Am I a magnet for saps?

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You have to make it clear that your not ready to move as fast as what ever guy you want to be with wants to, and tell the other guys your not interested, or tell them all your not interested, and don't live with him.

 

Leykis 101. Use the following rules:

No sex at your place. You go to their place, they never know where you live. And don't tell them.

Don't give out your number. Get theirs. If you want another hookup, you let them know on YOUR terms. If they want another hookup too damn bad.

Don't date. Coffee, dinner, but no movie, no dancing, no clubbing and definitely no meeting family (yours or his).

Don't hook up when you're drinking. You tend to lose control of the things you DON'T want to lose control of.

NO FBs!!! No FBs!!! No FBs!!! A fuck buddy is a good thing to have but when one of you decides it needs to go to the next level (and trust me here, one of you WILL) you lose a good friend and great sex. So don't.

Yes, I know, Tom Leykis is a chauvinist, misogynystic, arrogant, fat pile of pig shit. But he's funny and when it comes to getting laid without committment, he's RIGHT.

Edit (afterthought): Not having a relationship is like not getting pregnant; a little preparation and without a though it's really not a problem.

 

It's just....for a short time, I do like them alot and want to be with them, but it always fizzles out for me...not for them!

 

OK, then stop putting yourself in a situation that you know you will have to escape from later... i.e. if you don't drive into the city you will never get caught in traffic from the goddam Orioles-Red Sox game when 300,000 baseball fans try to leave Baltimore at the same time!

Yeah, I had a bad afternoon. But that doesn't mean you have to. Follow the rules and don't get married until you're 28 and don't have kids before you're 33 and life will be good.

 

hey Zoomie, I'm from Maryland! Eldersburg...it's near Westminster in Carroll County. Yea, you're right I do need to stop leading these poor boys on. I'm just a heartbreaker.

 

You're pretty cute which makes for a deadly combination. Slow down, have fun, keep your distance.

 

Stop Having Sex You Dumb Ho.

 

Zoomie:
OK, then stop putting yourself in a situation that you know you will have to escape from later... i.e. if you don't drive into the city you will never get caught in traffic from the goddam Orioles-Red Sox game when 300,000 baseball fans try to leave Baltimore at the same time!

Yeah, I had a bad afternoon. But that doesn't mean you have to. Follow the rules and don't get married until you're 28 and don't have kids before you're 33 and life will be good.


I'm sorry but that's not really advice in any way on this matter and even if it were I know waaay too many friends who had married at the ages of 18-25 and been married for 5+ years (Still continuing) and are very much more happy than people I know who married at ages 30+ and get divorced 1 year late.

 

As for replying to the original post.....what do you expect?
Your telling us that you indeed do like them and they like you. You have sex with them...which is the most intimate action any couple can do. From what your saying you also flirt with them. You are trying to force people to think a certain way, which goes against all the emotions that their feeling...., which I think is completely wrong. If you want to be single than just stay single and stop hooking up with a bunch of guys. It's not hard one bit..., heck I have the exact opposite problem. I would kill myself just to hear a gal say she likes me.

 

Lucky you. I can't seem to find someone who actually wants to be with me if my life depended on it.

 

That has happened to me a lot, and being a dude, I try to be somewhat understanding, and then disentangle from a less-than-ideal relationship. You gotta stay true to yourself and let them know that you aren't feeling it.

 

i have the same problem. and to qoute friends "Monica: Is it me? Is it like I have a beacon that only dogs and men with severe emotional problems can hear?"

i blame the men, they just cant resist nah just tell them at the start of the relationship that you dont want anythingt or serious or whatever

 

If you don't want them to fall for you, then maybe you need to realize that you have lead them on far too much, and instead of getting with them and using them (which is EXACTLY what you're doing, and you know it! ) perhaps you need to examine what it is that you DO want, more than what it is that you DON'T want. You don't want to be dating someone? Well, I hate to say it, but you can't run around fuckin' and foolin with people and still be single too. I just went through a similar problem with my ex, who always told me that every guy she ever dates falls in love with her, and she was really cautious about getting together because she was afraid I'd fall for her like all the rest. I told her I wouldn't, but you know what? We both fell for each other, but instead of being a hardass like she is, I just ignored the fact that the school year was ending and we had already agreed to see other people over the summer. She called me a few weeks ago and told me that she was now back together with this guy that she was bitching and moaning about (just like you are!) and she couldn't believe that he still liked her (although she was a virgin back then... till she fell for me when I almost couldn't stand her...). Now, I'm just as sick of her now as I was when she went off saying all the same shit you've been saying.

Clean up you own damn messes, and take some god damn responsibility!!! It's like this... don't wear a shirt with the phrase "I'm selling Pot" if you aren't prepared to get stopped by the police and searched multiple times! Don't carry guns into banks... Sure, you might have been down the street at the pawnshop and just got an antique hunting rifle, and you weren't driving a car to store it in, but that doesn't mean you can walk right into the bank and bitch to the police that the gun wasn't even loaded... You're gonna get yourself into some shit in either of those situations, so analogically speaking, what makes you think you're any different for making yourself so easy?

This is what I'm getting at, despite all the ugly things I'm saying about you: You need to figure out whether YOU honestly don't want a relationship, or whether that drive is coming from your ignorance or neglect to deal with your life in a responsible, justifiable manner. Drop whatever masks you hide behind... music, vices... whatever... and just look at who you are and what you have done, not with your mind, but with your heart. Your heart isn't rational. It's the irrational piece of our being (thus, it's physical location isn't even rational) that we use to mae choices about things that our mind will always sell us short on. Life, prosperity, future plans... what the hell do they mean if there's no love for yourself, your family, your friends, your occupation, and so on? You can live your life as a Cold Hard Bitch all you want, but don't worry... you will eventually get your desire... NO ONE will like you... life will pass you by... and you'll be a very sad, lonely woman... I don't know if that's what you desire as well, but it's what tends to happen to girls who live life recklessly. How many upstanding, or even half-way decent heartbreakers do you know who make it past the age of 20 in life and go on to succeed? It just doesn't happen... you get old, you get lonely, and you fall apart as your youth deteriorates and you turn into a huge, super mega queen bitch with sharp teeth in her cold, arid vagina. That would kinda suck, I imagine, so my advice to you is to quit running and hiding from what you've done. Fix yourself, fix your mistakes, and quit being a wishy-washy, indecisive little ho-bag! I mean that in the best way possible, but I hope you get the picture.... That's how you solve a fucking problem... be efficient, and stop looking for quick fixes in relationships.... being single just ain't gonna happen for most people... so try new guys out if you want, or maybe you like one of the other ones you're wrecked enough that you might want one of them... I don't really care... just quit whoring yourself out, and quit manipulating people to feel sorry for you, because no one I know really gives half a shit about a girl who sleeps around and has guys follow her wherever she goes... You ain't Mary, hun... ain't nobody made a damn movie called "Something About TheLittleOne".... You're whoever you are... you've earned these guys, so deal with them... they're your's.... I'm sorry to be such a mean bastard, but it's nothing compared to your attitude towards the love and affection of equal human beings... Men have feelings, get over yourself, and grow the fuck up!

 

If you want to hook up ,I promise I wont call again after

 

You are a major slut just like any guy doing the same thing!

Nothing difficult here. Guys are simple creatures, tell them you want sex and nothing more and that's exactly what you'll get. I suspect though that you enjoy playing these guys for fools. You aren't telling the whole truth here because that wouldn't serve your purpose of getting people to side with you.

Cold hearted snake is the best thing that comes to mind!

 

I think thats a brilliant description.

 

You know, I've been on this site for years....and never have I felt so insulted here. I'm going to leave this thread alone because clearly no one has anything remotely helpful to say, only hateful, ignorant comments.
You are all making terrible assumptions about me. You are all sickeningly judgemental. You are all mean spirited and hateful. Don't criticize me. You don't know me. Nothing you can say will personally bother me. The only thing that upsets me is that there are people as spiteful as yourselves out there....no respect....nothing...Only ugly things to say to a person YOU DON'T KNOW. I hope you're all happy with yourselves and your hateful dispositions.

 

Interesting twist this thread doth take....!

I don't agree with the harsh tone of some of the posts, but their are some good points amidst the animosity...

The main points are:
You are not getting much sympathy for your situation because->
1) Many people have a hard enough time finding people they are interested in, and then taking it to the level of sleeping with them
2) If you had been clear and direct with these guys, you wouldn't be dealing with this mess now - some part of you (unconscious or not) wanted these guys to fall in love with you, hence the whole not-telling-them-it's-just-a-hook-up thing. It's like giving a dog food, teasing the dog with the dog bowl and then walking out the door with the food and bowl never to come back to poor ol' lassie.
3) As for what to do, tell the guy you are living with that you are not interested in dating or hooking up .. be VERY clear and direct. Now call the guy that's moving and make sure he doesn't have unrealistic expectations: i.e. TELL HIM (again be very clear and direct) you are not interested in dating or hooking up and you were just having fun... . Now you did what you could do, and can move on. See how easy that is?

Good luck!

 

I've said it before and I'll say it again. Too many elitist assholes spoils the soup.

Some of you dickless wonders need to try a little tenderness.