Am I a magnet for saps?

girls having fun is apparently too much of a concept for some to take .....lil ones cute n she can do whatever as far as im concerned .....go fer it sweetie ....

 

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This is just farcical. Firstly, I cannot read the original thread;it's been edited. Which makes a lot of what follows difficult to grasp and comment on. Why have this thread at all, if the original post has been removed?!?!?

 

Ah! right ofcourse, tenderness would work under the post of "Am I a magnet for assholes" but see, she doesn't like tenderness, she needs an asshole who just uses her just like she uses these "saps".

She comes in here telling us she doesn't want "love" and after we don't respond with loving comments she backs out and bitches. The truth hurts.

 

Thats all you need to know.

 

Lol.... I think TheLittleOne is having some issues with realizing that love is a good thing... without love... the world is against you and you feel all alone. Perhaps the shock-value of this thread will never truly be understood, but I, for one, hope it did the trick. Sometimes it takes being an asshole in the mind of the other person in order to truly help them, but tough love like that should be used sparingly, in my opinion. However, I really think it was quite appropriate for this situation... Yeah, most of us were assholes, and yeah... it did cause her to bitch and moan at all of us, but what did we expect? Don't take it personally, and hope for the best... all of use have gone through something like this I'll bet. What kind of people would we be if someone never did us wrong, or stood up for something we never wanted to recognize? What if no one ever told us "no, you're being a dumbass!" here and there when we deserved it? We'd all be very shitty, ignorant, self-absorbed assholes without a lick of sense to our name. I don't think we did anything that didn't need to be done, and all we did was act as a random sampling of people offering their opinion on her situation. I think everyone deserves a gold star for tellin' her how it is from our different perspectives

 

And Zoomie, I've got a dick and yes, some ladies refer to it as "wonderful," but they never wonder about the very real presence of my dick. Now quit insulting people's penises because mine has a mind of it's own, and it's liable to jump down and kick your ass if you keep talking smack. What can you expect man... he's a dick... Anyways, tenderness is for pansies...

 

Glad I helped to solve that.

Well, if agreeing with you was the only way to help.. then I guess not.

Ahhh, but we do know your type and that's enough. We don't need to assume your a slut because you mentioned having sex with every damn guy you meet.

Respect? OHHHHHHHHHHHH you mean like the respect you should have shown all those guys?... AHHHHH I Get it! You want respect without giving it yourself. 10/4...read you loud and clear.

 

Was what I said really all that bad?

 

No! None of us should feel remorse for what we said. We processed the information that we were given (She likes to lead men on) and gave our personal feedback. Do not worry about it.

 

See, I didn't see it that she was leading them on. I saw it that anyone she slept with would fall in love with her and stick to her like stink on a monkey. And perhaps I misread but I thought she was telling them that she wasn't interested in a relationship. If a guy says "I don't want a relationship" it means he wants to get his dick wet. If a girl says "I don't want a relationship" she gets treated like a slut, or worse, like a slutty hearbreaker. This is a total double standard.

Why is it so wrong to NOT want to be in a relationship? Some people haven't the time. She's young and life is long.

 

The point was (at least mine) was if you make it CLEAR you don't want a relationship then you should not have 3 guys pursuing one. So the basic (and probably accurate) assumption was that she was not entirely clear with these guys. Their is no problem with not wanting a relationship, the problem is when you are not clear about your needs or wants, and then not own your involvement in the relationship that sex brings, even one-time sex but especially sex a few times.

 

When you don't want a relationship, yet you steadily fool around with the same guy for more than a week or so, then I think you've pretty much lead him on, even if you have told him you didn't want a relationship. I had a girl who didn't want a boyfriend, yet every single day she popped up and came by my dorm room, and not just a one time kinda surprise.... it was one of those "i was just walking by and uh... so, what are you up to? Can you teach me to play guitar while I try to seduce you?" kinda things...

When that had been going on for about a month or so, and she kept constantly coming over... that's when we first discussed dating. I never wanted a girlfriend when I first met her. I only invited her over because I thought she was cool and maybe I could get a one night stand kinda deal and have some fun. Then, without ever telling me she didn't want a relationship right then, she came by every damn day... We spent most of the day together on a regular basis, which was cool because she was a cool chick and I thought we could be good friends. She was a virgin, so I was kinda thrown off after that first night where I turned my game on and took her farther than she'd ever been, and then she told me that she wasn't ready to go all the way because she was still a virgin. Naturally, I was like "Well, we can solve that if you want?" but she said she wasn't ready, so I didn't press on and we just laid there and enjoyed each other's company. That's when she kept coming back, and life was good. Then I jokingly asked why she never called or let me know she was coming over. I made one tease about it being like we were dating, and that's when all the "I don't want a boyfriend" shit started... Then we had an arguement (this is all after a month or two of fooling around like naughty puppies on a daily basis) and we both said things we didn't mean, and we didn't talk for a day or two. Then she came back over, she jumped all over me, and then it all happened again. I made no mention of relationships for a while... and then she started getting jealous when I actually got some attention from another girl. I knew that she would have cried and hated me if I had done anything with that girl, so I didn't, but she still said she was never jealous at all... even though her closest friend other than me told me quite the opposite. All in all, that girl wanted a relationship, but she was afraid to surrender that power... the power you have as a single person... and she was afraid of getting hurt. She's still afraid of it, and she expects me to get back with her when she gets back to school... I dunno about all that, just because I think she needs someone to be "the one that got away"... On the other hand, I really felt close to this girl.... really close... I dunno if that would help, but who knows... I think this goes beyond just saying one thing and believing that's the truth.

I think TheLittleOne has been lying to herself, or just seriously confused on what she wants. Having sex without making things clear, and then staying there for a long time, sex or not... That means you're kinda in a relationship... Call it whatever you want... but it doesn't make it any different.... Call Fidel Castro a bastard murderer, but to many of his people, he's a freedom-fighter and a hero. She's just dating for her comfort and need, which makes her the victimizer because she's using these cats... Then she stays with them for a while, and expects them to leave because she has this arguement built up that she never wanted a relationship. She can win the arguement in her mind, yes, but to the rest of us... and especially those guys... she's only playin' herself if she thinks what she did was just. Just because Michael Jackson was aquitted doesn't mean that he was completely right in his relationship with those kids. Just because Hitler thought he was doing a public service with the holocaust, that doesn't make it ethically sound. Just because she said she didn't want a boyfriend, that doesn't mean she didn't actively participate in a relationship. It takes two to tango, bitches... and she mutha fuckin' tangoed!!! That's all there is to it...

 

Hey Zoomie.. you apparently did misread. In this line of hers she admits wanting to be with them, which means having a relationship, even if it's a short one to her.

I will admit, these guys are indeed saps, if they can't see past the sex and realize whats happened. However, they still are the victims of a cold hearted snake.

 

Thats different than a 1 nighter.

 

I removed my original post because I was getting too much negtive criticism and insults, and I refuse to let people terrorize me like that. So, I took my post off....

You people can go on saying what you want about me. I don't care. I'll just know better than to try and share my emotions with a bunch of insensitive, ignorant, gossiping, shit-mouthed people from a site i THOUGHT i was comfortable posting on.
And I hope you asinine grown ass men feel better about yourselves after you've insulted and verbally shit on me, a 19 year old girl. I could give a shit less about your judgemental, harsh opinion, hence the reason I'll never post a thread here again.
I hope you're all happy with your miserable selves. And don't try to fucking tell me I'm the miserable one! I'm perfectly comfortable and happy with myself. I don't need to cut people down like you do. I don't have to. You do. Congratulations.

 

See? Like I said, you're making ASSUMPTIONS about me....that i "sleep with every guy i meet"
fuck that
I hate people like you who assume things and judge me based on these nonfactual beliefs you've created in your head. If you want to gossip and judge like a little 16 year old girl, go ahead. But you're what, 33? I thought people your age would have maybe a little maturity by now...guess not.

 

And to those who still think I'm an undeserving slut who "sleeps with everyone I meet":


Perhaps the first guy liked me so much because he admired me for travelling to such amazing places to live and work. He thought I was the luckiest person in the world to do what i do....Maybe it's because we've known eachother for 3,4 years...maybe because we were already close friends....Am I still a slut?

Maybe the second guy, although he is "following me accross states" to work, likes me because I opened up better job opportunities for him. Maybe he's lucky because he has me as a connection in colorado for a better paying, more fulfilling job. Maybe he still wants to be with me, who knows? ...Am I still a slut??

Maybe the third guy here in CO likes me because he's had a crush on me since November, and has waited 8 months to express that to me. Maybe it's because we get along so well and live together. Maybe it's because after he hurt himself last week, I rushed him to the ER at 2 a.m. without a second thought, comforted him as he was treated, and am still taking care of him now, a week later. Maybe he thinks I'm sweet because of that....yea I slept with him too....Am I still a slut?????????


Actually nevermind, I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU THINK. you can call me whatever you want and think what you want. I know I'm not a slut. Yes, I can understand why these guys like me so much, and that I need to let them know my intentions...but sometimes I'm not sure what my intentions are... but does that justify calling me a slut and cold hearted snake and whore? NO.

So to everyone who put me down, I hope you can somewhat see my situation a little more clearly now, and stop making such terrbile accusations towards me. Oh, and fuck you.

 

Well, since you deleted your original post, which was completely different then your final post, we really have nothing to go by now do we? Nice job!

Your original post clearly sounded like a slut who slept with every guy she met. I'm not the only one that saw it that way either. Maybe it's you who needs to be a little more careful about how you post and then you won't have to worry about appearing like a cold hearted snake and major slut.

 

again: fuck you