i'd say i'm almost to the point where i wanna give up looking for a gf. i don't know if it's girls in the midwest or just girls in general, but most of the chicks i run into in my hometown they either want some ignorant fake gangster or a rich boy. it's almost seems like materialism is more important to them then personality or wisdom. i consider myself an attractive/intelligent guy. everyday i feel myself delving deeper into nihilism. i do recall one day when my english teacher told me in order to get a friend/gf you have to be a friend. this may sound a little pessimistic, but I feel what good is socializing and being nice when u get nothing in return.
It's really cliche, but the point at which I finally find a gf was when I just completely gave up, and stopped trying.
trotsky, thats a good point. I'd say don't worry so much about gettnig a girlfriend. it sounds like you'd settle for anyone, and girls like to be thought of special. If you find one girl you really like, and not just for a girlfriend, but for a partner, friend, love, then focus a lot of attention on her. if shes shallow, then shes not a very good pick
Yes a lot of girls seem to be like that. A lot of girls care more about a boys looks and wealth then their intelligence and personality. Gilrs tend to go for "bad guys," or guys they know are a challenge to have. Im sorry you feel bad about all of this but you really shouldnt, becuase half of those girls would probably be sucky girlfriends anyways. Youll find your girl eventualy. And as for what your teacher said shes half right. Its good to get to know a girl and be friendly but if she ends up leading you on and telling you she isnt interested in you it really is a waste of your time... Dont let it worry you.
Agree! You'll never find anyone when you're actually looking. I think it's something to do with the way you behave when you're after a partner. I found that when I'm not looking I seem to have a different way of tallking to guys.....more natural I guess and less "trying too hard", lol. I know there's a lot of shallow and superficial people out there, but could it be that you tend to go for women that just tend to be like that and ignore the nice ones? Maybe because they're not as hot, or as confident? Just something to think about. Maybe you are the one who goes for looks rather than personality.
You've gotten really good advice already. I think,the more you look for something,the less you will find...or you will find something,but later realize it wasn't what you wanted. You have to be chill about it. Make friends with girls,with just the intentions of being friends with them. You'll be more relaxed and your true personality will shine through. Not to mention,having female friends is good for guys. You'll learn alot from them and you will most likely meet other girls through them. May even hook you up with their friends,since they think you're a good guy. Joker,you're a cool guy,from what I know about you. And you're damn fine,judging by the pic in your sig. Don't worry about it,it will come to you.
You're only 19... When I was 19 I hadn't had any boyfriends at all. I wasn't considered popular at school because I was a bit alternative. I had my first relationship when I was 22. I've always gone for intellectual men rather than looks. You've got to be able to talk to them too... Same goes for girls. You are better off without any of those shallow brainless girls anyway. You'll find someone who will be worth the wait!
joker, your profile says you live in KC, try checkin out westport. there's a lot of cool little coffee shops and clubs down there, probably some girls you'd like. and if that's you playin the guitar in your sig, bring that with ya. find a girl who digs your tunes.
i dont know about how girls always go for the fake gangster or rich boy, i dont, i go for the laid back guys haha. Usually like hippies or stoners haha. I cant go out w/ a rich boy or like the preppy guys or jocks. It just doesnt work w/ me. I wouldnt worry about it. Just let her come to you i guess. Dont try too hard and when you do kind of go out w/ her dont like call her 5 times a days or wonder were shes with and who shes with, she may not like that.
i feel you man, good nice girls are hard to find now days. i dont really give a fuck anymore, i just take my pussy as it comes. i know i'll never find a girl who i actually like and have shit in common with so i just say fuck it and keep on smashing what i can
