Just curious, Did anyone see that Oprah show where all of the men were on there talking about the affairs they have had. I saw it and I really wish I hadn't. It was very depressing and I can't get it out of my mind. I've always had great trust for my boyfriend and always believed that he would never cheat on me. We've discussed and he says he is just not that kind of person. I believe him. I don't think that he would ever go out and look for another relationship. The problem is that on the show, none of those men were looking for other relationships either. It just happened. They said they were perfectly happy in their marriages and then someone started showing them attention and things went from there. The thing that bothered me most is one man who said (I'm paraphrasing, but pretty much this is it) "If someone had asked me a month before I met this girl if I would cheat on my wife, I would tell them no way not in a million years, and I would mean it, I'm not that kind of guy, and I have self control. But I never saw it coming, and by the time I realized what was happening (meaning his emotions, falling in love with her) it was too late, we had already crossed a line". Anyway this show has really upset me and I'm wondering if anyone has any advice. See, coupled with this show, I've never met a man who hasn't cheated on his partner. My father, every man that I have known. I really did have it in my mind that there could possibly be some good guys left and I know I have one, but then I can't help but wonder if 10 years down the road when we are doing the daily things like taking care of the kids and the house, and some woman comes along and pays some attention to him that I might not be able to give at the moment, that he will just fall for her and break my heart. I feel really bad about doubting my boyfriend for no reason at all, but I almost feel like I can't help it. The men on the show said it could happen to anyone, and that most men, if not all of them cheat. It just makes me wonder what the fuck is the point then. I can't go through life feeling this way, so I'm hoping someone can help me understand or feel a little bit better about this. A stupid show shouldn't be able to get into my head like this. I feel like I'm going crazy.
I also tuned into this show. Sadly this is the case a lot of times. To me these men have NO morals at all. Personally speaking, I would NEVER EVER EVER cheat on my wife/girlfriend. If a woman comes onto me, the answer is "sorry, I'm with someone who I would never do that to. Please go away." I don't understand guys *and a lot of women as well*. If you are in a committed relationship with mutual feelings of love for one another, where does the need to have a quick fuck with another person come in? Why are you even with them in the first place if you're going to fuck around on them? To me these things don't just "happen." Theres a word you can use to avoid fucking up everything, one little word: "NO" There, is that so hard to say? You use it everyday, multiple times a day. A simple NO and everything is solved. Any person who cheats has no respect for their partner, and never did. Why would you betray someone who loves you? :sorry for the rant, but I get REALLY pissed when I think about people cheating on their wives/husbands.
Thanks Small Brown, I was hoping to get more input. I used to feel as you do, that it can't possibly be that hard to say no, and if you really loved someone, you wouldn't cheat on them. But after seeing that show, it made me wonder if that is true. I couldn't figure out if they were just guilty because what they did was wrong or if they really did not want to hurt their wives and got caught up in the moment. I don't know, maybe I'm just buying into exactly what they want me to so that they can get away with it. Maybe I understand because I have cheated (on my ex, whom I did NOT love) before. All I know is that I feel badly right now for not trusting my boyfriend when he has never ever in a million years given me a reason not to trust him. And I know everyone will jump on my case and say you have to talk to each other and all of that happy horseshit, but let me tell you how insecure that makes one look when they say things like this when there is no reason for it. And I do know if you start accusing people of things that they are not doing, and you show that you do not trust them, that it deteriorates a relationship. So I don't really want to open that can of worms. Jeremy hates it when I act insecure. I just really want to get this story out of my head. I want people to tell me that it isn't true and that these men were just making excuses and that there are plenty of good men out there, and that I probably have one. Oh well, I'll get over it. Just which i had a little reassurance.
I tend not to watch shows like this because of the effect is has had on you! No matter how trusting you are it puts ideas into your head.
My answer is simple: Never again watch that man-hating bitch Oprah.All she does is brainwash people with one sided lies about men and contributes to the confusion among the sexes and creates more failing relationships in the world.Sorry, for my angry rant. ~peace & love
women cheat just as often but for different reasons. men cheat because they're not physicaly fulfilled while women cheat because they're not emotionaly fulfilled. i never understood how one could cheat untill i became emotionaly unfulfilled. but having my boyfriend not call me back after i left 3 messages, having an earthquake this morning and having him talk to someone for the past hour instaed of me when he knows that a year ago this was the worst day of my life after i broke up with a man who cares deeply about me to get back together with him after we broke up from his neglect leaves me with a pretty good understanding of how one could cheat because i know if i got the right call or setiment that he isn't giving me right now i would be out my front door in a heart beat. and honestly who could blame me? i need to talk and once again hes not there so how could anyone blame me for talking to someone who cares when he doesnt? cheating isn't always black and white there's a huge grey area.
haha, what are your thoughts on Dr. Phil... Im gonna agree with lyns with women cheat just about as much as men do.. you cant worry your whole entire life if your partner is going to cheat on you, that will ruin your life and or your relationship... if he cheats he cheats, you move on.. I have been cheated on but there were signs and i just choose to ignore them which was my own fault.. even though ive been cheated on about twice, i know that every guy i date isnt a cheater and doesnt make me mistrust them or anything..that would probably ruin my life and any chance i had with a great person...i have no idea where i was going with this, sorry
Isn't cheating interesting? When a man cheats on a relationship, he's a bastard and a scumbag. He's a man of little or no morals, and he's vile and should be castrated, kicked to the curb, shot in the back of the head, cut into little pieces, the little pieces should be put into a blender and pureed and then poured onto the ground to be urinated on. The woman in the relationship should be cuddled, reassured, made to feel it wasn't her fault and fed tons of cake and ice cream. (While living in his house on his money after the divorce lawyers are done) When a woman cheats on a relationship, ooh, sassy! Exciting! (Think about that Latina one from Desperate Housewives) It's obvious that the man isn't "doing it for her" and poor her she's totally unfulfilled and unhappy - what an uplifting and empowering thing! The man? A cuckold and a loser HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA
