Alright so this pretty good friend of mine just broke up w/his gf (of a few years) about 3-4 days ago. On the day they broke up, and one day since then she's called me and kinda tried to conversate with me and showed an interest in wanting to hang out. That's not something that she woulda done before...she's never really hung out with me before without being with her boyfried. I'm kind of thinking that maybe she's just looking for a way to get back at my friend...but I suppose she could genuinely be suddenly interested in me. I would like to hook up with this girl, but that's just a VERY sketchy situation to all of a sudden go hanging out with her like that when my friend is still all broken hearted and shit. At the same time I don't really know what to tell this girl to let her know that maybe now's not the best time to be hanging out, but maybe sometime soon (how soon?)? The thing about that though is that there really hasn't been any acknowledgement of any kind of relationship or whatever, and I can't really say anything without it seeming like a relationship with her is what I have in mind, get it?
firstly, i think you are just a rebound for her.. she is probably depressed about the situation, and you are easy access.. I think you should turn her down, think about it this way... if you end up dating this girl and your friend finds out, he will be pissed.. and walah, your friendship will be over in a blink of an eye.. I can sence that happening.. maybe is just me though.. what do you care about more... your friend, or your friends ex?
nope don't do it. you will lose a friend and then once her rebound crush is over she will dump you and there you are alone . you won't have him as your buddy and no chick. be a good friend and tell her to f off!
Geez. . .The more postings like this I see on this forum, the more I feel like Dear Abby. But what the hey -- I've been there and I hate to see people make the same dumb mistakes I made, so here goes. . . I'll give you basically the same advice that I gave a girl who just broke up with her boyfriend and asked about casual dating: Don't even think about dating this girl for awhile. She needs time to heal emotionally from the break-up of her relationship. It's one thing for someone who's just broken from a relationship -- especially if the break-up was nasty -- to turn to one's friends for comfort and emotional support. It's something else entirely for that person to be dating anyone when he or she need time to recuperate. You need to relay this message to your friend loud and clear -- with the addition that as her friend, she can count on you for whatever emotional support you can give her during this period. That's what REAL friendship is about. Put your own romantic interest in this girl on the back burner for now. Patience is a virtue -- and when it comes to affairs of the heart, it's an absolute necessity. Right now, she needs a friend she can trust more than she needs a partner. -- Skeeter
First off the word is "converse" not "conversate". You "converse" with someone. It conjugates thusly: "I converse, you converse, he converses, she converses, we converse, you converse, they converse."
FORGET what this woman wants! This is your friend first and formost. Its against the unspoken rules, YOU DON'T DATE A FRIENDS EX. Some think there are stipulations against this rule, such as if you are going to loose a friend over this you better be serious about the chick. There are too many people on this planet to have to recycle friends exs. Also, the trust will be broken between friends, no matter what you tell your friend, he will always think you were checking her out while they were together. Its not worth it. Don't do it.
Yeh you sort of have a point but not really. Just because you go out with a friends Ex isnt anything against the friend i dont think. If this does ruin the relationship then i think its more the person whos broken up with their Ex's problem because why aren't they just happy for their friend to see that there is a better match there? Sometimes people are too bitter... I dunno, im tired and it may not make sense, but there is always more then 2 ways to veiw something. Dont be black and white when colours are so beautiful...
