Stupid question, one of moral conflict I suppose but just looking for other opinions on it. Last summer at 15, I made the mistake of sleeping with someone for the first time, and there isn't anything I regret more. That's very blunt I know, but there's no other way to dance around the issue. I haven't engaged in any activity of the sort since then, because I know I wasn't ready and I've been trying to keep away from guys that only want that from me. So now, a year later, I've finally met someone that I really, really like, and we're not even dating but I was just wondering if asked the question, by that person, if I was a virgin or not, if it would be unreasonable to say that i was, because according to my emotions and heart, I feel like i am. would it be wrong to tell a white lie on a technicality?
i dont think you should lie, if he like you like you like him it should not matter if you have had sex before.what does it matter if you have or not ? i would tell him, but you do what your heart tells you too.
Don't know.. I wouldn't lie. Never did And maybe after a certain age, its also assumed that you are not a virgin so the question isn't asked anymore.
u just lied. LOL what if lets say fabio wanted to have sex with you only if you were a virgin would u say ur not a virgin if you were?? NO what about angelina jolie.. HAHA if i wasnt a virgin and she would only sleep with me if i was i would say hell ya im a virgin ahah .. cmon its angelina..ANYWAYS srry in ur case dont lie unless hes a nice peace of ass lol jk peace chickens
Why exactly do you want to lie about your virginity? I do think that it is wrong to lie about it, but do what you have to do I guess.
When I was a kid I lied and said I was not a virgin when i was...didn't want the girl I actually lost my virginity with to know that she was the first so i invented some crap story about a girl at the beach.
i don't think you should lie.i think you owe it to your partners to let them know about your past, and whether you have practiced safe sex. if anything, tell him that you have had sex, and that it was a mistake that you regret. no details necessary. unless the guy is a wierdo, i doubt it is really going to bother him too much.
If you want to have a relationship with someone, and lie about a big part of your life, then what kind of relationship can you have? If some guy bases whether or not he wants to be with you on the fact that you are a virgin or not, it's not worth your time or effort to deceive him. Find someone who can accept you for who you are, not who they want you to be.
I think I'm with everyone here...don't lie. If you end up with this guy for a long time it is just something that will end up haunting you. He'll have more respect if you just tell him like it is.
oh man, my boyfriend did that to me. it really hurt cause i was a virgin too, and i really thought he was and it absolutley crushed me when i flat out asked to rid ourselves of the ambiguity and he said actually 'no.' i didn't see that coming at all. i felt like shit for the rest of the day, then i came over the next morning and he said "i'm really sorry, i have something to tell you," and explained how he had lied. it really confused me, but i guess i was relieved to finally hear the truth? but you know, paranoid personality... it still makes me wonder, even though i feel like i can trust him more than anyone, whether or not i'm his first. maybe i should ask again sometime.
thank you everyone for your coments. the only reason i was thinking about it is because the guy that i like so much, is such a good person, in terms of morals and ideals, and i'm sure he is himself a virgin, a place I wish I was too. I was only afraid that he would think less of me if he found out that I had done that at such a young age, or think I was a whore or something, or not understand that I would give anything to take it back. And also, because I always wanted to wait for someone so special that it just felt right, and I'm so sure he's the one..not that asshole from last year. And since I've already screwed it up, I needed a little help on how to handle it.
Well, when you get to the point in your relationship when it is appropriate to talk about sex and virginity, if he is a good guy like you think, he will not think of you as a whore or a slut. He will see that you are simple a person who has made a mistake (just like every one makes mistakes). He will appreciate your honesty and the fact that YOU trust HIM enough to talk to him about it. Good luck, sweetie!
Don't lie! I once did that and felt completely stupid having to tell the person otherwise. Just if he ever asks make sure to tell him exactly what you put in your first post, that you regret it, you weren't ready, you feel like a virgin emotionally, yada yada yada. I'm sure he'd understand, who wouldn't? And if not, well then we all know what sort of person he is, but I think you'd have to be braindead not to understand that anyway. You'll be fine m'dear.
I don't know whether to take you seriously or not but oh my god I cry for the future if this is all young people know of morals and ethics. Bad enough to see the atrocious word usage. Don't you mean "piece" of ass? And people, if it's so hard to type "sorry" or "your," take a damned typing class. It's really not hard to type ALL the letters in your words... -Jeffrey
