Hey, i need help getting with this girl that i really like. I've never had a very serious relationship before and most of my get togethers with women are at parties, or 1 night stands. <----- I am a horible person for this i know, but i found some who i really like and its not like i just wanna have sex with her, i wanna talk to her and be with her. But im not really experienced in real relationships so i need some advice on how to let her know how i really feel(its really hard for me to tell people how i feel) without freaking her out.
Here's my advice. 1) Go get yourself a pound and a half of ice (frozen water, not drugs), about a gallon or two of cold water, a five gallon food grade bucket, a low-power taser, two razor blades, a dixie cup, some bleach, three yards of nylon rope, a pack of playing cards, two disposable cameras, a box of donut holes, a PNP tester, a box wrench, two tubes of Crazy glue and a nun's habit. 2) Approach the girl. 3) Show her all the items and say "er, excuse me what am I gonna do with all this stuff? or 2) Put the water in the ice, crazy glue on the nun's habit, tie yourself to a tree then have two friends alternately taser you and dunk your head in the water. When they pull you out, they'll ask you if you got the guts to talk to her yet. If you say no, they'll repeat the process.
We are friends, we've been hanging out i can talk to her, i just dont know how to tell her how i really feel. I wouldn't want to mess up our friendship. How do i bring it up with out it being wierd?
well how do you feel exactly and does she reciprocate those feelings? you see, some of these things happen unconsciously, so you should be able to notice if she likes you back.... i shouldn't be weird to tell her you like her or are fond of her, especially if she likes you back--is she down with you? i don't really know what it is that you're looking to tell her, so.... i guess it depends. if you're just trying to say "i like you" then you should just pick a good moment and say it sincerely. but if you're trying to tell her that you want to run train on her with your best bud and a whip in the back room then you might have to get some courage worked up.
Dude, if you're friends, why would you have a problem telling her you're friends? If you don't want it to get relationship-ish or physical, in other words you're friends, you won't threaten it by saying what's really obvious. "Hey! We're really great friends" What's wrong with this? What am I missing>?
Oh, I see. You are with this girl, you would like to get physical with her, but still be friends with her in the morning. Why not just say so? Say this: "Hey. I usually do one-night stands because I'm really uncomfortable with relationships. However I think you're worth trying to start a relationship with." She'll be so overjoyed she "won" you you're an item. And if not, there are other people you can be friends with. Let me put it this way. Imagine if a close male friend came on to you, and you said no. Would you stop talking to him if he didn't press the issue? No. Your only concern would be OK, is this guy going to continue to hold the torch, or can we just leave it at that and watch the game? The success of the backup plan (staying friends) depends on how you handle her answer, not in the setup of the question. K?
Goth your not getting this...at all. I brought up the fact that the only kind of relationship i really have ever had are purely physical. I dont think i've ever liked someone. This girl, who is my friend, i've grown rather fond of her. I want to tell her how i feel because i would like more than friend relationship with her. Not just for the sex, because i like being with her. Puprplegel - I sort of think that she sort of likes me, we talk on the phone quite a bit, we stayed up till 5 in the morning talking about stuff and we were both like wow, it seemed like 2 minutes. Sure we were high but thats besides the point lol. But im not quite sure if that means she likes me because as i've said before, im not experienced in this kind of relationship at all. So i should just tell her how i feel and see how it goes from there?
The Wind Cries Paul - No, I suggest you never talk to her about it at all, and try and use the collective psychic powers of the Internet to guide your future. OF COURSE TALK TO HER JESUS
here my friend, don't be a sissy go get her if it is a bust big deal she is not the last girl on earth. it if works hell ya, the key to all of this is to care but not really care to much no girl like a really careing guy, that is lame. good luck big guy and remember don't be a sissy but don't be a jerk be in the middle
