The whole thing goes like this: I like this girl called Samantha, she goes to the same college as i do but a year younger than me.Well, in St. V day I sent her a letter but I never got a proper response from her, just heard stuff from her friends but about that I didnt really care but this whole thing have been going on for about a while now. Last Friday a good friend of mine invited me to one of his friends party, it happens to be that the party was organized by the best friend of Samantha (the girl I "like") I knew shew was going to be there so I didnt really mind as she didnt really have the "guts" in a way to tell me that she either like me or didn`t like me, oh well. anyways, I went to the party with 3 other friends, had a lot of fun dancing around and drinking and about 1 1/2 hrs into the party I started to dance with Samantha`s best friend and we started to talk. Before I didnt really know the girl but then we were talking and dancing around quite closely which was all cool but then we sat down and started to talk about what Sam said about my letter and stuff...saying that she didn`t want to give me an answer because she didn`t want to hurt me and all that lame ass excuses but then we started to talk about relationships n things like that which made me realise the great girl she is and stuff. We were talking and Im not a relationship guy anymore (for a while) and she told me that she wasnt either because she wants to have fun. Getting to the point, I still like Sam even though in a way she said she doesn`t like me (in a lame ass sort of way) because im not the type of guy who gives up that quick but also I started to really fancy her (Sam`s best mate) and I been thinking about her a lot for the last 2 days, my head is a mess right now because in a way I fancy her but its too soon to tell her (I dont want to ruin the whole thing) so i don`t know what i should do. I haven`t really met a girl as interesting and nice as her (not Sam,her best friend) Any advice from you could help me quite a lot Thank you for reading.
well, first, i think you are giving this way too much thought. second, when you said you weren't a "relationship guy" you could have turned her off a bit. instead of, "i just want to have fun", she may have meant, "i would like to be in a fun relationship". you shouldn't ever talk about having a relationship until the first date (if you must). even so, it seems to me that you do like relationships, but only with the right person. so don't think about long-term, think short-term. ask her on a casual date. have something silly planned. or whatever, just find out what she likes to do. is she creative? does she like movies? just be her friend and she may or may not grow to like you more. that's all you can do. just dont be bothered by it. keep your cool and be wise. good luck. ps-if that doesn't work, ask her if she wants to eat bologny off your dick
