A question for the Bi ppl out there...

hey all! Basically my situation is, since I've admitted that I'm Bi, I've lost almost all desire to be with the opposite sex. Even pictures, etc (not porn, just say, a picture of a cute guy or w/e) that I used to find exciting seem to do nothing for me anymore. So my question is, do you think that this is "normal"- could it just be because I denied myself the pleasure of looking at the same sex for so long? could this be leading to something bigger that I have yet to come to terms with about myself? Or maybe I just like women more? Has anyone else gone through this? I'd appreciate any feedback.
Peace & Love all!

 

There have been times that I lost attraction for the opposite sex. For me it was temporary & maybe even was related to other things that were going on in my life at the time. I think though that everyone has their own path on this. Think of how many people go through life thinking that they are hetero then figure out that they actually like their same sex better or the other way around.

I guess I would just keep my mind open & see where my soul leads me.

 

Well, personally i go through phases. There are times where i find guys only attractive (most of the time), and then there are times when i find girls only attractive. And times when i find both attractive. And what i mean by that is that i'll notice them more in the street, etc.. y'know...

i don't know your personal situation, but maybe because you've admitted to being bi, you feel more liberated and can appreciate women more to the point that you don't notice men as much..

uh i'm not making sense, i'll come back when i feel more coherent

 

yes 'thebirdhasflown' , i've gone threw it kinda... but when i came out i was still attracted to the oppisite sex and then gradually not like them as much like i'd try to like them and what not but i just dont feel the connection ... to me girls are so much sexier! lol but yeah so i guess its normal but i personally think you might want to concider if you are bi or full fledge lesbian... i in some ways concider myself lesbian, its just that i like one guy and yeah ... some other guys are cute i guess... but im not as attracted to them as i am girls .... so i'd say it's normal ... lol ... later!

 

thanks. Yea, this is really new to me. I'm honestly not sure which I am. I'm just not going to close any doors on myself right now.

 

yeah i can relate to what you said....sometimes i question whether i'm really bi or perhaps a "full fredge lesbian".....it varies, sometimes i fancy guys and feel very attracted to them, but i might meet a very nice chick and be really into her and forget all about boys..... i dont know its weird.

 

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When I came out (it sounds horrible) i found my boyfriend less attractive because I'd finally allowed myself to look at girls sexually. (I wasn't in denial or anything but I had to, in my head, label/call myself as bisexual before I could BE bisexual. A bit of a mindbender.) And cause it was new to me, and because it was such an exciting prospect, it dulled everything else a bit (made it a bit less exciting, I didn't want to do it as much). I see it like, when I'd come out, I was infatuated with girls, not anyone in particular, so I found girls more attractive than guys. 2 years later, I'll be infatuated with a person regardless of their gender, and I'll find that person more attractive than anyone else. If I don't have anyone in mind I don't know if I would like one gender more, I might...

To me, being bisexual isn't necessarily liking both sexes equally. It's liking both sexes, whether you have one male lover, then 15 female lovers... things don't have to be equal to be bi

Hope I've helped a lil

 

Hey,

Yeah I've gone through that too! I've only 'come out' as bi to about 2 people and I'm 17 years old. When I first, sort of, admitted to myself that I fancied girls as well, I spent a while JUST being attracted to females. But that kind of fades after a while and things start to balance out. I mean, if, where you live, there are more girls that are attractive to you, then of course, you are just going to lose a lot of attraction to the opposite sex, thats normal! But you just need to give it time. You may end up bisexual, but liking girls that little bit more than guys. You'll still be bi, but just have a stronger preference!

 

Well, when I talk about myself being bisexual, I talk about being able to fall in love with somebody's mind and spirit; not their body... So it's not really attraction to a specific sex to me.

 

Hey,

I came out on saturday night. Basically a week ago i ended up to stuff with a lesbian, I cant remember it though.. so drunk ..

I told a few of my friends and they were like maybe she drugged you, but i just admitted that the thought of it didnt freak me out, also that i have known ive been bi since i was like 15 or summit. So far they have all be cool about it, still to tell some ppl though.

Thing is im not sure if im actually bi, could be gay.. but im not sure.. its hard to explain.

 

i came out on saturday night.

basically a week ago i ened up up to stuff with a gay woman. cant remember it really, as i was really drunk. i have known her for quite a while right enough.

i told some of my friends on saturday that i have always thought i was bi.
they were cool about it, still to tell others though.

im not sure if im bi or gay but i think i might be bi, just dunno, dont wanna label myself really just now.