I'm having problems letting go of an old friend. I don't really want to, but I think if I did, I'd feel a lot better. He treats me like crap, and I don't want to deal with his excuses anymore... "I hate myself for loving you..."
That's a hard one Duckie. I tend to just drift away from people like that. Sometimes you have to realise there's a difference between a friendship and a bad habit.
if he treats you like crap, you have 2 choces, 1..try to talk to him about how hes been treating you & how it makes you feel.. but if that don't help..walk away.. if he's treating all his freinds that bad & they all have the courage to 1st try talking & then walk away.. he'll hopefuly realize how hes been acting affects people ..& himself since he'd be losing all his freinds.. talkng 1st is important however..cause he may be suffering from deep personal problems that are causing him to act this way good luck
Trying to talk it out first is a good idea, if for no other reason you can walk away knowing you tryed. I've become a little jaded on the concept myself. If someone's dealing with their misery by trying to make other people miserable you might be able to get them to change their behavior but basicaly you'd still be dealing with someone you can't trust. Trying to find out why he's acting the way he is would be kind, but you'd be doing yourself a bigger favor by trying to figure out why you're letting him. A bad friend is the worst kind of enemy.
thanks a lot...I just need to find a time to talk to him...face to face, not over the phone, or through internet...and work up the courage.
