so i was with this guy and we did stuff for like 2 hours. and he called later and he told his friend that he dry humped me for 2 hours and his friend was like .. "and she just took it?" is that a badd thing? that i let him go for 2 hours... its not like i just sat their either...i did stuff to him but it was mostly him cause i wasnt to into it....so how bad is that? i asked the same question like 5 times... but anyway....another question... what are really good ways to get a guy off? liek your own little techniques? i never really know what to do.. thanks adious
So, if you weren't into it, why did you spend 2 hours with him going at you? The impression I get of the wording used ("he dry humped" & "she just took it?") is that they saw it as him being the one getting anything out of it, while you just sat there for his pleasure. Even if you were doing stuff to him & he was doing stuff to you, I've known plenty of men who get pleasure from just fingering a girl, so if you were there letting him play with you (whether or not you were also actively trying to please him in other ways) while you weren't into it, it could be seen as you just "taking it". In that sense, I see it as bad, only because the pleasure was not shared. Of course, that depends on the context of the relationship -- there are times when I fool around with my boyfriend when I'm not in the mood, but it evens out because he does the same for me. If you often focus on his pleasure despite you not being into it, but he rarely puts your needs ahead of his own, then you have an imbalance, which I would see as bad. If he is equally willing to spend hours pleasing you without getting much attention himself, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with your situation.
