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my life

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by liivvewire, Jun 21, 2004.

  1. liivvewire

    liivvewire Member

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    Hi

    I think I have a really serious problem.I met my first boyfriend 9 years ago.We had a 6 years relationships. However his mom never approved of it and one day i couldnt take it anymore. All this was in India. 3 years back, I then got admitted to a Masters program and have been here in the US since then. I dated quite a bit and a year back I met someone who is a really nice guy. But he is a student too and we have a never ending struggle to meet our expenses. It might take another 5 years for both of us to be really settled. My first boyfriend kind of knows about my whereabouts and what I am doing. He still loves me a lot. He is doing really well in life. My mother informed me that he misses me a lot and wants to get back with me. I have these wierd feelings every day. I am confused as to what to do. If I stay here, I have these endless struggles. But if I go home, I get an easy life and also love. But then I dont want to be so unfair to my current guy. I dont want to think about my first boyfriend just because I feel I am thinking of getting back with him because of all the struggles with my current guy. What do I do? I am not sure whether I am missing him or is it just the lure of an easy life.:confused:
    Please advice
     
    liivvewire, Jun 21, 2004
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  3. Geth

    Geth Member

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    Well if this is about love then you should follow your heart and be with whoever you love the most. But your first boyfriend could give you a comfortable life... I dunno it really seems like something that you need to decide on your own
     
    Geth, Jun 21, 2004
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  5. a feeling of wierdne

    a feeling of wierdne Member

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    Take a break. Why not, its your life. You have struggles and what not, thats supposedly what "life" is. Why not just take a break? Move some place and get an apartment. Just take some time to reconnect with purpose. If they both love ya than that love will still be there when you make your decision. Don't be so hard on yourself. I've been in a lot of trouble and those situations suck. The only thing ive found is that things are only as hard as you make them out to be. Hope this helped...

    wierdness...
     
    a feeling of wierdne, Jun 21, 2004
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