I dated someone for three years and we just broke up a month and a half ago. I was upset but am better now.... but he calls me and wants to get back together and calls me like five to ten times a day, emails me, etc. I don't respond and I don't want to talk to him because I will feel bad. I just need advice on how to tell him the fuck off for breaking my heart and that I don't ever want to be his friend.
Well I have told him I don't want to be with his friend. I don't want to be his friend because it is done and over with and I see no reason to try and confuse him or me. I just don't want to be sucked into what we were before.
Tell him you don't want to hear from him for at good long month at least (or longer, whatever you feel like). Or just tell him to fuck off. Any pent up anger? Release it on him. Tell him that him being that clingy is a huge turn off and verging on stalker-behaviour which really won't make you want him back
I suggest that you tell him, "Leave me alone, don't try to contact me." Explaining why you want him to leave you alone can be interpreted as a list of things that, if he fixes them, will win you back.
Should I just email him about leave me alone, don't contact me. I know if I do anything he will just obessively want to know why...
I feel your pain HIRO, cuz my ex keeps calling and trying to get back together with me as well, but I don't know how to tell him that I really don't wanna be with him anymore and plus he broke my heart as well, but I have fallen for someone else on the forums. He keeps wanting to work things out and all, but I keep telling him that I don't know what to do anymore. Sometimes you just gotta tell em what they wanna hear and then sometimes you just gotta hurt their feelings the way they hurt yours or close to it!
Yeah, just either talk to him in person or a letter or email or anything that you find easiest to say everything in. Say exactly what you feel and make it clear. It's odd, I can completely understand how he feels though, last year I had a full on obsession with my ex girlfriend and really wouldn't leave her alone. It's really hard when you feel like that too, you've got to bear that in mind. It is such a horrible feeling to still like somebody and know you don't have a chance anymore. But, I would have really benefitted from her coming up and just telling me to fuck off - it would have been a real slap round the face, but better than things being unclear and me jumping at anything that appeared like 'she could be hinting she still liked me' or something... Good luck Love, Sunny xxx
I understand how he feels because when he first broke up with me I was the same way. But this is verging on stalker. He called me last night at 12:10am and then again twice at 8:30, then came over and was ringing my doorbell. He leaves me "urgent" messages saying it is an "emergency" and that is worried about me.
I've been through this. the only thing that worked was absolute no contact. don't respond to anything. change numbers if you have to, take out a restraining order, if they show up at your house, don't answer the door, just call the police. he'll eventually learn it's a hopeless cause. when you take the call, answer the door, or whatever, you reopen communication... that's interpretted as an opportunity....
Well he came into my house just now after being out with a friend and left me a note and put a password on my computer. Called me 16 times today, left 7 voicemails, two text messages, pmed here and just won't get a hint. What am I suppose to do now?
how the fuck can he get into your house? CHANGE THE LOCKS! Eep, I wouldn't want an ex in my house even after we broke up amiable for at least a few days. Call the police and see what they require for a restraining order, get a video tape and set it up so they can see how often he harasses you, take pictures of stuff like that too.
I accidently left the door unlock when I went to get ice cream. Well I called the police and they called him and if he doesn't stop I am going to get a stalking order... I just want to have this drama go away.
