wTF is WronG wiTh me?-sex related question

umm.. hun? haha yea right..
I have never had a boyfriend before.
and these guys are not my "HUN's"...
and 99% of the time I cannot control what they want and when they want it. period... they are stronger, and yea... im not.

 

k, you make it sound like rape. That's terrifying. "No" is in your power, why on earth would you want to be with someone, boyfriend or no, who you feel doesn't respect your wants and will overpower you because they're stronger? Ok, maybe I'm reading too much into this, but it sounds like none of those experiences were particularly good.

 

I'm not suggesting you try and control what they do. I'm suggesting you control what you do.

 

I agree with ihmurria, and this post sounds pretty fucked up!

 

your right.. none were good ecperiences..

 

threads like this make me stop and think... why are there dudes out there that refuse to take the time to make sure she gets hers first? If you make sure she is taken care of, she will take care of you, and come back for more! WOW... if I only knew then, what I know now...

 

So you used to be on of the guys I am reffering too??

so they do grow out of it??

 

hey dreamr, if i remember, didnt you just have some random drunk bar hook ups, as opposed to dating, getting to know each other, then getting into bed? i tell you, ive never been as good for a girl that i didnt know as i was for one that i was involved with for a while. I think everyones watching too much porn these days. Real life aint porn, man! its better.

 

No I have never even been to a bar befor... I am 18 underage in canada to enter bars.. I dont know where you are getting your info from.

possibly my other post??

Well in that case you read it wrong.
I dont just meet guys and fuck them.
I have never had a real boyfriend before, and i have only had sex with two guys in my whole life, and they broke my heart REALLY bad... hence Why I am scared of relationships.. Guys scare me, i hate not knowing whats in their head. one min they are nice to me the next they are total pigs.

 

hmm sorry. i misinterpreted you. (i did read one of your posts a long time ago). So how long did you know them for before you were sleeping together, and then before they broke your heart? (my highschool sweetheart made me wait 2 yrs before we went all the way.)

i really cant give you any advice, but instinctively, i feel like you dont feel very good about yourself... i.e. "wtf is wrong with 'ME' ". 95% of the guys out there arent going to be right for you. 95% of the girls out there arent right for me. its not your fault, thats just how it is. dont give your heart away quite so easy, and it wont get stomped on by someone who doesnt really value you. and guys are immature and incapable of communicating until theyre like 25 anyway. i better stop before i really dishearten you.

 

well this one guy i met over the internet. i slept with him right away, the first time we ever met in person, i lost my virginity to him.

the other guy i met through a friend. he seemed to be really nice and caring.. but yea he cared more about money and about his friends then me...