Girlfriend's Sexual Past

Every once in a while I find myself obsessed with my gf's sexual past. She has had sex with only two guys, but given blowjobs to four. Out of the four, I know she swallowed two.

Sometimes I get turned on about my gf being 'naughty' and I want to ask her more detailed questions, to which she seldom gives any answers. Since I'll never meet these guys she swallowed, for instance, I don't really get jealous. But I have told her (once) that it turned me on thinking about a guy cumming in her mouth.

However, there is one guy she is still friends with, and she sucked him off at least once, but never swallowed. I just met him recently this weekend at a wedding and I found myself being pissed off when she talked with him--knowing full well that his dick has been in my gf's mouth. At the same time, I WANT TO KNOW more, where they did it, how she did it, when, etc.?

Do other guys think about this stuff? For the girls, do you sometimes keep things to yourself about your sexual past for this simple reason, cuz you'll find that your boyfriend will be obsessing about this shit? Is it a turn on/turn off for a girl to talk about her sexual past?

 

It's none of your business. Her past is her past unless it contains something you NEED to know. You can't change it so get over it or move on. Don't dwell on things that already happened. Spend your time enjoying that this girl is now with you- not wondering where she's been.

 

I think you misunderstood Heady Moe


i have been turned on by hearing girlfriends experiences before.

I've never harrassed one to tell me, but I've enjoyed some stories from time to time.

 

read the 3rd paragraph- he got upset. In any case even if it turns him on, if she doesn't want to tell him, she doesn't have to.

I personally would be a little freaked if someone asked me to tell in detail a past sexual encounter.

 

ohh yea, the third paragraph when instinct took control of him

Its never bothered me to hear old sexual stories.

 

Dude, her past is none of your business.

So long as she has no kids or infections don't sweat it.

 

I guess I know it would make me jealous so I wouldn't want to know anything I don't have to!

 

theres some stuff i'd never talk about to my significant other, just cuz yea, they'd obsess over it.. and its useless..
and really, i think girls dont see thexual performance the same way guys do..
i kno that guys dont believe it but if im with someone and i really love them, no one can be half as good as them, i place them above everyone else.. so they dont have to compare themselves with other pple all the time cuz anyway they're always the best in my eyes

 

quote: would make me jealous

Maybe a slight feeling of jealousy is what makes it hot

 

That's because the men "perform"

 

Actually it can be quite important to know what your g/f has done in her past cause of possible STD's.

 

hehe, my babe was a virgin when I got her, so not much to tell there... But as I see it all my girlfriends were 'innocent' when we hooked up

 

I would feel so uncomfortable if my partner started asking me detailed questions about my past sexual experiences, and I wouldn't want to know about his past experiences either, mostly coz I don't want to think about him with any other girls but also coz it's totally irrelevant. It's all in the past, I'd rather focus on the present and on him.

Don't force her to talk about it, if she feels uncomfortable. Like others have said already, it's really none of your business.

I totally agree.

 

If my girlfriends/boyfriends talk about their sexual past, it doesn't turn me on or off, its just like an ordinary conversation. I don't usually ask much though, just general questions like how many people they've had sex with and thats it.
Everyone gets turned on by different things and by the sounds of it, its not your girlfriends sexual past, its just the acts, like you think its hot to think about a guy cumming in her mouth, but it isn't the fact that she actually did it, its that thought of it that turns you on. As long as you don't get jealous, its all good, I mean, your girlfriend is with you now, she's not going to suddenly pounce on this guy and start sucking him off lol!
It seems to work the same way as dirty talk, so I don't think you're obbsessing, I think you want to try talking dirty to each other and see how you get on with that.

 

Apollo, don't feel bad. Occasionally I still think about how my husband had been sexually intimate with women prior to being with me. I know more about those women he has been with than most girlfriends would ever have known, I'm talking major details because my husband and I were best friends before we even started dating. I've only been with him, so I have no sexual past.


The thing is, what's in the past, is in the past. There is no point in obsessing over it, because it will only cause you to stress, provoke feelings of jealousy and/or insecurity, and it will take away from just enjoying being with her. Look at it this way. These encounters happened BEFORE you. That means, you weren't even in the picture yet. Maybe, had she met you first, it would have changed things, but because it didn't happen that way, you just have to look forward, not backward. She's with you right now. That's all that really matters.

 

You've just gotta accept that there will be people that have come before you, in most relationships that you experience. Just forget about it and enjoy being with your girlfriend and making a future for yourselves.

 

Does anyone else get turned on by hearing stories bout their significant other's past? You talk about it in bed?

It doesn't always turn me on, but when I'm in the mood for it, I'd like for her to volunteer more details. The guys that I'll never meet I don't mind her telling me about. The thing is, my girlfriend has had very limited experience, but she has some done stuff, so because of that it even turns me on more to hear about what she has done.

And, yes, when I'm in the mood, it turns me on thinking about her sucking off an ex-boyfriend and him cumming in her throat and her swallowing it.

 

Dear Apollo,
I understand what you feel. You just wish yourself to be the first for her You are curious about her past, you annoy about her exprience.. -just because you want to be the first. Do you have girfriends earlier, who weren't virgins? If yes - then it means you love the one you have now really; if no -it also proves what I said: Earlier ones were virgins and now you can't live with it, that your gf had boys before you.
Or maybe you don't have girls before her? - everything you answer will say that you want her to be unexperienced in sexual relationships.

But just because she has sexual past, as written above many times you musn't look backward but forward.
Good Luck!

 

I don't get it, when I'm in the mood I think about her sucking me, and that turns me on... Maybe picture her in lesbian sex but never with an other guy, I don't let other guys into my fantasies

 

A couple of years back I had a girlfriend who didn't mind sharing her past with me. Our relationship was very sexual, and to know past sexual experiences seemed to turn both her an me on. She had been together with one guy, and didn't mind telling me details about places and positions. After we had broken up a year later, we kept in touch through email. She kept telling me about her new sexual relations, and it really turned me on. She told me about one vacationtrip she had with a female friend, where she descibed in detail how she had sexual intercourse and oral with different guys. She even send me some pics of the trip, and one with her and the guy she fucked. I didn't feel jealous or anything, but I felt horny thinking about her and them... Just sharing my thoughts...