my girlfreind of two and a half years after cheating on me twice is now involved with this new guy and has moved on. ive been out with a few different girls but i end up having sex with them all and i really dont want that. but at the same time i dont want to even try to have a relationship with someone else coz i seriously arnt ready. but its so cold at night and i miss having another person to be with. and everything seems so boring. i try to go out and have fun and i have been having heaps of late wild nights and things but it never amounts to much. i know if i put in effort i could get a new girl easily but i just dont want it. i dont know what im trying to say or ask here. but im so depressed from it all. nice guys finish last when they go out with a girl who cheats on every guy she ever has. hmmm.
listen, don't take it personally that your gf cheated on you, espescially if she does this repeatedly. Some people get some sort of rush from doing this, and regardless of who they are supposedly "committed" to, they will do it over and over again. I know it seems impossible to not take personally, but it really was more likely her being messed up then you. Its hard to move on from heart break. But before you try to get into another relationship, you must let go of her. Letting go is hard to do, I would reccomend Yoga. Honestly its sooooo good for you, and hey you might meet a cute lady. Go out and do things that are good for you, try to heal. If you put your self in positive environments, hopefully you will meet more positive people. And learn from this, don't date women who cheat on everyone.
I am on the mend also. The thing is, its easy to go out partying and stuff and meet girls, but they are not the type of girls to settle down with. They tend to be a bit to loose and easy. I happen to be looking for someone to settle down with, and it is very hard to find someone for that, especally in the partying scene. So, quit trying to meet girls that way because it almost always ends leaving you feeling empty and alone.
Well, you have the comfort of knowing that society considers you inadequate and that's why she strayed.
well i know im better than the guys she has cheated on me with. at least that's something i guess. and one day ill find someone who appreciates what i do for them.
Nice guys don't finish last, they aren't even in the race, dude! You can learn the hard way or the easy way. You attracted that girl in the first place, and you are wiser and more experienced, now, so don't feel sorry for yourself ,because that comes across when you're out and about, and women can SMELL desperation, feeling sorry and needy in a man a mile off. You'll be fine, just go out and be yourself and women will turn up in your life when the time is right.
It sounds to me like you got everything under control.. Your not ready for another relationship.. Thats fine... And its okay to feel sad and lonely... It sucks that she cheated on you... Take it all in your own time
just my 2 cents I'd imagine it can't be good for either of you to discuss your feelings somewhat passive aggressively back and forth between each other on a public forum.
Keep your head up. Be strong. You will make it!!! What you are missing is companionship, which is common. Do things that make you happy. Occupy your time with a hobby. Start a journal or just talk about your feelings. Try not to let your feelings buildup inside. You will be allright.
You still 'feel' for this girl, though, despite the fact - surprise, surprise - she found the assholes more attractive and played away from home, despite the fact that - as you say - you are probably worth 3 of them put together. She cocked, up, mate, not you. You're only crime was probably being a decent enough dude, and she got bored with kindness and consideration and found the temptation of the bad boys ('women speak' for assholes) hard to ignore. The good news is almost certainly by now she KNOWS she cocked it up,....though won't admit it, of course, being a woman, but that mistake'll smoulder inside for quite some to time to come, I'll bet. Forget all feelings you had for her, and be ANGRY. You have every right to be so, and realise her treachery for what it is. Don't be friends with her or any of that crap. Get yourself a better looking, more intelligent woman, and you will feel a whole lot better....especially when you bump into the ex in the street! The asshole(s) will tire of her soon enough.....and she KNOWS that, too. That will be small comfort, though, and I hope you're not dumb enough to have her back, either, mate.
