me and my girlfriend are ready to have sex. we have talked about it and yeah.. so we've got a few questions 1. im going to wear a condom and shes not going to take the pill.. is this still ok? is it still effective? 2. im afraid of hurting her when i pop her cherry. how bad will it hurt her?(comparasions would be helpfull) 3. what is a good 1st time position to have sex in? 4. weve been dating for a year and really love eachother. do you think having sex can have negitive effects on our relationship? 5. when i pop her cherry is there goin to be any blood or anything?
yes wear a condom!! make sure you put it on correctly. If you put it on and dont leave a space at the tip it will break.. Yes the first time does hurt the gurl.. It feels like umm.. burning/stinging pressure, it feels like you are ripping.. it hurts alot. well it hurt me.. make sure you guys fore-play alot lol. use lube if you have to. missionary position would probably be a good starter position.. face to face (boy on top). Having sex can greatly affect your relationship..it can make you feel more connected to one another. I am assuming you are both virgins? Well correct me if im wrong. when you break her hymen it will most likely bleed a little. no big deal
Well I just have one thing to add, some chicks bleed more than other... One of my mates got his sheets totally ruined and bloody by some chick
It's great that you've both been mature enough to talk about it first. Just take your time, you don't have to rush, if anything it will hurt more if you try and do it quickly. Just keep talking and communicating with each other to see what feels nice and what doesn't. Having sex is a real learning curve, that's for sure.
Wearing a condom is a great idea.. It's not 100% safe from getting pregnant.. Secondly, if her hymen hasn't been broken already it will probably hurt, and like a bitch.. It 'could' have been broken from various things.. Go slowly, very slowly.. Make sure there's good communication.. Don't just start humping her though, like those dogs that cling to your leg.. My first time wasn't very painful, as my hymen broke several years earlier.. Now that hurt.. I bled very little.. Good luck!
1. yes by all means wear a condom. 2. no one knows, it depends. It didnt hurt me much at all, and there wasnt much blood. but for other people its very different. 3. i'd say you on top. maybe put a pillow under her butt. Do not hurry. 4. i do not think so, most likely it would improve it. but i do not know you. but please do something nice for her afterwards. In my case the guy behaved like nothing happened and i really felt used which i probably was. and good luck!!
asshole! Tho I have a kinda 'fun' story about that, that one of my friends told me... But I'm not going to tell it tho, I'm pretty sure most girls in here will freak and guys too
Just take it slow and be aware of what is going on. Pay attention to anything she says and if she looks like she's in pain, ask her. Way to go on the condom! Good luck and just have fun.
what do you mean "do somthing nice for her"? like what? like say thanks.. or buy her somthing. what do you mean?
Lyle, just don't ignore her, or act like nothing happened, you know? If this is a girl that really wants to be with you, and isn't just looking for a fuck, she wants to know that's how you are too...not just wanting to screw her and go onto screw someone else. And lol, say "thanx", haha. That's a good one. Hey, maybe that'll work on her! Maybe you should, I dunno, kiss her or something? You guys can have a make out session? lol. Or you could get her something to eat, butt naked in a maid's outfit??? hehe.
Just be there and hold her and kiss her and things. Don't just jump out of bed into the shower or something unless you make that a shower for two ;-) Love & Good Luck EnonEmouse
What you do immediately afterward is just as important as what you do the next day. Do something to remind her that you love her. A nice card, flowers ... whatever you're comfortable with to show her how you feel, that you're feelings haven't changed (except that maybe they're strengthened). This will mean much more to her than you can imagine.
I would feel patronized if someone bought me a gift after taking my virginity. Why don't you just continue to be how you always are with her and make sure to be there if she needs you. It saddens me very much how kids are mislead about sex these days. I mean there was a gradual shift in awareness over time, where a few years ago we were pretty straightforward and now we've gone about 50 backwards. wtf :$
Yeah, I wouldn't want a gift after having someone take my virginity.. To me, that's like 'here honey, I bought you this gift since you let me pop your cherry'.. Just be there for her.. Don't fuck her and then ignore her as if nothing happened.. Some girls like being held afterwards..
aww bring back memorys. at least you are talking about it and arent just planning to say wam bam thank you mamm. just go slow, make sure no one will walk in cause that is one of the most frustrating things ever believe me. turn the phone of, dont make a big thing about it as its your first time it wont be like it is in the movies it never is, just have fun and chill xxx
Oh, it's so lovely!!! Good luck!!! Ok, here are the answers: 1. She don't has to take pill. the condom is enough. 2. It's impossible not to hurt her. While putting think and listen to her. She will tell you when to stop and if she feels too much pain she will ask you to stop. Listen to her and do what she says, 'cause it's really painful and needs your control. 3. the best position for 1st sex is church position.. or how it is said. I mean when you are above, the classic position. 4. Having sex will be positive effect on your relationship if your only goal would be to please each-other. You must think of her pleasure while doing it, and she must think of yours. Sex is the next step of your relationship. it helps you both do be spiritually together. 5. Some girls have blood, some don't have. It depends on her skin. GOoD lUCk again !
I didn't specifically mean a gift, more like some sign of continued affection the next day (although a small gift could be nice, does not have to be expensive or anything, just something she might like). But if you are just there for her, and she sees that you still want to spend time with her, that's nice too... it seems like you care about her a lot, just try to go just a little bit further that day I'm sure you'll be fine. As for what to do right after, I think a shower together works best, if that is an option of course I am not sure what you mean... and what you mean by straightforward... If that's about me, I consider myself pretty straightforward
