A pissed off fed up rant

I'm so completely fucked off right now so I'm just going to vent,I appologize because I know this will sound very whiny and dramatic but here it is; I've been with my recent boyfriend for three months. I'm going to break up with him on Sunday because he never seems to be able find the time to be with me.He hasn't even had sex with me yet even though last weekend he had me near naked in his bed and completely at his disposal. We've fooled around and stuff but he tells me every time he orgasms with a woman it causes him pain. We had a big talk about it all and he said I'm completely amazing but he thinks maybe we should be friends cause he's finding it hard to have a girlfriend,his last one was three years ago.Then we ended up fooling around,he doesn't know what the hell he wants.I need to get away from him because I've fallen in love with him and I know the longer I prolong this the worse it'll be but I also don't think I can be friends with him right now,it's too hard.My real beef here is I rarely get on well enough with a bloke to get involved with him and whenever I do without fail he gets weird and leaves,but not before disclosing strong romantic feelings for me. My last ex for instance told me as we broke up that he loved me. I'd be fine if I knew it was a lack of attraction but it doesn't make sense to leave someone because you like or love them does it? Has anyone else encountered this before?GRRRRRRR!!!!!!!

 

yup

 

That he is gay was the first thing that came to my mind as well.

 

This is why women tend to really piss me off!

3 months and never finds time to be with you, yet you are still ready to have sex with him? Classic.. just classic! Bravo!

How the hell is this possible if you two are never together since he never finds time to be with you? Whatever!

I didn't even need to see this, Somehow I just knew.

 

hes gay... plain and simple... hard to face huh? If u think he isnt, then its ure duty to talk to him ureself... but... he is a flamer wether u like it or not... all the flags have been raised in the open

 

Oh, you're all full of bullshit! Just because he complains of experiencing pain while having intercourse with a girl doesn't necessarily make him gay. How the hell do ANY of you know that he's having intercourse with a guy -- unless, of course, you're all gay yourselves and have a very well-developed "gaydar?"

Unless -- and until -- he comes out of the closet, you all need to shut the fuck up. It's not for any of you to say whether he's gay or not; that's for him to determine for himself.

And the tone of your remarks make you sound like a bunch of homophobes. COOL IT!

-- Skeeter

 

I don't think you should worry about it. Unless you're like 70 years old, marquis_de_odd, you still have plenty of time to find love (or sex, whatever it is you are looking for). You should just dump him now, why are you waiting until Sunday????? ...then go buy a nice big vibrator and keep yourself happy until a better, hetero man comes along your way.

As for the disclosing of feelings as they break up with you, it's a shut-down defense. They are trying to let you down easy and not hurt your feelings so much by saying "hey, i don't want to be with you but that doesn't mean i don't still like you." Kinda like I still like some of my ex-boyfriends, but no way would I ever be with them again.


Werd.

 

He's gayer than Gay Jack McGay, mayor of Gayville and the winner of last year's Mr. Gay competition.

 

It takes one to know one, so unless you've got a very good "gaydar," shut the fuck up.

-- Skeeter

 

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Skeeter - not only has almost every one of my friends been gay, I call it weird when a guy says he feels pain when having sex "with a woman" - I could understand "at all" but the phrase "with a woman" to be odd. Either he's into himself a lot, guys or sheep but there's something wrong.

Either he's not into her at all, which is odd - why would he get her naked? Or --- he's HEAVILY IN DENIAL.

 

Shall I quote?

"We've fooled around and stuff but he tells me every time he orgasms with a woman it causes him pain."

WITH A WOMAN.

He doesn't rule out with himself or men or sheep. Just with women.

The man is a flaming pouf. Nothing wrong with it, but it would be nice if he was honest with himself and others, at least.

Luckily he's in England where that sort of thing is practically encouraged never mind tolerated. So unless he lives in some place like Moss Side why not admit it?

 

I didn't even consider that he might be gay.

 

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RE: seriously, if you care about the guy check out the physical possibilities before even entertaining the notion that he's gay

Did you fail hooked on Phonics?

He didn't say he found it painful AT ALL - just painful WITH A WOMAN.

This does not make sense. If there was some physical trip going on then he'd have problems with the solo situation, or the occasional guy.

Truth is the guy doesn't want to admit he goes up the down staircase.

 

Ask him if hes gay.

 

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Why ask him? It's obvious.

 

RE: definitely no reason i can see to insult someone for suggesting that physical causes of pain should be ruled out before psychological causes are explored. that's pretty standard

I don't think calling someone gay is an insult.

I also think it ludicrous that for some reason his bits are incompatible with women. I think it more likely he's lying through his teeth.

 

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