I don't know if many of you find this, but a lot of people I seem to meet or have met in the past have no depth to them. It's like you start talking to them and you try to show an interest and all they can talk about is the god damn weather or some other small talk and if you ask a general question, all you get is a brief answer and they don't elaborate. It's like these people have to put up a stupid barrier all the time. Why??? Ok, we all have certain things in our lives that we may only want to share with very close friends. I get that. But why do some people have to hide behind this "mask" the whole time. I personally feel I'm very open-minded, non judgemental, sociable individual (who's not an in yer face type) who will talk about anything as long as I'm comfortable with whoever it is I'm talking to. Even if I'm talking to someone I've only just met and am trying to find a comfort level, I may not divulge my life story, but I'll atleast spent a bit of time trying to get to know them. Beats me....
it's because people have become conditioned to give these lukewarm on the surface answers.............me bets that these folks were probably at one time a little deeper, but were judged by people who picked apart their deeper more meaningful answers, or were criticized by people because of their deeper opinions.......Hey, I lived near Lubbock Texas when I was a kid.........used to go to Southplains mall all the time, is the Brittany restaurant still there? Carly
Carly, I think you could have a point there. Some people are so judgemental. For instance if you were to give your opinion in a nice way on a subject or simply make a comment and it's like one word out of place and they judge you. People I went to school with were like that. The type of people you get depends on where you go. Just recently I was on holiday in Spain and I met such a bunch of nice, open-minded people (different nationalities) who took me as I was. They couldn't care less what I did for a living or what my father does for a living e.t.c. I felt I could have a good conversation with these people. What you see is what you get.
i know a lot of people like that. i try not to be as open as possible, because for the most part im cool with telling anyone anything....im trying to a date a girl who has depth but refuses to show it to me. our relationship is so boring and on the surface type shit all the time.... i also know a kid who is waaaaaay too into drinking and drugs to actually have a personality. his life revolved around it so he doesnt actually have any real opinions or.....feelings. its kind of pointless to know him because you dont really get anything out of him, except maybe some cheap weed...
I have a friend like that, but I recognize the depth he has. One time when he was opiated, he got into a convo with me and two other people where upon we decided that nothing in life was absolute because all it was was a perception; it could mean many different things to many different people. Nobody will experience one thing exactly like another... You just have to get into these people's heads; they may not show you their depth, but it exists. Some people just loose it all together because they are afraid of what others might think of them.
it may be a cultural thing. I have travelled to other countries where people relate to each other more than they do in the states. maybe it is because people here watch so much t.v. their brains are so numb that they can't think enough to take a concern about what is going on about them
in the glass menagerie, the character tom said something like 'people go to the movies to sit in a dark room and watch other people live their adventures and lives for them. its easier because they just sit there, but i want my own adventures' something like that...reminds me of how numb people here really are.. i do notice how shallow many people are in their convos...im with my friends and were talking about religion or politics or something to get us thinking and sometimes were like "i wonder what other ppl our age are talking about...probly tv or shoes or something" i want the person who will discuss the theory of relativity with me in a bar
i agree with u all...This year i have started to think a lot about deep things that my classmates don´t think about, and i can´t speak about this with them because i know they will just give a really short opinion without thinking about the subject and then they will start to speak about the weekened or something like that... anyway, there´s a girl who always listens to me and try to think about that, i don´t know if she gets bored of me, but at least i made a person thinK!!
