Problem, any advice?

Okay, this has to do with my job. I'm only 17. I work at a Dairy Queen. The work is, as you would guess, quite easy. There is a co-worker there who treats me like pure shit, and criticizes EVERYTHING i make. I find myself getting agitated more and more as we work together. Ive had thoughts about quitting, but I dont want to quit just because of a co-worker. This is my first job. Ive stayed with it for about 3 months. Im only making 5.15 an hour. This isnt enough to expand on. I understand you get a raise after about 3 or 4 months, but its only up to 5.75 an hour. Ive talked with one of my managers and she told me that she's been trying to get me on the 'food side', this would move me away from my co-worker problem. Im not sure whether to start looking for another job or not. She has told me she wants to kick my ass and has badgered me. Im a very peaceful person, I hate confrontation. If she had tried to fight me I would walk away. But Im just concerned on whether to stay or go.

Can anyone give me some advice, Ive been very stressed about this. Even when I smoke I find myself thinking about this problem.

Please help.

 

first off if your happy with the job..stay.. someone like that wont last there too long, its just a matter of time before her problems cause a situsation which will get her fired.

perhaps the best approach is to just alnowledge her remarks then ignore em.. make it fun..like if she says "youyr a bith i will besat you up" just say well, i'm just glsad youve spent so much time thinking about me"
u could truy figuring out what is goung on inside her head.. but i havea feeling shes got deeper problems ayt home..
dont take it personal

 

oh..& dont think of dairy queen asa career..lol you shouldnt feel pressured to leave cause of her..but what could it hurt to keep an eye open for something beter

 

Thanks, she has been there longer than i have though. for almost 2 years or so.

and Im hoping to become a psychologist when I get older. and then eventually open up a bar and grill and be one of the bartenders every once and awhile

thanks lots though

 

psychologist/bartender..hmm well dairy queen isnt much of a step along that path is it maybe ya could look into finding something thats slightly mote related?

 

is she your manager? if so quit, if not tell her to fuck right off.

 

try and get a new job anyway...the pay can only be better.

if you want to open a bar, I'd say get into the restaurant business now...they'd hire you.

And be sure to give her a big smile and middle finger on your way out the door.

 

either put up with it or quit. Jobs like that tend to be really shitty. but unless you have something better, you deal with it.

 

have you let your boss know that she's actually threatening you? i think that might make a difference. i know at my job it takes them months to actuallly switch your area. also, you could take note of when she's working and change your availability so that you're not available at that time.

 

Like Eagle Has Said, Kill Her With Kyndness...She's Probably Got Some Real Issues In Her Personal Lyfe To Be Treating You This Way. Try To Be Strong And Look At It This Way, Be It That You've Put Up With Such Abuse Makes You A Better, Stronger Person...And You Should Be Proud Of That. Your Loyalty To This Job Is Also Comendable, But If You Feel That It's Too Much To Put Up With For $5.15 An Hour, Go And Fynd Better Work...I'm Sure You Could Do Whatever It Is That You Would Like To Do : )

 

Sorry For Double Posting!

 

maybe she's threatened by you, or maybe she's just psychotic. either way jump her ass and kick it hard! then you can start your next job with the confidence you will need to be either a bartender or a psychologist.

Love

 

Either you will decide to continue working or to leave, you should talk with your co-worker and find out what's really wrong with her. It's possible, that she's jeallous, but most people are trying to hide themselves behind masks, or act like robots, so sometimes you need a little patience to reveal their true identity. They often aren't as bad as they looks. Maybe you don't understand each other. To show some kindness and respect is a good begining.
I had a similar problem in my school, when one of my classmates criticized and bullied me in all ways possible, till i talked to him and said (he was jeallous because i'm nerd and i always get high marks) that brains and success instead of making me happy makes me sad, because sometimes it's difficult to see so many imperfections of our world, and it's even more difficult to feel powerless... I named several features which he should be proud of and suggested to improve himself, and now we're quite a good friends.
All i want to say is that sometimes it's bad to put your problems aside, or try to escape them, because that crap piles up, untill it begins to make chaos in your heart, and sometimes it's very difficult to find harmony again.

Sorry for such a long post .

 

yo u shouldnt have to take that crap from ne one in the 1st place...i would look fro another job and if ya cant get one then stick wit the one ya got for now


hope it works out
peace

 

I thought minimum wage was up to 7 something now...? Do whatever makes you happy, don't stick around if it pisses you off.

 

personaly i'm alergic to bosses & dont see any value in working to make someone else rich.. since youre only making $5 somethijng an hour, why not concider working for yourself? perhaps you have a marketable skll or craft? i made jewlery for many years & loved it.. another freind is a macrobiotic chef & gets paid a ton of $ to cook for people who have more $ then inspiration.. be creative & find something you enjoy, since your young & don't really "ned" a ton of $ you hsve an advantage, you can build your biz at your own pace without worry of debt.. the advantage of this is every hour you work, everything you earn goes right to you, intead of 60-75% gong to the lazy fuckers above ya who sit back & wait for your hard work to make them rich.
sell yourself.. your skills.. wether its your craft or service, & encourage everyone who are clients or customers to tell theyre freinds.. but be sure you choose something you really enjoy cause once you've put work into it it will continue to grow.. at that pint if your very busy & making good $.. ya dont want to suddenly realuize its making you miserable..
just an idea.. its not for everyone.. butworth concidering.
good luck with whatever you decide.

 

unless you want ulsers you should probably quit

 

i want to thank everyone for all of their advice. and no min. wage in maryland is still 5.15

soaringeagle- my bosses are VERY nice, its just some coworkers that are stupid. but about the not liking to work for others thing, this is why i was hoping to open that bar and everything, it would just take awhile. thank you so much.

everyone else- she doesnt work at all this week so, thats a relief. but i believe they are trying to get me to work away from her. thank you all so much as well.

 

It is unfortunate that there are people like that in the world. She obviously is jealous of something you do or have caught a wrong vibe somehow. Best thing would be, to continue on (if you like your job) and push to be moved to another area, to ignore the shit (it's hard to, isn't it) and to be nice to her - being nice in a genuine and not smarmy way, to bullies, bores them - they see they can't get to you and if they see you smiling and being happy, they will move on. And, if they then choose to do it to someone else and so on... Hopefully they will fire her.

Is that you in the pic in your sig? Cute!