Okay so this is my favorite place to think things out and vent (and here ya'lls' opinions) so here goes: So tonight I was super bummed out~~ I met this guy at a bar (yikes, i know haha) but he's lived right down the road from me for years and I always thought he was cute and wanted to get to know him, just never had the chance. Sooo five drinks later he and I are totally into each other ya know? And we ended up spending the night together and it was just wonderful. So we met up again the other day and were going to go camping but didn't because we had severe thunderstorms, so we just chilled out and watched movies and got a lil tipsy.We were so comfortable with each other, it was great....And again I thought we had an awesome time, we talked and cuddled all night and had some *great* sex. But now I haven't heard from him since, and it's making me quite depressed. He is totally different from me and I had a feeling that might make a difference in his view of me in the long run... like I think he may have just noticed I am natural and don't shave and all of that good stuff hehe, and he seems like the type who would be shallow and think that's "disgusting" or what have you, or at least let himself be influenced by all his preppy friends who think that. Now, I feel just cheapened by something that I thought was kinda on the magical side... grrr.... Why couldn't he at least talk to me instead of just not calling me back? I would much rather hear something along the lines of "I'm not ready for this or your not really my type" instead of nothing at all ya know??? It's so frustrating, but I guess this is what I get for letting myself come across as easy. damn..... and fuck shallow guys who can't respect natural women and appreciate kyndess, I bet he's chasing after some young hot preppy girl now and that's why he's ditched me... bah....
Aww babe I know what you mean, I was seeing this guy who was always distant.. and when I asked him, he'd change for a little while and then go back to ignoring me. I felt like screamin "If youre done chewing me up, could you at least spit me out" Sometimes its nicer to be told to fuck off than to be strung along
why does this have to turn into a 'Guys do this' and 'Girls do that' argument, being a rude fucking jerk is not gender biased.
i always wanted to be told to go fuck off than be strung along, but i guess it is just easier to string someone along.
no shit, these forums are gettign awful for gender-based prejudice, bitching and flaming. GAh. Anyways, I feel sorry for ya hun, but think of it this way - at least you didn't get into a genuine relationship with someone who's willing to treat you like this. There are plenty of other fish, ones who will appreciate you for who you are and not string you along like an ass
Yep. You got it in one. There were, no doubt, plenty nice, sensitive dudes around who, again, probably checked you out that evening, but you were drawn like a magnet to the asshole, and that's what he was, of course (although you can 'flower' him up in your description all you want).......... who used you for sex..........and you know it, and you KNEW it at the time. And you now complain?!?!?!? You had great sex, which some wuss would not have given you, so let's not come over all poor, Miss-Treated-Badly-By Uncaring-Man, eh?art Whether we like it or not, there ARE crucial gender differences, and women are every single bit as flawed as men. Just take a check through a load of old posts, Toots. A pattern emerges of the 'why do women like jerks', and the 'no, we don't. honest' insincere replies from chicks who believe it is their own little secret that they are drawn to such men. You could have had plenty guys who would have treat you with respect, but that wasn't - and isn't - what you want, now, is it? As an old asshole myself, I KNOW you just love us, and I don't mind that one bit. What I DO mind, though, is how you bust the balls of all the poor, lovely, nice, ''just friends' type of guys that you could easily put an 'edge' on, with a little effort and imagination on your part, but you choose to vainly try and take the 'edge' of the assholes, hoping you'll change them, get them to be caring, and all that crap. Well, you won't.........and you don't really want to, either, do you???
wow, first off there weren't plenty of nice sensitive dudes checking me out that evening and if there had been I surely would have given one a chance. Secondly, he never came across as anything but nice so I don't understand where you come across saying I just wanted to an asshole or what have you. Also I'm not looking to change anyone. I was fine with who he was, I was just completely unsuspecting that he could ditch me so cooly....Eh, I think you have me pegged completely wrong.
Possibly.....and if so I apologise. However, I put it to you that your attraction to him was that here was some dude who wasn't wishy washy or unsure of himself. Yeah? Assholes do not come up to a woman and say, 'Hey, I'm an asshole, I'm gonna give you 'one', then not even bother to contact you anymore.' They are masters at appearing to be exactly what woman want on that crucial first impression, but I belive that if you are being honest with yourself , your gut instinct told you he was not exactly long term material, shall we say. Woman know this by instinct or 'intution'. The best assholes are charmers....until they have got what they wanted!
