- and 40-lb kids are jumping on my belly all the time (i'm 6-months pregnant at the moment), and it's never caused more than momentary discomfort. Unless you have massive cramping and bleeding (more than during a regular period) everything should be just fine.

 

Yeah, how hard did he push? You don't sound terribly upset, so I'm assuming you're not hurt. Still, that's creepy.


So, pressing on your teen-aged belly and saying that he wouldn't want anything growing in there is the extent of you family planning? Use condoms. Get on the pill. Run for your life. If he's not mature enough to say to you, "I don't want to have a baby right now. We're not ready. Let's use condoms.", then he isn't ready to be a dad. It seems to me that that's essentially what he was trying to say.

I would be surprised if a guy who didn't have the balls to talk about birth control would be man enough to stick around and do right by his kid. It's possible, but I wouldn't bet money on it. I say that as a third generation single mother.

It doesn't sound like you're using birth control. Thinking that you would like to have a baby is one thing. Kissing your youth goodbye is another. Take responsibility. Do the right thing. Protect yourself. You're young. Enjoy it. You have plenty of time to have kids later.

If you are pregnant, congratulations and good luck. I hope your parents are supportive.

 

I find it a little strange how many teenagers on the site want to have or have babies.

 

I agree. I have had the urge before to be a mother, but not when I was a teenager. I mean, seriously, unless you're a wealthy heiress, it's like planning to kill your social life and live in poverty.

If any teenagers are reading this and they want a baby, and maybe they crave unconditional love, I urge you to get a puppy!! Having a baby is a big freaking deal. It's not easy. And when the baby comes, if you decide maybe it isn't so fun and you weren't ready, you can't just change your mind. You're stuck.

(Almost) Anyone who feel the urge to have a baby in their teens is welcome to spend some time with my kids. We'll nip that urge in the bud.

 

quote: If any teenagers are reading this and they want a baby, and maybe they crave unconditional love, I urge you to get a puppy!

haha, sound advice! Its one step above a doll, but several below being in charge of another life before you've had one of your own.

 

In the long run be careful what you wish for or you will be 21 and have a 3 year old. If that's not what you want don't do it/ use a condom. I fyour witha guy who outright says he's not ready for a kid just wait till he finds out yoru pregnant. Are you trying to get pregnant or something somethings missing from yoru story

 

dont worry sweetie i want the same thing..my fiance just doesnt yet...and no it wont hurt you.

 

What is the rush? Gods these young ones act like if they don't have a baby right now the won't appear hip to the buddies (usual the case if you look hard).

Put on a rubber + birth control=no kids
Why not enjoy life first before saddling yourself down with one.

I agree with seamonster66-if you want unconditional love get a puppy. Babies happen to be very not love you little creatures.

sweetdreadlover: and how disappointed will you be if fiance decided he isn't ready for kids and won't be for several years? People do occasionally change their minds even if their partner swears up and down they won't.

kai-who has two more years to decided if she shall do the mom thing with or without a lover either way Bank of Sperm here I come!

 

As a teenager with an urge to have babies, I have to say that I agree with everyone else....USE A CONDOM!

You think you want a baby. Wait until you miss your period, when the reality starts to set in, when you start seeing things in your head looking not so merry-sunshine bright about your future.

Recently, I had a pregnancy scare with my boyfriend, whom I love dearly and think it will last. And I fight the urge to want babies every single day of my life. but once someone mentioned the possibility that I could be pregnant, and I started thinking of EVERYTHING that that would mean, I didn't want to go through it. I wanted to remain young and carefree.

Hon, live it up while you can! Don't tie yourself to THIS boy at THIS moment. Give yourself time to mature and feel life as just you, without the strings. And I'm not talking kid life, teenage life. I'm talking ADULT life.

 

My main concern here is that her BF actions smacked of ABUSE! I would RUN, not walk away from this immature BOY. He isn't Father Material.

I am still confused, are your pregnant, honey, or not?

Please, small abuses lead to larger ones. It won't stop. It won't get better on it's own. Seek help and get yourself safe.

Love,

Maggie

 

This is the truth. Abusers will test the water and see how much bullshit and abusive behavior you'll tolerate.

Think about that. He thought there might be a baby in your belly, so he pushed on it?!

He wanted to see if you'd put up with that.

It only gets worse. And once you're pregnant by a guy like that, you're so screwed. Now he has rights. Now you're obligated to be involved in one way or another with him until the kid is grown.

Think about it.

 

My thoughts exactly, Maggie, Levi. He pushed you in the stomach!?! Was he trying to cause a miscarriage if you were pregnant?


Please, as someone who has a child with an abuser, get OUT NOW.