a story and a really serious question...

ok I was just going to ask the Q, but I really want to tell someone and I don't know any one to tell...any way last night was the greatest day of my life, I really mean it I was in heaven. I'm so lucky, ok as you may remember I made a thread a few days ago about eating pussy any way yesterday we went to the beach, one thing lead to another it was dark so we went under the bored walk, now it kinda sucked BC it was on a slope, like how can I explain it ummm oh like the line on the Y so it was pretty steep slope it was hard to do any thing we were trying not to slide out from under there. but any way I started to eat her out and then she stopped me and took out the condom I have in my wallet (lol I had one in there not that I expected to do any thing, but just in case, any way she saw it like 3 week ago) and was like put this on and fuck me now lol I was like ok. so it was my first time, and hers to, so we did it at first she was going slow putting it in like just a little at a time, I really didn't mind, and she started to bleed. so after like 5 min she started to go faster and faster, ok so we did that for like 20 min, ok now here's the serious question I couldn't cum I don't know why it felt good, but I couldn't get the same feeling like I could cum or anything, I thought it was going to be easy bc earlier I was so hard from our little make out session like 2 hours before...finally she was like you cum yet. we need to go back to my house my mom will start to wonder where we are (it was kinda late), so I was just like yeah 1 more min, so I just acted like I did, the condom was some green color and it was kinda dark so she couldn't see if I did or not...but why couldn't I this happened like 2 weeks ago when she was giving me a hand job and sucking it at the same time but that time I at least got the feeling like I was about to but I just didn't. this is scaring me now is there something wrong with me? why cant I cum or anything? I mean when I jerk off I cum and stuff, but why cant I when she does it? please help someone? any advice?

 

Before that when did you cum? Maybe you just didn't have any left.

 

shit i wish i had this problem

 

I kinda have the same problem, but a bit different. I have never (in almost 25 years of being sexually active) came from a blowjob. Everything else I can do it fine, but I just can't from bj's. Once I'm inside everything is cool and I got control and all, but I guess I don't really have an answer. Maybe I'm uptight about cuming in my partners' mouth. So maybe you were uptight about something and can't relax enough. Like I think it'd be hard to under a boardwalk, which is just shy of in public... Maybe that's it?

 

What kinds of meds are you on? I was on one med that kept me from orgasming even after 2 or three hours. Even before that though, my first time was a lot like your first time, but I underestimated how much pain she was kinda goin' through. She was on top the whole time (I like that 'cause I'm lazy!), so she was in control of it all, and she did the exact same things it sounds like your lady did. She had to get back to her house, and we had been fooling around at my place for like 8 hours (the parents took my lil' bro to see a movie and they left us alone for like a whole day.... hmmm....). Anyways, I had that same problem... it was my first time and I couldn't cum for the life of me. Of course, I won't lie... the first few minutes after we got down to it, I coulda came my little heart out, but I have good control, and she seemed to really be enjoying herself, so I supressed myself. 25-30 mins later she had to hit the road, my folks were coming back, and I had to have dinner with my best friend and her mom like five minutes after my girlfriend at the time told me she couldn't take it anymore. I did the same thing you did bro, but I had to hit the road too, and buy the time I got to the restaraunt (my friend had an idea of what we were up to), I discovered what blue balls are for the first time. That was an hour of hell, so in the end, my former lady and I both ended up in pain. Don't worry about not cumming your first time, and I think that she'll be happy to just have even five minutes or less as long as you're happy in the end. The first few times are sketchy, but give it a few more goes and you'll be in heaven...

 

Dont worry, i know everyone acts like at first your going to come super fast and it'll slow down from then on, but I was like this sometimes at first too, over time as i got more relaxed it got better, some people need to learn controll, some need to learn how to enjoy themself, and some unfortunate people need both. Hopefully you'll get more chances, people pressure themselfs too much to get it perfect the first time. As time goes on you'll have more expeirience and probably better conditions.

 

sounds like stage fright. Try masturbating in front of her (with her masturbating infront of you if she's willing). On your own, you might want to try masturbating with a condom to get used to the sensation, to see if maybe that was the problem (because they do usually reduce sensation for guys)

 

fuckin condoms man ... like a wet sock .... not advocating unsafe sex or anything but since I'm only in long term relationships now anyway i can tell u condoms suck

 

yeh if you get in a long term relationship where you know its safe, and get her on birth controll pills, thats way better. Also it would help to be somewhere comfortable, and you'll be less nervous over time. So dont worry about it. And before you get down to it, spend some time enjoying that you have a beutiful woman, who you love, there you can touch and feel and look at, it really helps for both people.

 

Did you have the full sensations of an orgasm without producing semen, or did you fall short of experiencing the sensations of orgasm?

This is an important question, for if you experienced the former, then you're either very late in acheiving puberty or you're infertile -- not capable of producing semen.

An ex-boyfriend of mine (I'm bi) was infertile. He enjoyed the full sensations of orgasm, but simply couldn't ejaculate.

If, on the other hand, you're experiencing the latter -- falling short of the full sensations of orgasm -- then you share a problem that thousands of older men suffer from -- "performance anxiety." It could range from simple nervousness to erectile dysfunction.

At 17, you're much, much too young to have E.D. But it's not unusual to be a "late bloomer" in reaching puberty. I was a late bloomer; I didn't reach puberty until I was nearly 15.

The only way to know for sure is to see a doctor.

-- Skeeter

 

Hahaha.
<3

 

no I did get the sensations at all, but like I said when I jerk off I get it and I cum alot, but I just didn't get the feelings

 

Sorry to say it, but you can have erectile dysfunction for more reasons than just age factors. Certain pills, like some antidepressant SSRIs (lexapro, for one) can cause E.D. for a number of reasons. Others, like Trazodone, can cause you to maintain an erection for an unsafe amount of time which may require emergency surgery in order to let the blood flow out. Basically, you can have erectile disorders as soon as you can pop a boner... but most of the time younger people have other factors coming into play than the average old dude who just can't get it up. Delayed orgasm is a common side effect of a lot of prescription drugs, and can even be caused by other deficiencies in your body (blood disorders, diabetes... you name it!) The best trick I've ever heard is to eat garlic on a regular basis. It increases blood flow and also allows that blood circulation to carry sensory information to the brain much faster and clearer than without. This is why German men eat cooked garlic at cookouts when they drink together. It gets the alcohol to your brain faster and better!

Don't overdo it with the garlic tho, bro... Otherwise you might find yourself not having sex at all! Vinegar also works well, as well as smoking a lil' sativa to boot! You do all three of those in one night, I guarantee you'll have a perfectly standing soldier (funny how that's not your initial problem, but that's what everyone has been giving advice on... even me. Sorry.) as well as allow you to feel the sensations of sex a lot more than under other circumstances. If the condom is your issue (there is a certain life-style condom that has very thick rubber around the head... DON'T BUY THAT ONE!), then try switching from latex condoms to lambskin condoms. They work just as well (spermicide is a plus just like with the other one), and they tend to make a world of difference for many men out there. They do, however, tend to be slightly more expensive, but to me it's FAR worth the extra few cents! Give some of that shit a try, and call me in the morning. Just be sure you look for info on delayed orgasms or orgasms without ejaculation. Believe it or not, they do exist, but they are rare. Anyways, good luck gettin lucky!

 

nah thats not possible ur balls make a shit load of cum u can never run out unless u kno ur infertile or have some problem

 

I'm not taking any prescription drugs, well on a regular basis...I don't know about ed, bc like I never have a problem at all when I jerk off, I never had any problems at all, never? and I didn't have a problem getting hard at all, I just didn't feel any thing, like you know the feeling when you start to get ready to cum, leading up to the cuming...I really need to figure this out I'm going back on tue. and she was hinting around on the phone like she want to do something again...

 

try lambskin then, bro... and yeah.... practicing sex never made anybody worse (I hope)!

 

I did it, I figured out the problem...ok so I tryed again on tue. and I couldn't get up to the point of cuming again :-(, but then last night I figured out the problem, we started out like regular but after like 10 min. she was like you want to try the top, so I was like ok, and I did, and I finally got to point of orgasm, after like 5 min., and it felt so much better, I think the whole thing was she was on top every other time, and I guess she wasn't going at the right speed or motion, or something, I mean it still felt good when she did it, but I guess it wasn't the way that would get me to that point of orgasm, I guess I never had a problem jerking off bc I always did it how I liked it with the speed and every thing...so any way I was on top and every thing went great... not that anyone probably cares, just thought I'd say something bc you guys were giving me suggestions and stuff...

 

next time do it on a bed and you'll be fine.

 

yeah, I know...but the thing is the beach is really the only place we can. BC her mom is like always home and I mean always, I don't think I was evver there when she wasn't...I mean we are in my gf room, and the doors closed, and stuff, but her mom comes in once in a while to make sure were not doing anything, so we can't take that chance that she will come in or something, so it sucks. but I do get my car soon ;-)

 

I'm tempted to say "premature ejaculation," but I'm not a doctor. I recommend that you see a doctor about this.

-- Skeeter