serious fucking help needed...NOW

ok, my girl just told me this last night but it just settled in right now(like you know how when someone tells you something big and it takes a little while to register) and now I'm freaking really bad...
ok I went to her house last night, every thing was like normal. then she was acting a little weird like she was kinda not paying attention just like getting lost in thought. so I asked what she was thinking about and if something wrong, she was like a lot of stuff, so I said like what (thinking it was about her father bc she some times gets like this after she visits with him, they don't get along). she was like I can't tell you now, not till I know for sure. now I was all curious so I ask a few times. she said no I'll tell you when I find out for sure probably on sat., so I was like whatever I didn't want her to get mad, so I stopped asking. that like 5 minutes later she was like I'll tell you, but you have to promise not to worry...ok, I was just thinking about well, I'm late....so after I figured out what she meant (lol I'm a guy it takes a min to figure what she means by late, and what was late) she said she was like 8 days late, and not to tell anyone at all, but on sat. she's getting a test bc it's her day off so she will go to the store...but now I'm freaking out what should I do, I used a condom every time, well we only did it 3 times, but I made sure to use one...
- is there any other thing she can be late from? she said she never was before???
- how could the condom not work??
- I don't know, if she is how will I tell my parents, they will kill me, literally, I'm not just kidding they will KILL me, dead, DOA, 187, swimming with the fishes, KILL ME...like I'm scared to tell them alone, maybe in a public place so they wont be able to strangle me, well not for that long before some one stops them...or I should wait till I go out and call so the calm down be for the get there hands on me...

well whatever happens I'll be there for her, I'm not going to be one of those guys that leaves bc of that, that's just wrong...I would never be able to look a myself the same if I did. people that do that are totally heartless and selfish, I mean it's just as much there fault...and I love her to much to ever do that to her, she's so perfect for me...

oh god I need a bottle of vodka or something or anything, just to calm the nerves...
I'm seriously totally fuckin screwed if she is...but I guess all things do happen for a reason, they have to, right? (reinsurance please)

 

Whew.. that is a tough one, bro -- I'm feeling for ya. I'd totally advise her doing one of those at-home-test things, but, for what it's worth.. my girlfriend has been late before (up to 10 days) and it can be brought on by all kinds of shit. For her, it's usually stress. Sounds strange and I couldn't tell you the exact reasons why, but apparently high levels of stress can effect when you get it.

Did she start any new medication anytime soon?


Much luck,
Ganja_Goo

 

if yer big enough to have sex, then yer gotta be big enough to handle a pregnancy, if it's unwanted or not.....

Don't panic, a kid should only keep yer busy for the next 20yrs or so....and yer might enjoy some of it

It sounds like yer parents will be doing enough stressing for both of ya...all yer can do is buy a test and take yer young lady to the doxy for an apointment to make sure all is well

 

Okay Im a girl..... and ive missed periods just out of stress. If shes been stressing lately like ALOT ... like if something is on her mind, or even if shes thinking that she is pregnant she can miss from that... It also depends on how healthy she is, like if shes not eating enough lately or even if shes been depressed. Ask her if shes been feeling down, stressed, out of it, or anything like that........ 8 days is quite a while so she should get a test, but just letting you know it could be just fine too. either way you need to find out. If she is pregnant, i would recommend you guys going to the doctor FIRST before you tell the parents because tests are pretty accurate but can be easily misread. so take her to the doctor *they are really nice about this kind of stuff* and get some recommendations about the morning after pill, birth control. dont freak out about it, everything will work out, and im sure you wont end up dead. You respect her enough to not leave if she is pregnant.... and i know you care otherwise you wouldnt freak out about it and just leave.....You seem like a nice guy and I hope everything works out okay!!
Peace,
peaches

 

If she's around your age, teenage periods are messed up. It could definetly be stress, during the school year I'll sometimes not have a period for a couple months. If she's stressing about being pregnant it could put her period off even longer if she isn't.

Good luck!

 

Try not to panic. Wait until you know for sure and then discuss with her, before anyone else, what all your options are (if she is pregnant). Its not the end of the world. I hope you can work it out.

 

lol that was really cute, in a funny way

 

there's a big joke on us girls. We're maybe a day late, so we start to worry, which leads to stress. Stress makes us be later yet, which makes us more stressed, which makes us even later..... it's just not good.

Wait 'til she gets the pregnancy test to spaz out with stress. You'll figure it out then. It could be really fulfilling to have a kid.

Kindly suggest another form of birth control on top of condoms, like the pill/patch/iud/ring/depo/diaphram. Probably the pill or patch is the way to go, they're quite effective and a little more trustworthy than the other ones when it comes to sideaffects.

 

That's some heavy shit, been there, scarey!

'Bottom line is, if it works out for the "worst" <best?>, my hat's off to you, man, you gotta great attitude about it, and it sounds like it could work out, so go with it...

...Around three years, nine months ago, the same thing happened to me, and it wasn't exactly easy for her either...

...My daughter's three years old today, and she's the best thing ever!

 

god bless!
don't worry.

 

Why would your parents kill you? I know my parents would be angry, but they would want me to tell them.

 

wow...
that really sucks..
I hope she isnt preggo..
i think she is just as worried as you are.
what if she is? will you two move intogether? will you be able to support a child??
will she get an abortion if she is pregnant? or is she willing to keep the baby?

These are all important things to consider hun...
for your sake, and hers I prey she isnt pregnant.. sigh

 

ive been in your girlfriends situation... and its not nice. its like a constant knot in your stomache. comfort her and tell her even if she is she wont be alone. and there's always the option of abortion, i dont no how you feel about that though. i think pregnancy is a miracle, whether planned or not.... i hope it works out

 

don't worry 'till ya know, it could just be she is a teen and stressed just like everyone else here is saying
and if worse comes to worse (not saying it will) it actually isnt the end of the world, there are tons of options to help you.
anyway tell her the pill is good, condoms are good, (nice call with the rubber) and if she ever gets worried in the future if she is not opposed you can always go to planned parenthood and invest in the morning after pill. It is a lot less expensive than a child

 

Like you are like 18 dude like you know? Like how can like your parents like do anything like you know? Oz like said like you were like old enough like to have like sex so stop like acting like a little like sissy now that you like think you got her like pregnant like you know? Hope you like have a like job that like can like support this kid if she is. It would like be nice if like you become like this example for like these other kids like around here that like continue like having sex like at some young age like you know? Like man up you sissy like how you think you like manned up when you were like having sex and confront this situation like head on.

 

Funny shit MHR

 

Like for sure! haha

 

Like you took the words like. Never mind.. Getting old fast.

 

So, is she up the stick, or what?

RE: how could the condom not work??

Tears/rips/holes. It happens. Failure rate on those is 10%. Hope you weren't counting on those to keep you from getting AIDS, either.

If your parents will kill you over this, you shouldn't be doing it. Sex has consequences.

 

hmm.... I'm not one to completely promote abortion. but thats always a choice. .... I feel so heartless saying that. but i mean if you and her are not in the proper circumstance to bring a baby into a loving nurturing environment then .... i dunno. i should shut up.