Honestly guys.... Do you care at all?

There are very few guys who would care about how good their "chick mates" (we'll call ourselves that) day went and actually had some advice for you if it didnt go so well. I think some guys just pretend they care.

Some guys care about what girls think, but they all do when it has something to do with sex.

sex will always be an issue between male and female friendships in my opinion.

I have guy mates that are exactly the same. Give a guy some alcohol and all of a sudden that barrier of not finding eachother attractive suddenly doesn't exist to them lol.

 

I don't believe sex is always an issue between male and female friends. In fact, three of my closest female friends are are into modeling and, as far as I know, there is no sexual inuendos involved. I can agree that they are very attractive but I am, in no way other than as friends interested in them. So I don't agree that the looks of the person has everything to do with what guys are interested in. On the other hand there are quite a few guys around that are only interested in sex and don't really care otherwise, but there are also just as many around who do care. I don't even think that age of the guys is the biggest determinant of their desires either. When I was in high school I was the same as I am now. I went to a small school (85 graduating class) I was pretty good friends with about half of the guys and the majority of us were genuinely friendly with the girls (even the hottest ones) and our interactions never revolved around sexual incentives.


Well, now lets here more about your take and reply to all of this. After all, it appears as if many of us do want to hear from you and your experiences.

 

im a great caring guy friend.. atleast i think so..

my best mate is one of the most beautiful sexy people i know in my eyes.. and i had the hugest crush on her before i met my girlfriend.. but since then (3 1/2years ago..) ive just asserted myself as a guardian and make sure shes safe whenever i can.. stick near her at parties at shit when she gets too drunk and make sure noone can make a move on her like that etc..

 

Have you ever heard of brittney spears or pamela anderson? They have to be two of the stupidest women in the celebrity world, but you don't have to be a celebrity to be a dumb bimbo. There are alot of them man, wake up!

 

You are in the wrong company, you should ditch all these asshole dudes that "don't care". There are folks that care very much that you will be MUCH happier to be around.

 

Shadowd,

Yes, men and women are very different!

I was watching a documentary a few nights ago and it said that generally women are interested in people (talking about relationships etc) and men are interested in non-people things, just plain facts.

In general, men are more competitive, and they have more testosterone which can drive them to be more successful in a competitive scenario, although badly controlled testosterone levels can cause a man to act stupidly. Men only really use the right side of the brain, so they are less emotional and more logical, and are more spatially aware. Men find it harder to do more than one thing at once.

Women use the whole brain in a more balanced way and are way better at empathy, and they care more about people, and understand what other people are feeling better. Women are more emotionally intuitive.

Men really do put sex before anything else. Sex is the most important thing to men. (Perhaps because long ago when we evolved it was always the man who initiated sex, so the women didn't need to think about it, just to comply with the men?)

But despite these differences, we are all intelligent creatures who can make what we want of ourselves. Both men and women are capable of the same things, and just because men generally put sex first doesn't mean they don't care about people, or they are incapable of reading emotions.

All men are different: some (like some women) are complete idiots who treat their partners like rubbish. Some men are more emotionally sensitive and, despite wanting sex, would always put the relationship first.

I'd like to think that I fell into the latter category. (Perhaps demonstrated by my taking the time to reply to this question?) I think about sex a lot. Not every minute. Not every hour. Sometimes I can go all day without thinking about sex. But I have a strong appetite for sex and I can't go more than a day or two without masturbating. But I've never slept around and I never would, because the relationship is the most important thing to me.

Yes. I think when it comes to relationships, men and women have the same desire to get to know each other and to share things with each other, but men perhaps place less importance on the actual relationship.

Maybe it's different for you because you're a teenager and likely most of the guys you know are a similar age. But when I think of all the guys I know, we all want a true relationship with a girl. Which means when we care about a girl we want to get to know everything about her, because that's what a relationship is all about.

Well, I can only speak for myself, but yes of course. If I asked a girl about her day and didn't want to know the answer then it wouldn't be a relationship at all, it wouldn't even be a friendship. I'd have to not like you to not want to hear about your day.

Friendships and sex are like TV and sofas. You can watch TV, and you can lie on a sofa, or you can do them both at once. But it's best when you do them both at once.

I am hoping that one day I'll find my soul mate who is my best friend and who can make me laugh more than anyone else, and I would care about deeply, and ask her about her day when she gets home every day, and then fuck her brians out. The two notions go very well together I think.

 

don't be a bitch to us.

of course i care what a woman thinks.
of course i want to hear about her day.

what do you think i am? indifferent? insensitive? uncaring?

don't group me in with your bad experiences with "boys." you should try dating men--because we're a lot different.

peace.

 

im not being a bitch to you?? was i?? i didnt mean to be a bitch to anyone...

its funny because all you guys say that you are interested etc... but in reality guys/men/boys are not interested in girls for their personality... mostly they only care about looks, then if the girl is nice to them they try to take it "all the way" no relationship or anything, just sex...



i find it hard to believe that all the guys here on hipforums do care...
I really hope to find someone that actually gives a flying -fuck what i think, or do... but it has yet to happen...

o and could you define men? haha

 

yea, i just fuck with hos to get what i want. ive had my heart broken to many times to even get in relationships anymore
screw

 

join the club bucko.

 

it sucks huh
screw

 

Do guys care about what a girl thinks at all?- Yes, its way more important than sex to me.

Do you ever ask a girl about her day and actually WANT to hear the answer?- It usually depends on how she answers, but if I cared it wouldn't mater, so yes.

or do you believe that boys and girls cannot be friends because the "sex" part always gets in the way?- Sure they can be friends... I just wish I had more friends in real life, who I called...

 

just a lil... hehe

 

you don't even have a clue. I don't know what world you're living in or in what strange way you percieve things, but, take it from a representative of the male sex when I say you couldn't be farther from the truth.

 

I think she is right on..
I can relate to everything she said in that post..

 

If you always just assume they don't care, then even if they did you wouldn't know, because you've already made up your mind that they don't, so what difference would it even make? You've made your choice obviously.

 

man, you hit the nail on the head. that's exactly what I was thinking!!!

You gotta feel sorry for people who think like that. I think they are in for a long road of troubled relationships ahead. Knowing that these ladies feel that way about guys it is no wonder why all of the guys around them think all they are good for is sex. I mean, what caring guy would want to involve himself in a relationship with a girl who thinks like that about guys?

I wonder how girls would feel about guys who think the same way about all girls?

 

you guys dont get it do you?
you have to understand that not all guys are like you..
you say you are caring etc, but are you?
i have no idea....

I am going by experience here...
maybe its just my city... All the guys here are pricks, or only looking for one thing.

if i met a nice guy, who actually cared to know about me... then i wouldent think this way.. so you've got it wrong. I have not "made up my mind" I am a very open minded person, I would love to meet a nice guy to settledown with.. but there are none around.

 

But it will be a lot harder to notice if you expect them to always not be like that. Sort of a self fulfilling prophecy.
Or... Perhaps the non caring type is generally more attracted to you than the other? Who knows?

 

you like to use the sarcastic smilie dont you?

humm..

anyways, I have to say that you got this all wrong..
heres how it goes...

(just an example)
a guy will come up to me, introduce himself.
I introduce my self, he gets me a drink.
We talk for a couple hours, maybe go for a walk..

I give him my number...

a couple days later he'll call. And ask me to come over to watch a movie.
I say ok. So i drive over, and go into his house.
We smoke some weed, have a couple beers. start a movie..

He starts to put the "moves" on me.. I usually go with it, or i'll tell him not to move so fast... it depends on the situation and the guy..

blah blah blah...


we'll hang out several more times till i feel more comfortable around him..
I feel like things are going good.. he seems interested in my personality, and i am interested in knowing All i can about him..

Then BAM one day he just stops calling me...
or we'll make out, and then he tells his friends that he boned me, when it didnt happen...

Wallah, the story of my life right there...