I need a womens point of view

Let me tell you my situation.I have a daughter thats 10.Me and her mother separated about 8 yrs ago since then she has gotten married and had three other kids.About 5 monthes ago I went to see my daughter in IN.We all had a blast.Over the course of the day me and her mother started talking about us and the past wich was fine and then she got into her currant situation with her husband that she thinks hes been cheating on her wich this conversation totally caught me off guard.We talked about it and I asked if she was sure and she told me that the other womans husband came over and started fighting her husband and told him to stay away from his wife but she wasnt still sure if he was.I said to myself come on.So we talked some more and she asked me the question did i ever cheat on her and I told her no i would have never cheated on her for the simple fact at the time that she was my daughters mother and my best friend and still my best friend.she started crying.Im glad my daughter was sleeping in the back seat because I would of not want her to hear this.So then she asked me if I thaught if we could ever workout again.I told her no because there is just to much time between us and she is married now.She had a nerves brakedown.then she told me she wanted me to stay and then my daughter woke up and we pulled over at a gas station so my daughter could go to the bathroom with an hr. to catch my plane she started argueing with me just to stay and if i didnt I would be makeing the biggiest mistake of my life. I told her she was crazy and me and my daughter went for a walk to let her cool down and missing my plane I spent another nite in IN.When we got back her husband called her on her cell phone asking where she was by this time it was about midnight.Well anyways I spent the night at the airport and flew home in the morning crying on the plane all the way home because that bastard hurt her.Like I said this woman is my best friend and we were best friends way before anything had happend between us.But now 5 monthes have passed and Im beginnig to think maybe I made a big mistake leaving.I mean I havent seen my daughter in 5 months and I realize now I still have feelings for my daughters mother.Now I'm going to see my daughter in a couple of weeks.How should I handle the situation?Should I just forget what happend and have a good time with my daughter assumeing she was on the rebound?or tell her how i really feel?I dont know im so lost.Please give me some advice.
thank u,jamie

 

oh man! thats tough. It's really difficult but if she still loves you and you still love her, and you have a daughter why not go for it. But then again she is married. So if she is willing to split up with her current husband I think that would be good. It does sound like he's cheating on her and if she wants you to come back I think that now would be a good time to do it. Maby chill with your daughter for a while then talk to the mother a few days before you leave so that you guys have time to work on it, don't wait until just before the plane to tel her, but also you don't want to mess up the time with your daughter. She also has kids with this other man and I know that some women wouldn't want to leave their kids behind too. Have I even been any help? You just need to talk to her. Really talk.

 

You're being used.

 

thats not a nice thing for anyone to be in, i think what you should do is 1 - talk to your daughters mum, explain to her how you feel and things, 2 - make sure you daughter doesnt hear anything and that no one tells her, cause she might think great mum and dad are getting back together but then u dont and that will break her heart. see if your daughters mum achally has feeling for you or just feels sad and alone cause of the cheating - she might want someone to support her and things, if she isnt happy with the dude she is with get her to end it, wait a few weeks then see. she might be trying to get bak at you for something so dont jump in 2 deep. i dont know what else to say but if i do i will add on - hope it helped though xxx

 

thank you for your help wiggy and kayahaze.you guys are rite.I really dispise her husband for this another things in the past.I just hope i didnt waite to long. but dealing with this situation has been hard and im glad to get it off my chest.

 

i don't have any advice but i hope it works out

 

thanks shampoo

 

hey good luck with everything. i hope it all works out for you. the one thing you must do is put your little girls feelings before her mothers. If you think that its not 100% and may not last, how will that affect the little one? I advise you just enjoy the company of them both and follow your intuision. good luck chicken, let us know how it all work out ok?

 

I can't go giving advice on this but I can say that you do know what to do. In your mind you might feel it isn't the right decision but in the end you will do what is best for you and your daughter.

 

I really hope it works out for the best....If you both still have feelings for one another and he is truly cheating on her, you should see how things would work out...just make sure she still has feelings for you and that she wasn't on the rebound...8 years is a while, but if yall truly love one another being apart shouldn't keep you apart....when all else fails follow your heart....i hope i helped some...good luck