i am attracted to the opposite sex some times but other times im not. usually i want girls, but recently im feeling a little different. how will being bi change my life. if someone could help that would be great. peace and love
Honestly enough, being bisexual shouldn't change your life at all. You shouldn't worry about it; worry can inspire regret, which will make you feel guilty. Just go with the flow, explore what you feel like you need to explore; things will work themselves out.
i think it will change your life, for sure. i'm not bi but i know being gay changed my life, virtually from the first time i realised i was. it means lots of things: having to find the courage to be yourself, or the forebearance not to be; hearing 'fag' jokes from male 'friends'; joining in the straight bonhomie knowing u r different. that's the social side. being bi might mean u have more people to find attractive and more people can find u attractive and a potential lover or fuck buddy. these days u can find lots of other gay and bi people, and support and information is much better now than when i was growing up. how it effects u depends alot on your family too. if ur parents are cool, then no worries. if they aren't then that can be hard. it will be a journey...
All of that is true, too. It may change social aspects of your life and how you perceive them; but not you, directly. The toughest thing is to accept yourself and to be bold enough to let others know that that's who you are. I understand how you feel for the most part; I'm bi (and, not to mention, transgendered...). You're just going to have to make those leaps of faith when you tell people; but only if you are comfortable with all of the possible outcomes.
in my humbel opinion, bi is cool for girls, it is not cool for guys, in my humble opinion. based on the pure mechanics . . ..
it's my opinion that most people are bi. it's hard not to say all people are, because there are acceptions to almost all rules... including that there are acceptions to all rules. erhm... anyway, no matter how straight or gay someones is, unless they have some sort of "block" keeping them from it, sex is sex and sex is sexy. i get so confused and frustrated when people bitch and say shit like "blah blah blah there's no such thing as bi or kind of gay or mostly straight, you're one or the other" ... how incredibly unperceptive ... to say the least ... sooo i guess my point is, you're bi because you're human and probably have an 'open mind', at least sexually. i dunno what your social life is like so i can't hypothisize how "comming out" would impact it.
Has this only started recently? Give it a little time, at least a month and a half, before you consider yourself 'truly' bi. How much it will affect your life really depends on what kind of people you're around. Are you still living with your parents? Are they homophobes? Are any of your friends homophobic? I know that if your friends can't accept you for who you are then they aren't really worth your time, but still, losing a friend hurts nonetheless. Sorry about using the term homophobic, seeing as you're really bi, but a lot of homophobes are quite biphobic as well. If you really end up being bi (only you can be the judge of wether or not you're truly bi) before you come out considir what possible things it could lead to. Would your faimly disown you? Would you be shunned from the community? Seriously consider these factors. I know the closet can be hell, I was there for nearly two years, but still in some cases it's better to stay closeted. Not to mention, coming out can be very difficult. I'm bi-leaning-les, and have been completely open about it since March. I'm glad to live in an accepting community and to have a family and friends who are pretty much cool with it. No one even batted an eyelid over it when I came out. Anyways, the best of luck to you! I hope all goes well! If you need any advice or help, please, feel free to contact me!
i have considered myself Bi-in-Theory which to me simply means that i am attracted to the opposite sex and really would rather be with them(ze ladies zat is) but the theory part of it is that if i ever felt that kinda shit for a guy then maybe i would go for it....so i guess technically im bi but really not that much...
Follow your feelings, don't stick yourself with an etiquette until you'll don't know surely how are you in bi or homo clothes. You like a man? Right. You like a woman? Right. Anyway, you can't decide definitely if you're not sure, and you can't enforce yourself to find only a word that can describes your feelings for a person. Take your time, time will speak for you If you'll discover that you're homosexual I agree with who says that it will change your life, but it gotta be a good thing for you. Maybe will be a long road, but finally you'll find your equilibrium, I'm sure
I have no sexual pref. whatsoever. I am also curious when i will begin having leanings toward one or the other. To be honest, just thinking about any kind of sex is a turn on. Race, age, boys, girls, brother, sister, cats, dogs...It all turns me on. Don't get me wrong, I would not do all of that stuff, but it as fun to think about.
Who cares whether being bi is cool or not? Just be! What's cool is what you do about it. Be the most loving and compassionate person you can possibly be. Be the person who drives your partner absolutely wild. Learn as many ways of loving that you can. Be lots of fun in as many ways as possible (and no, I don't just mean sex) for the people around you. That is cool.
